Bridal Shower: What to register for?

Hmm maybe people want a local option? I'd think of one in town for the shower then delete it for the wedding to up your chances of money

I agree that not everyone wants to shop online and may want a physical store. Also if you don't need/want physical gifts you shouldn't have a shower. I've been to a shower where the couple just wanted money and it was so awkward when it came time to open the "gifts"

A lot of times, showers have a specific theme, like a recipe shower where the registry contains a lot of cookware or cookbooks, or a lingerie shower where... well, you can figure that one out! It's possible that people are just looking for your theme.

If you're not so much about getting stuff for yourself, have you considered doing a charity option? One of my nieces did not want any gifts for her birthday, so she asked that people instead donate to the shelter where her dog was rescued from. People could still buy items like food and toys, which my niece then got to take down to the shelter for the animals, or they could donate online. I think in general, people just like to be able to give a physical gift, especially for a shower where opening the gifts is part of the festivities, as opposed to a wedding where that is often done by the couple privately. This might be a good time to ask for a few indulgent items that maybe didn't seem right to have on a wedding registry, but is something you guys really want!

Yes, ask politely for money. That will go over well.

I think a lot of people like to be able to go into a brick and mortar store and be able to physically pick out the gift...Amazon takes away the option and honeyfunds are just, bad.

I would pick a store like Kohl's or BB&B, move some of the Amazon stuff to one of these registries and keep it small...people will give you a gift card. Same with the Amazon account...keep it small and if there is an ability to enable gift cards being purchased, just do that.

Why have a shower if you don't want physical gifts? That's kind of the point of a shower.

If you don't have a registry politely decline the shower. Showers are for actual gifts - to shower the couple with items for their new life together.

@maltese - on point once again.

@Emmy

No one has answered my last question, which was my main question. Should a bridal registry be different or is it supposed to be things for the house? Plates, pots, stuff like that? I'm sure I could make a registry at Target. I wish I could get these gifts sent to my future residence. There are a few things we need, but they're all breakable items. Moving sucks, I ALWAYS end up having to replace a few hundred dollars worth of broken items. That's my main concern. What should be the price limit for the registry? The items we want the most are ones we haven't splurged on ourselves (like the Vitamix or Le Crueset pot).

Since I'm moving out of state, the shower is more to get together more with the friends and family who I will be leaving behind. It's also a birthday party in one. Would it be weird to register for gifts that won't go towards the couple, but just me? Workout equipment? Electronic stuff? There's a purse I really, really want, but it's online only (through Loungefly). Is that appropriate for a bridal shower? The title of this party is actually a "tea party," not bridal shower.

Thats what a bridal registry is...a registry for gifts to "shower" the bride to be with items to establish the household.

No purse. Honestly, nobody can tell you what to put on, but you're not asking people to buy you a birthday present. You're asking them to buy you gifts to establish your household.

The vitamix? Sure. The pot, of couse. Even a treadmill or a Bow Flex is more acceptable than a purse. How have you gotten 5 Stars on WW and not come across a thread regarding appropriate things to put onto a registry?

I was going to say the same thing as Faran.

But, I will try to be helpful: If you are registered at Amazon, then that is your registry. A "Bridal registry" is the same exact thing as registering for a shower. It's just what the stores call it. Not sure where the confusion is. And if people ask where you are registered, you can say "We have a small registry on Amazon, but because we are moving out of state right after the honeymoon, we don't have room to store all of the physical gifts in the meantime and bring it with us so we chose to not register." Or something like that.

Also, how do you break things every time you move? I have moved a lot and have never broken anything. You take your kitchen and bath towels and wrap all of the breakable things, plus you are taking up space in the box with lighter things (towels) so the box isn't extremely heavy. Also, paper towels and newspaper can work on less breakable things like Corelle dishes and Pyrex stuff. Just pack more carefully!

"I have moved a lot and have never broken anything. You take your kitchen and bath towels and wrap all of the breakable things, plus you are taking up space in the box with lighter things (towels) so the box isn't extremely heavy. Also, paper towels and newspaper can work on less breakable things like Corelle dishes and Pyrex stuff. Just pack more carefully!"

I've moved from CA to TX, TX to FL, FL to CA, and 4 times around CA. I pack everything how I'm supposed to according to websites. I've wrapped things in towels, bubble wrap, the whole shebang. I've had movers break stuff, family, friends, myself. I have a lot of stuff, which is part of it. We're trying to downsize because we're lugging around stuff we don't use. Hopefully it will be gone before the wedding.

A huge problem is I'm hearing mixed things from people, which is why I came here to get an answer.

Emmy answered the question with 'to shower the couple with items for their new life together." You can register for whatever you want, but expect some side-eye if you register for stuff like a purse or electronics. A shower is generally for dish towels, plates, kitchen appliances, etc. If you don't want any of those things your best bet is to decline a shower.

^ "A shower is generally for dish towels, plates, kitchen appliances, etc. If you don't want any of those things your best bet is to decline a shower."

That was the answer I was looking for. Thank you. I've been told different things from different people, which is why I came here to get the straight answer. Much more helpful that asking why I have 5 stars.

I understand it's not rocket science, but when you hear mixed things, you want the proper answer.

ETA: By discussing things that were NOT Bridal Shower. Because I wasn't even close to that point when I joined 5 years ago. Or I just forgot because I haven't been to one in 5+ years.

Another reason for the confusion is I've been told by 3 people that the bridal shower is usually for the less risqué bachelorette items, like night gowns and stuff (stuff for husband, but not the kinky stuff). I didn't think they were right. I mean some people get those, but I was thinking it was the same registry. I didn't know if the bridal shower registry was different and I just missed the memo.

Just take a moment and breathe. No one was trying to be malicious. Just being funny. I don't think you should register at all since you are so concerned about moving with things. Registering for a purse but not home goods would be very questionable to most people.

Dks64-When are you going on your honeymoon?

I don't understand, I have never been married before, or gone to a shower I still understood the concept.