Bridal Shower nightmares

Maybe you can make it more of just a luncheon. The gals get together for a lunch in your honor. You can have your FMIL include a note or something cute that says you have what you need and just want to get together for a party.

FYI - usually you only get one sexy outfit (it's supposed to be for your first night together), and I think it's ok that you tell your FMIL that you don't feel comfortable receiving gifts like that in front of the women of the family.

I'm having my bridal shower this weekend and I just told everyone to bring gift cards to Victoria's Secret. I honestly can't see my family trying to pick out lingerie for me. The only person that I told to buy me something was my mother because she's knows what I like and what I don't like. My mother and I are best friends!!!

Lol.. yeah more than I want to get lingerie (which I really don't mind I am very blasé about sex with my family) but seeing if my sister's (who is hosting my lingerie bach party) face as she is buying me lingerie that would be a real gift. lol...

... Ummm after reading that I noticed it didn't read right... Not meant to say sex with my family... I am blasé about discussing sex with my family...

Lol@ Sass ...that did sound a bit weird

I am sure your FMIL will be very tasteful with your shower. Just make sure to drop a few hints that you don't want anything naughty. You have to look at the shower as a great way for you to get to know some of the family members you may not have meet yet.

Just because you aren't registered at a store doesn't mean they can't bring gifts. People can still bring you picture frames or a punch bowl...something! Or gift cards. You could do a stock the bar shower where people bring a bottle of alcohol. Or make it a couples shower and ask everyone to bring something for the garage/tools.

We had a couples barbeque and it was really nice. We got a lot of giftcards to bed bath and beyond and home depot. My FH was able to meet family memebers that he probably never would have met and I got to seed a lot of people I haven't seen in a long time.

Maybe you can just ask them to buy you gift cards to several stores of your choosing. That way, there will be no awkward gifts to open and you can pick what you want. Good luck! :-)

I know exactly how you feel which is why I declined the offer for a shower. I proposed that we should just get the ladies together for margaritas instead but that was not a popular idea. (I can't imagine why - I mean really, margaritas!!) But for whatever reason they wanted a "traditional shower" which was slightly horrifying to me. It also didn't help that I have absolutely detested almost every shower I have been to and find them super boring (no offense everyone)

Anyway, assuming you decide to have it, I read on another website where the bride made a "censored" sign out of construction paper and held it up when she was given a racy gift such as lingerie or condoms or whatever that she didn't want to show certain family members. I thought that idea sounded cute.

My FH to the rescue!!! He suggested his cousin's wife (one of my BM's and close friend) help his mom and she was able to steer her in the right direction. She called me today to run some ideas by me. She's going to do a "make our house a home" theme and asked me to register somewhere with home furnishings. I asked about etiquette for registering for a shower (I've heard it's a no-no) but she had her shower with the exact same people and everyone called her complaining about the lack of a registry. So I went and chose bathroom decor, bedding, dishes, etc. at Target. Stuff that we already have but it will be nice to start off together with some new things. Thanks ladies!!