Bridal shower - who pays?!

View Quoted Comment 🙄 So rude!

View Quoted Comment Pointing out etiquette on an etiquette board is not rude.
Throwing gift giving events for yourself is rude.

View Quoted Comment I don’t think throwing a gift giving event for yourself is rude (especially if under unique circumstances)… what do you call a wedding reception or birthday party or house warming or any other party where people bring gifts?


And I didn’t say pointing out etiquette was rude. The WAY people were going about it is rude… there’s no need to be condescending or rude when pointing out etiquette.

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Just as a heads up, Rachel made that comment in 2017 when this thread was first posted. I haven't seen her around lately so I doubt she'll see your post.

Sometimes pointing out etiquette can come off as rude when people disagree with it, I guess.

View Quoted Comment I’m aware, thanks! I just wanted to contribute to the discussion whether or not anyone saw. But saying “etiquette fail” is pretty rude.

I have 2 bridesmaids and 1 junior bridesmaid. Our junior bridesmaid is my FH little sister, so we did not ask for my in laws to contribute to the bridal shower. Instead, myself and both of my bridesmaids have been planning everything together, which may not be traditional however it’s what I wanted to do. My bridesmaid are in charge of games/prizes, I naught simple decorations, and we split the cost of food evenly 3 ways. Personally, they already purchased their own dresses, which are not cheap. And my MOH has her sisters wedding only a month after mine. So personally I think it’s fair to ask them to contribute, at least a little bit.