Backstory: my future sister-in-law had twins on Nov 30th so I wanted to try and find a bridesmaid dress that could be ordered in Feb/March timeframe to feel more comfortable ordering a dress. Wedding is in May. She told me not to worry about it etc but I wanted to be considerate. I have checked the Colors at Azazie and just do not like the color swatches at all. Not the color I am going for. She is now almost at her pre-baby weight only 1 month in! So I feel ok asking her to buy a dress in January.
Another BM and I went to Bella Bridesmaid and they told us they only have 2 brands that would make it in time for a May Wedding and can be ordered no later than Jan 10th. Well the dress we picked is $270! They didn’t tell us this so I was a little upset. While all my girls will pay this, I definitely can’t ask them to pay that much for a dress.
The swatch and dress I LOVE is from Revelry but we would need to order by Dec 31st. This dress is $185.
Three questions/opinions: Is this too much to ask the girls to pay?
I am paying for hair and makeup. They will buy shoes to match, but keeping it under $40.. They all said they will pay whatever amount etc etc but we all know secretly nobody wants to pay a ton for a dress that will never be worn again but always do it for the bride and it comes with what we signed up for.
I found a “dupe” so to speak of the revelry at Kennedy Blue for $125 and you could order at a later date. I don’t love the color as much but this dress is $65 less than Revelry. They have this brand at Bella Bridesmaid but wouldn’t let me look at! After the appointment I went on direct their website you can rush order for $15 and get the dress by March 12th. Needless to say, I was annoyed.
Do you think the extra money is worth the color I absolutely love and can’t get past? I have
Sample colors of both in person.
If we do go with Revelry, is it too soon to ask them to buy a dress in 4 days? If so, would it be appropriate for me to ask for sizes and pay. Tell them to pay me back by a set date to offer more advanced time for payment based on my procrastination.