Body Dysmorphic Disorder on wedding day!

Are you working with a psychologist? BDD is a serious psychiatric illness, so I would think that working with a professional would be the most effective way to overcome your anxiety.

Hey girl, i’ve been anorexic for over half of my life and had the hardest time when it came to my wedding day. I regretted my dress up until even the day of. It honestly all went away once i saw my groom waiting for me. There’s really no advice to give except for to confide in someone and to try and take care of yourself in the best way that you can. You can also open up to your photographer and let them know where you’re at. I’ve found vulnerability in these situations can be really rewarding because then you’ve communicated and everyone knows where you’re at.

Instead of posed photos try doing the candid shots of you enjoying yourself. But I would talk to photographer and do an engagement phot shoot so you get more comfortable in front of him. And if you have time some therapy so your comfortable on your wedding day. You’ll be beautiful.

I am so sorry you are experiencing this! My first suggestion would definitely be to have an “unplugged” ceremony. This has become very popular lately with the rise of social media. I have seen people do signs at their ceremony and reception requesting no photographs/videos by the guests. They usually say something like “ The couple requests you to be fully present with them during this special time” then goes on to request they leave all photos and video recordings to the professionals. I have also seen couples have their officiant announce before the ceremony begins that there will be no photos/videos. As far as a professional videographer goes.. since you would like everything recorded, I would go ahead and get the videographer. You don’t have to watch the video immediately following the wedding if you think it will be triggering. It would be really sweet to put the video away in a box along with your wedding vows, then the two of you could read your vows & watch the wedding video on your one year anniversary. Or, if you aren’t ready at that time, you can make it your five year anniversary, or even 10 year anniversary! If history has taught me anything, it is that you always look back at yourself and realize you were thinner/more beautiful than you ever realized at that time. And, at the end of the day, you are marrying the love of your life! He obviously finds you incredibly beautiful, and will undoubtably that day especially. So drop the unrealistic expectations of perfection on your wedding day, and just allow yourself to drown in the happiness of the event!