Birthday at a Wedding

I went to a wedding last year on my birthday, and nothing was done for me. I didn't expect them to. I did leave early, though, to celebrate with my husband.

I know some adults who would get a kick out of it, and some who would absolutely hate it. Does your cousin enjoy being in the spotlot? Do you think it would be meaningful for him?

I wouldn't do this.

Honestly my cousin is a depressed drunk. I have never seen him sober. I know he is planning to stay at the wedding, they are getting a hotel. I just can't see him enjoying the spotlight. Anytime I have seen him he is away from everyone practically hiding.

My wedding is on my cousins birthday (36). I'm not sure what I will do yet but I think we will prob mention it during our speech and sing happy birthday to him.

My initial wedding date was 1-7-17. The 7th is my mom's birthday. I was going to just wish her a happy birthday when we do the "thank everyone for coming" speech. That's all. Nothing over the top.

@AnewH, I think you have your answer. Given that additional info, I would not do this.

At our friends wedding last year she had 3 birthdays that same day and an anniversary and they were all close family so she had the dj play happy birthday and they all got a cupcake with a candle on it..it was actually very cute and adorable!!

I swear I have shot down everyone of my Mom's ideas, dollar dance, self catering, dance to some damn polka music you name it she has suggested it!

That is slightly awkward. I think as a gown ass adult you should not expect other people to celebrate your birthday at their wedding...

Please dont do this. My birthday was the same day as my friend's wedding. The bride made me stand in the middle of the dance floor while she got my present ready. She made everyone sing happy birthday to me and it was awful. Unless you 100% know that this person will not feel embarrassed don't do it.

@Heather that is cute! I have another friend who is having a birthday, but I know she doesn't want it announced. But that is cute. My cousin though will be drinking his supper. Not even kidding about that. We aren't even counting a plate for him.

It was my bil's birthday the day before. We had the dj announce it and gave him a small gift. The dj played "Sto Lat" (100 years/best wishes Polish song) and we danced a few steps together

My cousin got married on his mom's birthday. They had a cake for her and our whole family sang happy birthday to her. She loved it!

I think this is 100% know your crowd/guest. My cousin's birthday will on our wedding but she loves attention / is giddy about us getting married on her birthday. We'll most likely sing / acknowledge it because she would get a kick out of it. In your situation though, it sounds like your relative would not enjoy it one bit.

I have a guest with a birthday that day and I was thinking about having the wait staff add a candle to her slice of cake - it acknowledges the birthday without making her the center of attention. Eta: spelling

We are getting married on my dad's birthday. We will be doing a cupcake, shout out, and song. I'm thinking we will do it before the Father-Daughter dance. But my dad loves being in the spotlight and we play by our own rules so we don't really care what others think. I always say Be Your Own Kinda Happy! In your case it sounds like your uncle wouldn't like it so I probably wouldn't do it. Maybe you can just get the DJ to say we have a guest celebrating a birthday today, Happy Birthday Bob and keep it moving!

We had two birthdays at our wedding. The DJ just announced "Happy birthday to so-and-so from the bride and groom!" And that was it.

I'm going to suggest just saying happy birthday rather than sing it. Maybe she will be OK with that. If it were my sister or parent I would probably be good with it. But this cousin most people won't know.

I think it is kind of odd. I personally would hate for someone to draw attention to my birthday on their wedding. It is to celebrate the couples marriage, not my birthday!! A good compromise is like others said, have the DJ just announce his birthday rather then everyone singing it....please don't sing him happy birthday, thats awkward.