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Natalie
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Bachelorette Party

Natalie, on January 23, 2020 at 3:05 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 18

Asking for a friend:


A friend of mine is the maid of honor for her cousin's wedding in August 2020. The bride wants her bachelorette party to be in Arizona in late June where the weather on average will be in the 100's. My friend tried to tell her that maybe thats not the best idea since the girls might not be the most comfortable in that heat, but the bride really doesn't seem to care. She said "Well I've never been there in the Summer so I just want to see how it'll be, 100 is warm not hot." My friend even called a few businesses in Arizona like spas and they said people usually stay inside till 5pm and even then the bars are open and outdoor so it'll be hot.


What advice can I give my friend who is trying to convince the bride to be rational on the bachelorette party plans?



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Latest activity by Melle, on January 30, 2020 at 2:05 PM
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    Ahhh.. although Arizona is awesome / maybe everyone invited should talk about it and see if it is a problem and maybe go from there if it’s only one person that isn’t okay with it well I wouldn’t change it — but deff have to consider everyone’s opinions if it’s goi to be that hot
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  • N
    Dedicated July 2020
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    I may have a jaded opinion of this, but I’m regretting changing my actual wedding date to accommodate guests “sensibilities”. I originally wanted my wedding outdoors in June but so many people complained that I agreed to move it earlier to April. I wish I hadn’t given in now because it’s what I wanted.


    People live and survive in Arizona, so those friends need to get a grip and stop being dramatic. My 2 sense.

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  • Anna
    Super August 2020
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    Technically the bride shouldn't be planning her own bachelorette party to begin with... but... i really don't think there's a way to say more than what's already been said. The bridesmaids/invitees are free to decline the event if they don't want to go!

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  • Katie
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    While there's a million details that we don't know, let's not jump the gun in calling the bride irrational...yet Smiley smile One of my best girlfriends lives in Arizona and absolutely loves it!


    - Think about what 100 degrees feels like in your home state vs. Arizona...no matter what, yes 100 is warm, but the bride may not be totally inaccurate about brushing that off. Because it is such a dry heat/low humidity, it's definitely more bearable than say 100 degrees in Georgia or another high humidity area.

    - There are so many people who live there year round and find ways to keep themselves entertained, so maybe your friend was right on track with the idea of booking a spa afternoon for an indoor day activity. Other fun things you could consider that would be in the AC are booking a private yoga/painting/cooking/whatever you're into class, visit botanical gardens, there are lots of different activities for hiking/lakes/rivers that could be fun in the morning before it gets too hot (or heck, bring your swimsuit and take a dip!)

    - A quick google search says average highs are about 100 and lows about 75, once the sun goes down (by 6pm in Arizona in june) that could dip a bit more and be the perfect temp for a tank, shorts, and cute sandals while sipping drinks at the bar patio. While many bachelorettes have fun little gifts/props like sash's, beads, hats, etc. get the girls some sturdy paper fans, a water bottle, and some SPF Smiley smile

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  • Sarah
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    I mean, I’m from a place where it barely ever reaches 100 and spent a week this past year walking around Disney in 100 degree weather and survived and had a blast. I don’t think it’s irrational that the bride wants what she wants. I’ve also been to Arizona in July before and while it was hot, it wasn’t completely unbearable and once the sun began setting it was actually really nice out.
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  • Holly
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    So I live in AZ and just spent my first summer here. I’m not going to lie to you, it’s pretty nasty. You basically have to stay inside at all times and even at night it’s still almost 100 degrees. It’s livable for a couple days but even the locals don’t go swimming during that time because it’s too hot outside for it.
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    First of all, bachelorette parties are not planned by the bride demanding what she wants, even though the hostesses do not want it, and them having to go against what they want. That is one extremely selfish and rude way of behaving toward friends. Friends offer the kind of party, just an evening out most common, or a mini vacation if everyone can afford the time as well as the money, and everyone wants to do it. The bride accepts that as a gift. Or simply declines the party entirely. She cannot demand something you do not want to give. It is nice to cater to a bride's interests if the hostesses are happy with the idea. But the weather in August is extremely hot, many may actually become ill if they do not stay indoors most of the time. And why go all the way to Arizona to stay inside? If you are worried about it, tell her it is not a choice. Period. Plan and offer what you want for all of you. If that does not make you happy, then go out one evening near home. She can have a party in Arizona, plan it and pay all costs for lodging, and all entertainment and drinks, for everybody. That is what a hostess does. But no one need make that her bachelorette. BP and other friends should not feel any obligation to treat it as a wedding thing they must give her. It will be a party she plans, hosts and pays for. And likely those who want to take a mini vacation in Aug in Arizona will go. No one I know would, but maybe some of her friends will . But those who do not want to should not plan it or contribute a cent to any costs. Demanding others pay to do what they do not want to do is prime brideZilla. People should treat it as they do a child with a case of gimme, gimme. Quietly say no, ignore her after that. And later, if you feel like it, offer what the hostesses want, or nothing at all. Brides are not allowed to tantrum or make demands to get what they want.
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  • Kristen
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    Here is where I disagree. Many brides these days at least have a say where they want to go or what they want to do. Each bride and bridal party work differently. I know many of brides that have said that they want to travel somewhere or at least give suggestions to the bridal party, I know my MOH has asked what I want to do because she wants to do something for me but she is not a party planner. I think it is fine she suggests the location provided she pays her own flight but the bridal party can decide the events there. I can agree if she wants to do it there then she should at least help with lodging. I know I want an Air bnb or hotel stay for my bachelorette but I will pay for that and not put that on my MOH. Now from what I read from the original post it did not state she expects them to pay for her to go rather she wants to go. Did the bridal party ask her what does she want to do? Because now a days many bridal parties will ask the hostess. Did she say they have to pay for everything or that she will help or cover it? My friend who got married a little over a year ago told her bridal party that she wanted to travel to San Francisco but there they made the decisions. No one has to go to a destination bachelorette but I do not think it is bad she wants to go where she wants to go. I feel the bridal party telling her no, they have that right, but she may be disappointed. Hopefully not to where she does go crazy bridezilla on them but her expressing her wants is not too bad. At the end of the day the ladies can say no or maybe go and based on what others have said, stay indoors and chill throughout the day, maybe early morning hike or walk, and then party all night.

