Bridesmaid Dresses

No, all of my girls paid for their own dresses. I am gifting them either hair or makeup on the wedding day, but that isn't required either. That is part of accepting the position as a bridesmaid, buying the dress and standing up with you on your big day!

I intend to pay for my bridesmaids dresses. But that being said they're all going to be under $100, and I only have three including MOH. I'm also in a better financial situation than they are, and from what you've said you are.
In general agreeing to be a bridesmaid means paying for the dress. Your bridesmaid shouldn't be surprised by the request, and shouldn't be surprised about the size costing more. I'm about a 3x and know to add more money to my clothing budget.
Now that being said did you ask them for their budgets beforehand? Maybe she was hoping for something cheaper? It's still illogical to me that she'd complain so much rather than just drop out of the wedding party.

It's not typical for the couple to pay for the bridal party attire. I will not be paying for mine. You should, however, have asked for all of their budgets and selected a dress that they can afford.

Did you discuss a budget with your bridesmaids before selecting a dress? It's not a great idea to assume anything about anyone's finances - just because she makes more hourly than you doesn't mean she can afford any dress you choose. Traditionally, the bridesmaids definitely pay for their own dresses, but only if they're in budget. If there's a difference in price between this maid and the others, could you afford to pay the difference?

No you don’t need to pay for bridesmaid dresses. Where are your girls ordering from? I know azazie goes up to a size 30 but the price isn’t different. Did you ask each girl their budget for the dress?

They should pay for their dresses. It typically happens that way. I won't be...

Have you picked out the bridesmaids' dresses yet? You could let her choose a cheaper dress.

No I am not paying for their dresses but I'm going to offer to help them if they need to individually. If one bridesmaid needs $50 towards their dress, I don't mind doing it. But the bridesmaids should also realize that when we agreed to be a bridesmaid, they know they'll have to spend money.

I did not. I let them puck their own dress therefore they set their own budget too.
Although I do wish I paid for their dresses rather than hair/makeup cause that total is costing me sooo much. 😂

Mine paid for their own because they got to choose it.

No, I'm not. I consulted their budgets prior, and they are picking their own dress between $89-$169 (cheaper if they order during sales). I've been in two weddings, neither bride paid for my dress. I'm paying for HAMU and letting them pick their own shoes and jewelry.

I’m not paying for their dresses. I picked out the color & the length & they picked out the rest, although they all picked out the same dress.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I’m paying for 7 total faces for makeup including myself and all their hair + mine and I’m also only gonna have them only shopping at places that have dresses for $150-$200 (or less) so I thought that would be enough

View Quoted Comment I did ask for all budgets, but it seems she misunderstood the question when it was asked. Plus it would be difficult to find dresses for any cheaper than what I’ve already been looking at.

View Quoted Comment I asked for budgets, and when I did she said “under $200.” BUT upon further questioning it turns out she meant that e would try to keep her dress under $200 out of courtesy to me because she thought I was paying. Ever since I told her that I’m not paying, she’s been kind of passive aggressive about it.

It's not typical for you to pay for the dress.
There are lots of resources for your bridesmaid. Poshmark, and other sites have used bridesmaid dresses for half the price. I once found a bridesmaid dress in the exact size and color I needed, locally, for $15 on facebook marketplace. The bride was doing "Pick this color and davids bridal but I don't care what kind of dress it is", so it worked out. If your dress is over $200, in a crowd with less $ to spare, maybe it's time to be a little considerate, but sounds like you're shooting for $100 range, which is literally as cheap as you can get with this sort of thing. When you say yes to being a bridesmaid, you should know it'll cost you at least the cost of the dress, and if you can't do that, you should say "I'd love to stand with you but I don't think I could pull it off financially." It is a responsibility, not just a fun thing to say "Yes!" to right off the bat.
I wouldn't get into "I make less than you blah blah" with the bridesmaid, I would sit down and say "Hey, traditionally it is not the brides responsibility to pay for dresses. You seemed surprised when I asked you to, so I thought we should have another discussion now to what I'm expecting from you financially and the kind of time and effort I need from you. I also want to let you know what you can expect from me." After you talk, let her know you completely understand if she jumped too quickly to say yes without realizing what it meant, and while you'd love to be in a position to pay her way, you don't have those kind of finances, but you'd love for her to attend as a guest, and if she would rather spend the funds on attending the bachellorette party then buying a dress, she's of course still welcome at the party even though she isn't a bridesmaid.

The bride does not pay for the dresses. Now if it was a certain type of shoe you required then it's polite to help pay or pay for it. But no, as long as the dress fits the budgets, it is up to the Bridesmaid to pay. For mine we went to David's Bridal, I had a strict budget of under $130 (I didn't want them paying a lot!), and we got a gorgeous and cheap (in price) dress. Even better, they came in after only a month and half, and are a beautiful quality.

I hadn't planned on paying for their dresses as I am paying for 5 hair and makeup (including myself and mom) the day of. HOWEVER we went bridesmaid dress shopping last weekend and at the end of the apt, my mom surprised us all by saying she would pay for the girls dresses. SSOOO all my girls need to pay for is their shoes. I am gifting them jewelry they can wear they day of.

When I was a bridesmaid I had to pay for my own dress. And while I ordered all the bridesmaids dresses they paid me back for them. One of my bridesmaids had a major unexpected life change between the time I asked her to be in the bridal party and the time rolled around for dresses to be ordered so I told her I could cover her dress if need be, but that's it. If it's really that big of a deal to her could you maybe offer to cover the difference in cost between the plus size dress and the others?

I’m paying the difference over $100. The dress I chose for them is originally $139 but currently on sale for $119. Depending on when they buy will determine the difference. They are taking care of everything else, the $100, any alternations, shoes, hair, and make up. I guess I’m counting it as my gift to them for graciously accepting to be my bridesmaids. Typically, most brides don’t.