Bride planning all her events ?

Being a bride myself I know how enticing it can be to put your nose into the business of the bachelorette party. I personally think it's ok for the bride to have ideas or things that she's ok with /not ok with to share with the bridal part, but at the end of the day YOU girls will plan and fix the bachelorette party/shower for her It's your special day for her! And if she wants to spend more money? Then she can give you girls money so there's more room. She cannot ask you girls to spend over your own budget. After all, this day is supposed to be fun and a good way for the bridal party to spend time together and bond.

You'll need to put everything in writing, google the normal moh duties and then the shower details and give it to her and have her either give you authority or not, if she doesn't want your help than have her tell you what she does want your help with

I don't think it matters if she helps to plan the bachlorette party so much. I think it's wrong how much she is expecting you all to pay (I do remember your other post). I also think if she is helping plan and picking out all of these ideas then she should pay for her own way so hopefully she isn't expecting you guys to pay for her.

The bridal shower I don't think she should get any say in. I think she should be appreciative she is getting a shower at all. It's nice you're asking her opinion but it seems like your better off not asking at all because she seems like a control freak.

Being a bride myself, I am tempted to do the planning but only because I am the planner for my family and friends but I know that its not my place. I trust my MOH and BMs to plan events I will love (or at least enjoy). I have mentioned my ideas about the bachelorette party to my sister (MOH extraordinaire) and suggested I think a potluck bridal shower would work well but that's it. Then again, I am a very laid back person so there shouldn't be too many issues with my bridal party.

It's not normal. This bride is obviously a control freak and is trying to micromanage your efforts. You are hosting the shower and therefore YOU should be planning it, not her. You have done the right thing with the Pinterest board to get an idea of what she likes, but it should stop there. She should back off and let you plan it. The shower is in her honor, but you are the host and as such make the decisions. Brides should not be involved in the shower.

She is also wrong in expecting all of you to spend more than you want to at the bachelorette party.

Hmmmm, idk. I guess I'd tell her you have this covered and she needs to just worry about the wedding.

I told my MOH that I dont want to know anything!! I just want to show up and then go home.

I wish you the best of luck!

No it's not normal. You should spend what works for all of you, and she should be delighted that you're doing anything at all.

No not normal, especially if you all are paying for it. My bms have planned everything, asking my opinion BUT I would have had no right to tell them how to spend their money. I think she shouldn't either.

Honestly she really shouldn't have any part of it. Though I think you may have screwed yourself by telling her to pin stuff. At this point I would have a convo with her and tell her you have already planned everything and it's going to be a surprise. If she asks for details be nice, but firm. Time to put the big girl panties on and take control of what should have been yours in the first place.