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    I agree ( and said above) that the party planners should consider what the bride wants, or where she wants to go. But if they clearly are saying they prefer not to do what she wants, because of the extreme heat , pushing it is where bride crosses the line. Arizona ( TX,OK, etc.) natives used to the heat may tolerate it. For those not acclimated, 100 degrees can be dangerous for many, uncomfortable for most. She should gracefully accept their feelings.
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  • Kristen
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    I totally agree because they are paying their route and they should be considered. Let me tel you I am a FL native, born and raised, and I am not acclimated to our hot and humid summers lol. I feel bad for the dog we got in September because walks will not be as lengthy and will be when it is dark ha ha. I think they should just talk to her straight up and if she persistent then she can pay for them to go because that will be the only way. I personally feel you may not get everyone to go travel because that is more money so hope she understands that.

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    I am the second generation born in the US, Sami and Inuit ( also called Eskimo and Lapp.) We hate the heat in New Hampshire in the summer. 😎 Even the Army could not keep me in OK or TX ( much less the Middle East) in summer. Happily, it turns out not many medical personnel are happy to go to bases in Alaska, so it worked out.
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  • Kristen
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    Oh I imagine Alaska is nice during the summer. I know realize why October and November are popular wedding months in FL because of course I am thinking want to avoid scorching heat and kind of the end of hurricane season.

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  • Watts
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    Arizona native here. June is freaking hot. People always say "oh, it's a dry heat, it's easy" LOL. Every single person who moves here that I have met have said they honestly didn't think it would be that bad, and that they are miserable. Do you know where in AZ she is trying to go? Sedona, Flagstaff, Prescott are a little more tolerable in June.
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    Oh, and if you do come remember that heat stroke can happen in minutes out here. You need water AND ELECTROLYTES. Add some Gatorade to your water, trust me.
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  • MrsD
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    I've been to Arizona in May, June, July & August. My grandfather lived there before he passed away so we went 1-3 times a year, and one of my best friends live there. I'd say August is the hottest month. We went in August (high around 110) and we were fine. All the restaurants had their air conditioners running & fans & misters on the patio. We ate outside at several restaurants, hung out at our hotel pool, and walked around the grand canyon one day (we went down in elevation so it was closer to 100 degrees). We dressed for the weather & drank a lot of water. It was super fun & totally fine. It was in the 90s at my bachelorette party in Palm Springs, we still had a ton of fun drinking & going out all day and night.

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    Can the people the bride wants to attend afford to go? if most of them are a yes (even though no you shouldn't plan your on batch party) how long would they go for? if its only a few days then they should do what the bride wants if they are okay with going

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    This isn't her wedding they are disagreeing with, which I would say a bride should not give way on if she feels strongly. This is a party the other ladies are giving. Asking other people to give a party, which requires staying on a mini vacation in a place with extreme weather, is different. It is up to the hosts, not the bride. Bride cannot demand a gift friends do not want to give, in this case, an Arizona bachelorette.
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    My bride i am MOH for lives in arizona and she told me that outdoor activities are not going to fly since her shower and bachelorette are going to have to be in the summer. so she said it would only be ok to be outdoors IF we are by water. so maybe find something indoors to do which for a bachelorette party isn't so hard

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