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Backing Out of Makeup On Wedding Day

Aurora, on July 2, 2020 at 9:37 PM Posted in Hair and Makeup 0 13

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Hi everyone!

So I had 5 bridesmaids but 2 can’t make it due to current circumstances which I understand but I had bought a package deal for the makeup. And luckily the vendors were willing to work with me on the 2 bridesmaids.
But now I have a mother of the groom and one of my 3 bridesmaids back out too after I reminded them about it. I am paying for it all so I have to figure out because it impacts me.
Is it worth asking anyone else? I have a flower girl that could get hers, or my fiancé sisters could but I really just wanted our getting room ready to be those I am most comfortable around and also I now worry, by asking anyone I am putting a pressure on them that they might want to just back out of last minute due to current situations with Covid.
My one bridesmaid said I should just give them the required number of people paid as the tip. So I am paying for two people that aren’t getting it done and that would be her tip.
What do you think?
Thanks for the help!
I understand people’s concern, it just feel like a bummer I offered to pay and did pay and now it’s just let down news before the big day. I mean, the 1 bridesmaid isn’t even going to hang out with us now as tradition during the getting ready time.

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Cassidy · on July 2, 2020 at 10:21 PM
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If you’re paying, they’re backing out because they don’t want to be in a small space with that many people or they don’t want a stranger that close to/touching their face? Or they are backing out of being a bridesmaid all together? Not that it really matters I just don’t think I’d back out if someone was paying for me to get it done, but that’s not what you asked.
I don’t know if they can count the “unused” part of their fee as a tip. The fee could cover supplies/salon, travel, and staff expenses. If it’s an option you would like to peruse I’d have a discussion with your vendor about the situation and the uneasiness with the virus. If they won’t work with you I don’t see the harm in asking others to join you. You could have them go last and not be there as early as you and the rest of your bridal party that way you’ve moved on to (or getting ready to) the next part of getting ready by that time.
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Aurora · on July 2, 2020 at 10:33 PM
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Hi Cassidy,

It is because they are uncomfortable with having makeup done due to close proximity of the makeup artist.
But my one bridesmaid just called me up now that she isn’t coming to the wedding.
So now I am down to 2 bridesmaids.
I do like you idea about after we have ours done, my fiancé’s sisters could come and have theirs done in my hotel room when we do our wedding party photos. Hmmm good idea.
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Judith · on July 2, 2020 at 11:03 PM
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Having everybody get ready with the bride is not traditional. That is recent, since Reality TV wedding shows. More brides still get married with only 1-2 relatives or friends, unless everyone is far from home and staying in a suite of rooms. Like BP and mothers all shopping with the bride for her dress, the modern fad of getting ready in groups, with most getting pro makeup, is something you really cannot fault bridesmaids for missing.
It is optional.
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Aurora · on July 3, 2020 at 12:27 AM
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I’m not faulting Judith. I am trying to problem solve. And now the one bridesmaid isn’t even coming at all to the wedding.
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Aurora · on July 3, 2020 at 12:29 AM
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Also I am having the smallest bridal party out of any wedding I have been too. So it’s not like I had this extravagant wedding party size.
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Aurora · on July 3, 2020 at 12:31 AM
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Also I allowed to be bummed. Period.
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Aurora · on July 3, 2020 at 12:37 AM
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Thank you for the insight though on modern times and TV influence. Honestly the old way is better. Less stress, and less drama. Appreciate that insight.
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Kimberly · on July 4, 2020 at 12:08 AM
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You’re totally allowed to be bummed. I mean I’m not sure what the reason for your bridesmaids backing out but In any case it’s a bit inconsiderate of them knowing you were paying for their services, I would have offered to pay you my part as a gift and feeling and for backing out.
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Judith · on July 4, 2020 at 4:01 AM
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This one I agree to. It is distressing to make plans, think they are coming together, and see them fall one after another, like dominoes.
I remember my first wedding, how awful to replan everything for 9 months later, for a family medical thing. Then the stress of a FMIL messing with everything. So you do have my sympathy. And like so many now, you have a bridal party all affected by Covid or restrictions. Something I never did.
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Hanna · on July 4, 2020 at 11:53 AM
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Looks like my comment got deleted! I'm guessing I offended Judith--sorry Judith! Basically, I was saying that you have every right to be upset, because regardless of how brides got ready for their weddings back in the day, most brides absolutely get ready with their bridesmaids today. Getting ready with all of my bridesmaids was such a special part of my wedding day, and it makes me very sad that you will have to miss out on this due to Covid. So just wanted to say I feel for you and wishing you the best of luck
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Aurora · on July 4, 2020 at 1:45 PM
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Thank you so much Hanna! You are so sweet!
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Aurora · on July 4, 2020 at 1:46 PM
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Thank you Kimberly.
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Queen Cone · on July 5, 2020 at 5:21 PM
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Wow that is quite a bummer! is there any way to convince them it will be safe to get it done? I know my MUA is willing to wear a mask and only work on person at time while the others are in separate room. she also has sanitizing sprays for makeup to use between clients
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