Bridal Shower: What to register for?

Sorry, maybe I did jump to conclusions that people were being rude. I'm under a ton of stress right now so I'm wound tight. I'm planning a wedding in 8 weeks (less than 5 weeks to go), in school, working, and moving 48 hours after returning from the honeymoon. I have a ton in my head and I'm not handling the stress very well.

The registry on Amazon does have home stuff. We're thinking about adding sheets and comforter to the list since we plan on upgrading to a better bed when we get there. We just want the items minimal and less breakable. I'm not as worried about moving sheets or towels, it's stuff like vases, wine glasses, stuff like that. I think I'll take the advice of someone here who said move some of the Amazon gifts to a local place so people can shop there. Thanks

Emmy - Good for you. *hands you a cookie*

Kaitlyn - The day after the wedding. We will be returning Monday morning at 6am, then moving Wednesday morning.

The general rule for registry items is things you can use together as a couple, or will at least benefit both persons. So I would say no to a purse.

If people ask where you're registered for the shower, tell them amazon. Personally I would recommend having registered at a brick and mortar store, because not everyone shops online. But that's neither here nor there. Since you don't want a lot of stuff and it sounds like it's a pretty informal 'shower', you probably don't need to register anymore. And some people may bring night gowns and such to the shower, I think that depends a lot on the guest list. The shower concept I'm familiar with, older relatives like grandma and FMIL are invited, so risque items aren't really appropriate.

Since you've been gone a long time why don't you do an intro and tell us about your wedding and self?

Snarky - I did an intro thread when I came back. You can find it here

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/heather-from-so-cal-old-member-new-bride/2ca02ce771f8ab5f.html

Or do you mean in this thread?

OP - That sounds like a good idea to add things like bed sheets and pillow cases, since you don't mind moving those. And those are exactly the type of things that should be on shower registries. Sheets, bath towels, kitchen towels, pillows, comforters, etc. All soft, easy to move and the people who prefer to get you gifts can get you those. No need to make it giant, though.

Sara - Thank you! Neither Grandma or FMIL will be there (my grandmas are both deceased and my FMIL is out of the country), so it will be mostly friends and family (late 20's, early 30's). I'm wondering if I just don't remember the showers I went to previously very well because I don't really remember them getting household items much. As I get older, I find my memory getting worse. Ugh, aging :p

I'm going to stop buying things I want at Target and just register everything. "We need almond milk? Add it to the registry."

Shortly after making this thread, I realized that the apartment we're moving into has a 2nd bathroom. We definitely need a shower curtain, towels, and stuff for that bathroom. I think we need more than we realize. I'm just so used to being frugal and not asking for stuff. I usually just buy what I need. Pots are a big one, I've been using the same ones for years and have always hated them, but didn't want to pay the $100-300 for new ones.

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So you are leaving the morning after the wedding...And your having a honeymoon registry. The items gifted in the honeymoon registry aren't released until after the wedding. How are you justifying the HM registry when you will just get a check that won't be used for anything on your honeymoon because you will already be back before you get the check?

Kaitlyn - That's not how Honeyfund works. If you read the FAQ question....

"Here's the best thing about Honeyfund: All your gift payments come directly to you from your gift givers! We keep our service free by avoiding credit card processing fees. That means we never handle your money. Instead, your gift givers are instructed to pay you directly by cash or check. They can either mail you their payment or present it to you at a shower or at the wedding, along with their Honeyfund gift certificate."

"Honeyfund integrates with secure payment processors to enable credit card payment for your guests. Here's how it works:

Guests pay directly into your own PayPal account via Honeyfund.

You pay just 2.8% + $0.30*/transaction for online gifts (offline payments are always free!)

Each gift payment is immediately available to withdraw.

To withdraw, login to your own PayPal account. No withdrawal fees!"

As a guest at a wedding, I would absolutely rather pay money towards their honeymoon or give them something I know they want. I would feel like I flushed $50 down the toilet if I bought them a toaster when they already have 3.

Thanks for the sweet, Cassidy, but my wedding was 3 years ago My 1 regret was not eloping.