Bride planning bachelorette party

Thank you!!! Some of these "etiquette" rules I'm seeing seem a little outdated. It's a party with my closest friends, why does it matter who plans it!! The one BM complaining is a little older than me, so I think she's more traditional in that regard, but I think I was able to explain it to her so she didn't think it was because of HER- it's just because I really look forward to doing the planning myself. Because she opened with asking if I picked my MOH yet (and she's my roommate), I'm thinking now it may have been more about me saying that I'm not having a MOH than anything.

I think it's your wedding and it's more then okay to plan your own Bachelorette party. I was in a wedding and the bride planned her party and it was such a great time. I also attended a few other bachelorette parties planned by the bride and they were such a success. This way the bride wasn't disappointed any and we all had a blast! She did however include us in her thoughts, we bought the sash and bridal items but she overall planned the event. So I would suggest talking to your BM and telling them your idea and seeing what they think and then have them do the little details. So if you plan out the big event, they can get the sashes, do the invitations to friends and family included and get little party favors. this way they feel included but ultimately you're happy with the turn out!