Birthday at a Wedding

My flower girl is turning six on our wedding day and is absolutely in love with FH! She said "I'm going to marry him in 18 years!" So we'll probably have something special so she can blow out her candles and sing happy birthday to her!

If you are giving a short welcome/thank you/ speech you can say Happy Birthday then. I wouldn't sing unless the birthday person was a child who isn't shy. We planned to say Happy Birthday to my cousin, but he ended up declining.

My uncle was turning 65 while I was away on my honeymoon and had the DJ play "64" by the Beatles and wish him a happy birthday (but I did speak with his wife beforehand about it, I thought he would find it cute but wanted to ensure I didn't embarrass him. His wife thought it was very cute. Plus that's a cute song and 65 is a "big" birthday in my mind).

The only other time I have seen a birthday even mentioned at a wedding it was the bride's birthday so instead of a wedding cake, the bride and groom did a birthday cake (it was a smallish wedding - about 35 guests - so a smaller cake worked well).

You don't have to acknowledge it if you don't want. You could say happy birthday when you see them and take them for coming. If you want to do something have the dj announce it and sing HBD.

This may sound harsh but this cousin has had over 50 birthdays. You are only getting married once. If I were the birthday girl, I wouldn't even let anyone know it's my birthday and I wouldn't care. If it's that big of a deal, they will come early or leave late. I wouldn't do anything special.

My sister got married on my dad's birthday. We had a cake and sang. But my dad likes party's.

It's going to be a bridesmaid's birthday on our wedding day. I won't make everyone sing to her but I did plan to have the DJ play a Tom Petty song for her (her fave). I figured I'd get her a cake or something for us to celebrate when we're getting ready before the wedding.

My MOH birthday is the day before our wedding. I never thought of doing anything for her. Maybe at the rehearsal dinner, I will, since that's her birthday!

I'll be at a wedding the day before my birthday and honestly it's not my "day "it's the bride and grooms day, I'd be embarrassed if they turned the spotlight on me, the bride was in my wedding and was a wonderful bridesmaid and I wouldn't want to take her time as a bride away. I'm most likely will be driving back home on my bday. I would go privately up to him and say happy birthday.

FH's brothers birthday is on our wedding date. It is his 30th so because it is a big one we are getting him his own cake and singing happy birthday to him.

I hate the happy birthday song idea - it puts someone on the spot in front of a bunch of people they may not know. Ugh, so embarrassing/awkward!! Why not have a birthday card from you and FH waiting for him at his seat?

Annakay that's actually a really great idea!

My best friend got married on my birthday last year (I was a bridesmaid in her wedding, and it was an out of town wedding that we were gone for the entire weekend). When planning, she asked me if I minded if they had their wedding on that day (because it was my 30th birthday and it's a "special" birthday, she wanted to be considerate). Yes, I'll only have one 30th birthday, but I'll have plenty of birthdays, and she'll only have one wedding (ideally, of course, haha), so I told her of course it's fine.

I wasn't expecting anything that day with everything going on and it being her wedding day. They did not play Happy Birthday at the reception - thank goodness! I don't like being in the spotlight. When the day was coming to an end and close to the end of the night, she (and some friends still there) brought out a birthday cake and sang Happy Birthday. I was floored! I didn't expect that at all and thought it was SO thoughtful and sweet that on THEIR wedding day, they took a few minutes to celebrate it being my birthday too. So thoughtful! And the cake was DELICIOUS!

I'd personally recommend staying away from the DJ playing Happy Birthday, but if you want to do a little something, maybe get him a small cake or gift and give it to him later in the night to show you thought about him, even during the hectic-ness of the day. Or you could even give it to him earlier in the day before festivities begin. Either way, it just shows you're being thoughtful

Oh gosh no. Please don't. If I went a wedding on my birthday, I would never, ever expect there to be any celebration for me. This is your wedding day - it happens once! I'm sure your cousin has plans to celebrate his birthday at another point that weekend (or another surrounding weekend).

I'm getting married on my mom's birthday and I'm going to do something special for her...haven't quite figured out what exactly yet though.

My brother was married on his birthday. At one point his new wife just dragged him onto the dance floor and the guests formed a circle around him to sing Happy Birthday.

@teach so sorry LOL! But we aren't cultural at all and only her and her best friend know how to dance to it. I had to veto that! Haha!

I agree with PPs. He is a grown adult. I know 50 is a big birthday but if you think it is going to be awkward, your gut instinct is probably right. My wedding 5/26/18 and my little brother got married on 5/30/15 and my FH and I are getting his wife and him and nice little gift to put at their seat. A nice gesture to acknowledge their anniversary but nothing that would embarrass his very shy wife.

I would just announce "Happy Birthday".

I would be mortified if guests sang Happy Birthday to me at someone elses wedding

If it were my birthday, I think at most a "happy birthday" from the bride/groom, off mic obviously, like in passing

me: "Hey! you look beautiful!"

bride: "oh thanks! happy birthday!"

::hugs::

::dancing::

would suffice. I can give up my one day a year that happens every year for your one day in your (hopefully) lifetime.