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Expert May 2019

Bridal consultant told me i was going to get fat..

Sydney, on March 20, 2018 at 12:21 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 54

And some other very rude comments.

I went to a salon that one of my close friends recommended to try on dresses, as she found her wedding dress there and had loved her consultant. When I arrived, my consultant asked me to please wait because she was finishing up with another client. I ended up waiting about 30 minutes, but I didn't mind, because I figured that meant she gave each client her utmost attention.

Well, after we did introductions, the consultant found out my wedding was a year away. She said, "Hasn't anyone told you the proper time to get a wedding dress?" I must have looked befuddled (likely because of her tone), and she said, "You're way too early. You'll find a dress you love now, then you'll get fat before the wedding at then it won't fit anymore."

I was absolutely floored she would say that, but kept my cool, and said, "Actually, I've been this size, weight, and shoe size since middle school. I don't think it'll be changing within the next year." She replied snarkily, "Well, you never know, do you?"

I then showed her pictures of dresses I really liked (IE, long sleeves, ballgowns) and she proceeded to pull everything but those styles (sleeveless, mermaid style fit...). Finally after the 4th dress, I asked, "Do you maybe have something with sleeves?" She said she did, so we tried that dress, but I hated the drop waist on it. I told her so, and she replied, "Well, you'll have to tolerate it for the next dress I chose, because it has a drop waist too. You should just try and like it."

She also kept putting clips on the dress after we had already walked out to show my party, which was awkward to hold my dress up in the bust and have it be slipping around slightly while she fumbled with the clips. I asked if we could maybe do the clips in the dressing room, and she told me, "Hey sweetie, I know how to do my job, it's okay," with a little laugh.

When my party would offer their opinion on the dress, she would chime in with comments like, "Yeah, you're right, that really does look awful on her!" or "No groom wants to see a bride with a tummy pooch like that."

She cut our appt off half an hour early (which I was thankful for at that point), and told me that I should try coming back closer to my wedding date, reminding me again that "I'll know what size you'll actually be then." It just felt so impersonal and awful, it put me off shopping for a while. Hope I'm not the only one with horror stories like this.


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Latest activity by Vanessasaurus, on March 20, 2018 at 5:03 PM
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    Savvy May 2019
    Felisha ·
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    WOW. Do NOT. I repeat, DO NOT go back to that salon. That woman does not deserve your patronage. That is the single worst horror story I’ve heard about dress shopping. How disrespectful! Unreal. I pray you find someone who will give you the time and respect that you deserve and that you find the most magical ballgown ever. PS- sounds like we have very similar interests in dresses! This is my number one choice, but naturally I found the picture online and have not found anything even remotely like it.

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  • Sydney
    Expert May 2019
    Sydney ·
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    Oh wow, that is goregous! I love love love the open back.
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  • WED18
    July 1993
    WED18 ·
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    That's horrible! If I were you I would call and ask to speak to the owner or manager and report her behavior. You should never be treated like that, especially by someone who stands to make a commission off your purchase.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    Omg! I had a horror story after I ordered the gown but nothing like what you went through.

    My worst appointment was was when I was turned away from a salon for being alone. They told me they weren't wasting time for me to play dress up and that my engagement ring was clearly a fake 🙄 (Oh yes, dress consultant tell the jeweler all about her own ring).

    Big tip, rate and review this shop everywhere. Warn fellow brides to avoid and name names if you know her name. No bride deserves to feel that way!
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    Devoted October 2018
    Emily ·
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    That is not how you treat people. Any person should not be treated like that. I am sorry you had to go through that.
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  • Victorian Bride
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    Victorian Bride ·
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    DO NOT GO BACK TO THAT SALON!! Please call the owner, or manager, and file a complaint. NO ONE, especially a bride, should be treated as you were. I am so sorry you had to experience such rudeness. It took 9 months for my gown to come in, so I dont know what that lady was talking about. When you find your gown, please post.❤
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  • Victorian Bride
    Master April 2023
    Victorian Bride ·
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    Oh no!! What a horrible experience!! You were told your engagement ring was fake? Of all the nerve!! Yes, love your idea of reviewing them EVERYWHERE.!! That will hit them where it hurts.
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  • Adrianna
    Expert June 2018
    Adrianna ·
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    I found my dress at davids. I love my dress so much, but the staff was horrible. Don't let it ruin the fun for you!
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  • ACD
    Expert October 2018
    ACD ·
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    100% send a letter to the salon & write a yelp/facebok review! How awful I'm so sorry you went through this experience. please don't get discourage from trying on again , somewhere else !

