Bachelorette Regrets

Last big fling?

U should have told them what you wanted (not sure if you did)... that sucks

Get over it. I didn't even have one because my friends are scattered all over the country. I tried to be sympathetic but I can't. You had what sounds like an awesome night with your girls.

Bachelor party #3?!?!? That is just so unnecessary. So is a weekend trip if it's not in everyone's budget.

What did you want to do that you wouldn't be able to do with your friends at later time? ETA: Reread your post, what do you mean by a "big last fling"? If I do have a bachelorette party we wouldn't be doing anything that I would no longer feel comfortable doing after I'm married.

Ummm. You got a bachelorette. Why do you need a "last big fling"? What does such a thing entail? Sorry your bridesmaids couldn't take you on a trip but you aren't entitled to one.

THREE bachelor parties sounds excessive, expensive, and obnoxious. Don't feel bad about the party you had just because your FH's friends decided to throw him three. That is FAR above and beyond.

Plan a weekend trip with your friends at a later time. It can just be a vacation, not for any specific reason.

Spending even the smallest amount of time with your girls should be the focus, not how big or grand it should be. Be thankful for what you had, for there are many others out there that don't even get that! I had a blast with my girls and we just went out to dinner and had a few drinks! Love them for spending that time with me!

It's totally normal to vent, want things and be jelly.

Sometimes if you hold fantasy expectations like a (wild destination bachelorette) reality just can never live up to expectations and daydreams.

Pretty sure I won't be having one at all. Neither will FH. It's not the end of the world.

I think it's gotten to the point where bachelor/bachlorette parties are just out of hand. They don't have to be in Vegas or New Orleans. Sounds like your girls got you a hotel room and y'all had a fun night. I think it's unfair to expect a huge and expensive trip from them. If you're wanting a girl trip to Vegas see if everyone can save up over the next year or two and have a girls trip. It doesn't have to be a "last fling"

@Catie is 1000% right. Also OP, why is your FH having 3 bachelor parties? Just curious

Stop it. You sound like an ingrate. How dare you complain about a hosted party in which the guest of honor was YOU? Stick around and listen to the stories of women who received absolutely NOTHING (or read the post authored today by a bride who had to lasso a coworker, her mother, and her mother's friends to go out to dinner for her BP). Are you suggesting they could have done more? Would you have preferred they paid people to attend? I doubt it. Sorry, not sorry...no sympathy. Thank the ladies who put this party together profusely, and do your best to hide your completely unwarranted disappointment.

I feel like this over-the-top bachelor/bachelorette party thing is all from what we have been seeing on tv and movies. It's really not necessary. If you are committed to FH and ready to get married, why do you need a "last fling?" Why would your FH need three bachelor parties, that seems excessive. Getting married doesn't mean you can't hang out with your girlfriends later on in life. Be grateful for what you have and try to stay focused on the big picture - your marriage.

I had a vision that didn't happen...

So what? That's life. Your friends had a nice party for you; say thank you and be grateful that they cared enough to do that.

Is this honestly the first time you've realized that you don't always get what you want?

I get that your FH having 3 parties might be making you feel not as great about your one party.... but seriously, the fact that you had a girls night at all sounds awesome to me! I dont think it is fair at all to your bridesmaids for you to feel badly that they didnt do something extravagent. Being a part of a wedding gets expensive enough without a "big last fling" party. Be happy Dont dwell on what you wish you could have done. Believe me, I have had to tell myself that for a few things wedding related lol

Also, I am with PP in wondering why his groomsmen are taking him for a third bachelor party.

Not every bach party is what you see in movies, reality tv and Instagram.

I am thankful for the time my girls put into my BP, I really am. As I said the original plan was to get away and I really had my heart set on that. The night just wasn't what I had imagined.

I understand why some of you are calling me disrespectful or whiny and telling me to get over it. I acknowledged that I know how minimal and sad the whole thing is but it's really been eating at me. Lord only knows why FH has had 3 parties. Honestly I am jealous and again I know that is petty and very juvenile.

I know I can do girls trips in the future but I was hoping for a memorable BP and it just feels like I didn't really get one...

I am sorry that you feel disappointed, but I think you'll be doing yourself a favor if you focus on the positive aspects of all this. Your BMs did celebrate your bachelorette with you, and you got to spend quality time with them. Many brides don't get that.

Keep mind that if you had insisted on a big, expensive bachelorette trip, more of your BMs may not have been able to make it because of finances or time off from work and their other responsibilities, and then you would have been upset that the majority of your BMs didn't even go to your bachelorette party.