Best Woman...?

You are totally overreacting. I've had loads of 'men of honor" (and no one pitched a fit over that one) and a number of women on the grooms side.

You back down on this one, you have your friend stand with you and you stop getting tripped up by titles and semantics.

I'm sorry, but this is really blowing my mind.

My brothers are the most important people in my life. My big brothers practically raised me when my dad left and my mom had to work 3 jobs.

If some girl thought she could walk into one of their lives and tell him that I couldn't stand up next to him because I'm a female....I would HATE her forever. and so would most of my family. And I would let him know that I don't think she is a good match for him.

Mrs Como: I'm sexist? Lol!! Easy there, ma'am. It was a question. I'm not jealous, it's just my wedding. Sorry u took it that way, I ddnt think so. My best friends are actually not in my wedding because we decided he wld pick the males and I'd pick the females. I'm happy to have her as a maid. I'm just opposed to her being the "best woman". I'm also opposed to having "men of honor". Am I still jealous? Hahaha!! Thanks for all the input ladies and gents! Best to u all :-)

My fiance will have a best woman. This is his best friend from childhood and I would never tell him she couldn't stand next to him. I have met her only once and believe me, I'm not concerned about their relationship outshining ours. He is marrying me, not her. If anything it makes me immensely happy that he has had so many supportive women in his life.

Wow, your position on this is majorly fucked up. Of course his best friend is going to be the one he asks to stand up with him. Gender has zero to do with it.

How pretentious.. you're jealous of his siter??????

You are overreacting 100%

The term best woman is referring to a female version of best man -

Nothing else -

Doesn't mean she is her woman of choice to spend his life with - hence you are the bride. I would be thrilled to be in my brothers wedding, we are too best friends. Starting a marriage giving your FH a hard time because of his relationship with his own sister is probably not the best way to do it!

If it was someone else besides his sister I would be behind you 100%. You are overreacting just a bit. It is not unusual for it to happen. I have attended other wedding where there is a best woman instead of best man.

I think this is becoming more common and I don't at all think it will take away from you as the bride, you should have the people who are important next to you regardless of their gender.

I've seen it done and usually the woman on the groom's side will wear a suit or a dress in the same color as the tuxes or suits and a man on the bride's side will wear a different color suit than the groomsmen (I've seen navy with navy BM dresses).

You say "we" decided the wedding party had to be segregated by gender. Did he actually say that, or are you the "we" who decreed that? Because you should ask your best friends. And he should ask his best friends. If he refused to let you have your best friends st your side that is also fucked up.

My FH best friend is a woman and asked her to be her best woman. I encouraged him to ask her! It's not ridiculous.

What makes this even more absurd and batshit crazy is that you have known for 2+ YEARS that your FH's best friend is his sister. I'm assuming you would also be mad if his mother walked him down the aisle, since he's standing next to a female then as well.

If you both decided he would pick the males and you the females then why is his sister on his side? Was this not a conversation you two had on her standing up their on either side? You could change her title to something less honored. But I do think it is acceptable to have her on his side if it's what he wants

She may be standing up next to him but you're the one marrying him. The attendees of the wedding are coming for you and your FH not for her. I really hope you aren't jealous of your FH and his sisters relationship because to me it sounds like you are. My younger brother and I are really close and I would be devastated if the girl he ends up marrying dislikes me because of it.

It also,wasn't his idea, it was at her insisting that he decided to cave. He actually wanted his best male friend to do it. Haha!! She said she knew him first so she shld have the spot. Idk, I'm just not with it. We are a traditional bunch and the only non traditional thing abt our wedding would be her standing on the male side of the wedding party... I'm sticking to my guns on this one. He isn't fazed either way.

Totally over reacting. Really no difference if the person on his side is male or female. You get to spend your life with him. Stop it

Well then I think you should talk with him and explain it upsets you that she butted in that way, and then you both talk to her together that she doesn't decide this. If she can stand on your side, offer that to her.

Why are you against having a man of honor or a best woman? Are you just being old fashioned? My best friends are all guys. We do everything together and talk about anything and everything. Welcome to 2017. We are all human. Why didn't your FH tell you who he chose for his side before asking her?

You are seriously over reacting. If his sister and him are that close and you start pushing you are probably going to lose. Just saying.

How old are you?

My best guy friend was a "brides man" for me. Ultimately it's not your choice who your husband wants to stand with him. Imagine how you'd feel if he tried to control who you had for bridesmaids? It's up to him and yes, you are overreacting.