Bride wants 4 day Bachelorette Party in another country...

Wow - that is insane! For my bachelorette party, I was firm in having it local the week of the wedding because 4 out of 5 of my bridesmaids are from NY (I live in California) so they are already flying to California for the wedding. I was NOT going to make them fly to another destination for a bachelorette party. I don't know what we are doing yet (my MOH, who is also the only one who lives by me) is planning it and the only thing we decided on together were the dates. I feel awful having people spend money on "my day." I am just most excited to see my girls, I don't even care what we do/where we go :-)

I'm really glad everyone else thinks this is an outrageous request. I'll see what the other girls think and if needed, opt out of going. Generally, my friend is a super nice and caring person but she definitely has a "this is my day, rawr" attitude.

I'm having a destination Bach but I in no way planned or dictated it. My sisters, both of my maid of honors, live in Wilmington nc. I live in sc so we are all crashing at my sisters house. This was my sisters idea. I think it will be a blast but I in no way expected this. And it is overboard but that's just just how my sisters are

Opt out of the party.

Wow! This bride might have this grand plan in her head but that sounds selfish. No offense to your friend. Tell her it is not a reasonable request. If she wants a party be happy that y'all do anything for her really, you're not under contract or anything to do so

The comment of "respectably decline that shit" has also made my day.

Ya that's selfish of her.... Just tell her no

I simply cannot wrap my mind around these outrageous expectations for bachelorette parties. I've seen it mentioned often here. Days away, costing large amounts of money. Maybe it depends on your area? Where I live, if a party that involved being gone for days was even metioned, people would look at me like I was as dumb as a box of rocks.