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  • Jaclyne
    Dedicated August 2018
    Jaclyne ·
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    I did not have an issue when I went dress shopping, but my bridesmaids on the other hand..... that's a different story!. We all went to DB for dresses and my MOH told the consultant she had just been in a wedding a few months before so she knew her size because the dress was also from DB. Every dress we chose for the girls to try on was commented on. The employee told my MOH, " remember these are sample dresses, so they are stretched out that's why you fit". or "look how wide your hips look and how bunched up the dress is." this being said my MOH said I didn't pull it down all the way. So after multiple comments my MOH got very upset and said she was DONE trying in dresses. I couldn't blame her, so we chose a dress of the 4 they all tried on. Some women are rude and unfiltered.
    I'm sure your beautiful and will look amazing on your special day. good luck.
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  • Mrs.hays
    VIP April 2018
    Mrs.hays ·
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    Wow.. that is not okay at all and that woman probably should not work around people.
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  • Janel
    Super September 2018
    Janel ·
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    I ordered my dress 13 months out and wasn’t given any attitude. You desnivel y should let a manager know and post this on yelp and WeddingWire .. this person is not a good consultant
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  • JerseyGirl
    Master May 2017
    JerseyGirl ·
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    Definitely do not go back there. A year out is average at least. It takes 6-9 months for most dresses to come in. I had a bad experience at an Alfred Angelo store and a DB store which had me turned off of the whole dress shopping part until I went to a small family owned salon. When I was in the AA store, they had no record of my appointment even though I showed them the email confirmation. They then told me no one would be able to help me since I didn’t have an appointment. Again I showed the email confirmation for the appointment. They finally sent a consultant over to help me. Then I was twenty minutes into an hour apppointment. The manager walks by tells my consultant to hurry up as she needs her help with a new bride appointment. At that point my she suggested I make another appointment.

    When i I went to DB they didn’t even want to let me in the door as I didn’t have an appointment. It was a Wednesday in the middle of the day. There was no one else in the store. Literally no other customers. Finally they agreed to let me look but I couldn’t try on. (There were two girls sitting at the door greeting anyone who came in). They pointed in the direction of dresses and continued their conversation. While I was looking my mom came in to look at MOB dresses. They were so welcoming to her, asked her what she was looking for. They both escorted her over to the dresses. One stayed with her, asking her which ones she wanted to try.

    Both experiences made me feel like my dress was not important. I kept waiting for “the moment” and excitement that others had posted about. Don’t let one experience get you down. I give you credit. I probably would have responded to her comments and walked out. Definitely review where you can and I would also call to speak to the manager/owner.
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  • Adriana
    Expert October 2017
    Adriana ·
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    I’m so sorry that happened to you. I had a very similar interaction with the seamstress at my bridal salon. She was yelling at me on the sales floor basically saying me, my chest, and what I wanted to look like were “impossible.” (All I wanted was to not have to wear a bra, as I was promised when I bought the dress - it was backless) The manager apologized and thanked me for keeping my cool. I left, went to David’s bridal, where they did everything they could to get me a new dress, and have it altered, in 6 weeks. As someone in retail and sales, I just don’t understand how people get away with that behavior. Don’t give up on dress shopping! But don’t go back there. And I agree, idbresch out to the manager, they need to know how their enoloyees treat people.
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  • Mrs.McFly
    Dedicated June 2018
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    Same thing happened to me when I went to David's bridal. No one there and they were rude when u tried to ask about certain styles of dress. Thankfully I found my dress at this boutique and I love them!
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  • Sally
    Expert June 2018
    Sally ·
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    Wow I wouldn't even have stuck it out through the appointment. I would tell management about that, that lady should NOT to working there!!
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    Jamie ·
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    That is not acceptable! How dare she say that to you. If you wanna buy a dress 2 or 3 years out they still shouldn't say anything about buying early. If I said something like she said at work you better believe I would be pulled into HR. I hope you feel comfortable saying something. This is a special time in your life.
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  • Talullah
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    Talullah ·
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    Im so so sorry! I never would've have been able to tolerate her. You're a better person than me lol. I would def call the salon & speak to the owner. I'd also give them terrible reviews anywhere i could. That woman should absolutely not speak to anyone that way, let alone work in that field. I ordered my dress over a year out, many people do because of delivery time & alterations. Do NOT go back. Hang in there, you'll find the perfect dress somewhere else, don't give up or let it ruin your shopping experience.
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  • Alexandra
    Dedicated January 2019
    Alexandra ·
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    I would call the store and speak with the manager - that is terrible service and it sounds like you were nothing but polite.
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  • KPTheCheeto
    Devoted December 2019
    KPTheCheeto ·
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    I have been dress shopping in 5 different salons and my wedding is December 2019....no one has given me an attitude at all. If anything, they're praising me for trying to figure out details for the wedding so early and giving myself time so I don't get stressed out.

    The only thing one of the consultants said that rubbed me the wrong way was when I brough 5 of my 7 bridesmaids to the fitting and I wanted to pick "the one" but needed their help. They wanted to have a goof experience so they asked if we could bring champagne to have a glass and celebrate finding my dress and my consultant said it was okay and that they had glasses but no champagne so we would have to bring it. I said okay but when I got there the consultant said "Are you going to buy your dress today? They really don't want us popping champagne if you're not going to spend any money." I didn't like that. My dress would have been $2150 without alterations, that's no small chunk of change to be rushed into.

    Don't let people boss you around, its your wedding, your money, YOUR BODY and your decision. I promise other consultants will treat you better. But I agree with everyone else, call the manager and rate this woman on Yelp and everything else to warn others.
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