Best friend backed out of my bachelorette party

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She couldn’t make it. It sucks, but it is what it is. Let it go.

No one is going to make our weddings as much of a priority as we will. It doesn’t sound like she handled it well, waiting until the last minute, but just because you view her excuse as preventable doesn’t mean she views it the same way. I would be upset too if my best friend backed out, we’ve known each other over 20 years now, but I would give her a chance to explain her side. I understand you feeling like you should cover her portion of the cost, and it’s really sweet of your MOH to refuse and pick it up herself - that would make me feel awkward too but I imagine my MOH would do the same thing.

My best friend did the same. It sucks and it makes it kind of disappointing because they're your best friend so you want them there but like what everyone said, it is what it is.you just have to move on and hope they'll continue their duties well after for the wedding

Let me edit this- some people say to accept the excuse or move on because my wedding is not their priority... I totally get that its not... never thought for a second it was or should be.... but this is the person I have the longest friendship with and this is far from the first time shes made plans with me and not shown up or backed out. I was also more offended knowing she made it to a destination BP for another friend but couldnt make an over night stay for mine. Again, she never even called or text me back to keep me updated about if she was going or not... another friend told me. It's not cool.

My grandmother complained when I told her we were thinking of having an engagement party and a shower. She included bach in her rant but we aren't doing that. She said it's too much to expect of people. My point is that in our current times, maybe we're asking too much of ppl. Back in the day, there was a shower and a wedding. Then a shower, rehearsal and wedding, then an engagement, shower, rehearsal, wedding. Now, it's common to have an engagement party, a bridal shower, a bachelorette weekend (since when is it a weekend sometimes with airfare?), a rehearsal, a rehearsal dinner, a welcome party, a destination wedding week/weekend, an afterparty and a goodbye brunch, with 10 bridesmaids, 10 groomsmen, a best man, 3 flower girls and 2 ring bearers. It's become a circus. I hate to say it, but we aren't the center of everyone elses universe. I think your friend should've given you a better more definitive answer, but expecting everyone to participate in everything can de daunting. She should've been more clear with you, but did she feel safe to have that conversation?

View Quoted Comment Well we talked and I dropped it. I was never hounding anyone. In fact, plenty of people said they couldnt make it but said so in enough time to make alternate arrangements. It's the whole inconsiderate thing that gets me going. Believe me when I say I expect nothing of anything but if you commit to something I'd hope you have enough decency to be up front and tell me if theres an issue ahead of time bc it eventually becomes someone elses weight