Big wedding vs Small ceremony

@OP that was something I forgot to mention earlier. I've been on these forums for a year now and I've seen a small amount brides say "I wish I'd had a more lavish wedding instead of getting married at the courthouse" and I've seen a much larger amount of brides say "if I could have done anything differently I would have had a smaller wedding" but I've never seen any bride say "I have regrets about my small intimate wedding."

But I might be biased.

I did the giant wedding for my first and a small (25 person) destination wedding for my second. The smaller one was by far the better of the two. I got to spend time with everyone and just enjoy myself. I highly recommend it.

I love my big wedding, but I think if I could go back it would be a small wedding. We had 200 guest, bridal party we had a huge one 32 people including ushers also. Don't get me wrong my wedding was amazing but I would have kept it small and intimate and did a huge after party. Follow your heart it will never lead you wrong.

Stephanie,

We had a small, 30 person wedding. The planning process was pretty painless. I also was not exhausted the day of our wedding, I got to see and talk to every guest, I didn't have to decorate, and we didn't have any guest drama. I got all of my RSVPs back before our deadline, no one got shit faced, and we had more than enough food and booze for everyone.

I feel like I got everything I wanted, which I would not have been able to afford if we had a big wedding. We were also able to afford our favorite photographer because we weren't feeding 100plus guests.

What I am so grateful for now is we are looking to buy another home and because we didn't spend 20K plus on our event we can buy tomorrow if we want. Having a small wedding left us with a lot of financial freedom and we planned in under 6 months. We didn't have to save and hold off on our wedding and we didn't need to recoup what we spent. This is why we decided to do it small.

@Holly C yes we are doing a second ceremony for my family! My mother is very insistent on a big church wedding. So we will have our legal private wedding and then our big spiritual ceremony!

I think, dj wise, you ask your venue, you meet with a few and really let them know exactly what you want and what you don't want in terms of announcements, effects, em-c-ing......

I love my guys because they are so classy. I call them 'musical concierges"....

Good luck!