Big wedding or small wedding… anyone regret their choice?

We had a big wedding, so big in fact that when we got our wedding video back there were people we didn't even recognize or know. Most likely they were plus ones for people we did invite, but it was a little crazy. I wish we had done a smaller wedding, but we both have big families, and didn't want anyone to get feelings hurt.

Best advice I have - DO WHAT YOU AND YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER WANT!

Don't worry about what anyone else things, feels, etc. Otherwise, you may regret what should be one of the happiest days of your life. A house is a better investment than a big wedding anyway!

I think the big weddings apply best in the old era where parents anticipated a wedding and would be ready to bear the costs. It also would be their chance to celebrate with their friends and extended family. This would basically be like a birthday celebration where others arrange the party and pay the bills.

The smaller events should be considered where you pay the bills and still want to get a house together sooner rather than later.

Totally relatable dilemma, We went smaller and honestly don’t regret it at all—being present, relaxed, and debt-free made the day feel even more special. That said, some friends who went big loved the once-in-a-lifetime celebration, so it really comes down to what you value more long term: the experience of the day or the flexibility after it. There’s no wrong choice, just the one that fits your priorities as a couple.

We're doing a small cruise wedding with a group about 10 to 14 ppl people.That's gonna cost us about 7k so its pretty cheap for a 5 day cruise... cant imagine spending ten plus just for a one day event...

Iam just like you. We're paying for own. The venue alone is 6500 dollars, and that's only with about sixty people.And I will be doing something small, elegant and classy. That's what I would recommend. Congrets

Small I get married the fourth but Already bought our whole intermediate family flights to Paris 🥲 we have to pay for their hotels too the venues not even booked in having tremors because I’m so stressed you can get a cheap venue in Florida or New Jersey then just go all out w the floral drapery and candles to make it what you want and keep the invite list small

I think small wedding (30 guests) is good intimate, stress-free, and the married life would be debt-free.

So.....what did you decide?
I just saw this post, and had the thought that you can have a "smaller" wedding and it will still be a "fairytale wedding", just not..."big".
There's also tons of ways to save on decorations, favors, photography, cake, alcohol, flowers!!!I invited about 64 people, and 49 were able to come. It was on the smaller side, but I still didn't have much time to spend with everyone because of pictures being taken, and a sit down dinner with the works(for my father).I was worried there wouldn't be enough time on the dance floor...and there wasn't...we didn't even get to do our send off!! I regretted a lot because I let others make some of the decisions for me, and tell my now husband and I, "what we wanted", and I'm still not over it.That's your big day, honey! Make it what you want, make it a day to remember and it will be worth it. For some, it's the only day they will ever get completely catered to them...live it up girl if that's what you want and have always picrured!!!!Talk to your fiancé about shared goals for the future...immediate and further down the road together. Talk about what's important to each of you for your special day, and it will come together. Mistakes will happen no matter what, so make sure the day is one to remember!!!Congratulations, and all the best!!!!!