Bachelorette Party; Did you pay?!

Mine was just this past weekend. I paid for my flight. The girls paid for my share of the hotel. My MOH and a bridesmaid recently told me there was a lot of drama between the BM's about how I should've pay for the hotel room but I guess some BM's stepped up and somehow convinced them that I shouldn't have to do it. I have always paid for the bride and I've been to three bachelorettes.

Over the weekend my MOH paid for a few meals here and there and everyone bought at least one drink, but I always offered to pay or at least said "How much do I owe you" before someone said " no I got it"

I paid for mine. But I'm almost 40 and this is my second wedding. Some pitched in. I think it depends on who is going and their financial abilities.

If like Christine, you're planning your own bachelorette then you absolutely should pay.

I've been on a few bachelorette parties in the past year, and one of them was to NYC. The bride paid for her own flight and accommodations, but we covered her food, drinks, and tickets to the things she wanted to do. It was expensive (I probably spent about $1,200 total for the trip for 2 1/2 days). I just went to Portland, ME for another bachelorette party and it cost about $500 for the whole weekend (Air B&B, food & fun included) which we paid for the bride and her accommodations. I really think it just depends on where you are going and what you plan on doing and the estimated cost.

I think if it's destination (you have to get on a plane for instance), than the bride should pay her way there and for accommodations and leave it up to the BP to pay for food, drinks, or whatever they feel they can afford. If it's more reasonable, than maybe the BP will pay for the bride completely, but it's never an expectation IMO.

My friends tried to make sure I didn't pay for anything but I paid anyways. I didn't give them a choice. HaHa!

My bachelorette is a weekend out of town as well and so far I will be paying for my flight. I will be prepared to contribute to other things as well (if my BM let me lol)

My best friend's bachelorette party was in Vegas and we covered the bride's portion of the hotel. She bought her flight and her meals but we bought her drinks whenever we went out.

My bachelorette party was a weekend at a winery in northern Michigan and they covered the hotel, all my food and drinks. I tried to pay for my meals but they kept grabbing the check out of my hand. Each meal in Michigan was about $20 per person compared to $50+ in Vegas.

Thanks everyone! The decision to go away was somewhat a group idea not just mine specifically. Most of my bridesmaids have never been in a wedding before so maybe it's just that. I planned to take money too, and i am not expecting anything I was just curious.

We are going to Disney for a day , I paid for my own ticket and my MOH has said she will be covering my dinner and some drinks but I'm prepared to pay for anything else.

Mine was a weekend away, but within driving distance as well. I offered to pay my share for the airbnb, food, drinks--but they wouldn't let me spend a single penny. I just felt bad because the two girls that planned/hosted it DID have to fly in for it, though myself and all the other girls were able to drive about an hour. If they are letting you pay your way, its likely because they cant afford to pay for all of your costs, but will likely treat you to other things while there.

I didn't pay, but my friend only had a credit card so I had to pay for her cover charge at the door.

Tradition dictates that you pay for the bride, but I think times are changing on this issue. I would've felt more comfortable if I'd paid for myself since I know my friends are in a different place than I am financially.

At mine, they paid for my accommodations and tickets to events, but I paid for the flight, two of the girls' rooms, and a dinner for everyone. All the drinks/entry fares were waived since we went in a group of all girls so that wasn't an issue. FH paid for all the events his friends went to at his bachelor party and paid for some of their airfare as well. The "surprise" bachelor party ending up costing us 5k...

I'm not really sure how much of a "norm" there is now, because some bachelorettes have become full-blown destination weekends! I'd go by what your friend group typically does - in my friend group we cover meals, accommodations, and tickets to anything but the bride still pays for her flight.

I went to Vegas for a 3 day weekend for my bachelorette and I was really concerned about keeping the weekend affordable so I hijacked several checks!!

My bachelorette was thrown by friends since I opted not to have a bridal party. It was three days and we had a big dinner and went to a winery Saturday. I didn't pay for that, but I split all the hotel costs and food and alcohol otherwise. I guess it depends.

The bride is not supposed to pay. I helped pay for the condo at the beach for mine, but I really wanted to do a weekend and didn't want my friends to have to cover all of that cost and food and I knew that they were getting me a gift

My sis is planning a destination bachelorette in PR & another most likely in Miami (for those that can't attend the other) & I'm paying for my ticket & a portion of the house rental. If the bachelorette is local, brides usually don't have to pay.

I was MOH for a close friend's wedding, and she did New Orleans for bachelorette. She paid for her airfare, but we covered everything else. Honestly, it's a decision to be made based on who you're inviting (are they in school? Single? Working?)

I had JUST gotten out of grad school when she had her bachelorette, and it was a bit of a stretch to have me pre-pay for everything. Most of the other girls weren't in great financial situations (AKA young) so it was overall maybe a bit much. They'd also take shots and leave me with the bill, lol. Again, it depends on your guests. I didn't know many of the guests because they were from a different city, so just try to make as accurate an estimation as you can. That helps a lot for the ones planning your party.

My friends all live in different states. Since traveling is a must, I will absolutely insist on paying my portion.

I think you should help pay I am for mine

The bride usually doesn't pay. I felt so guilty at my bachelorette party when everyone was paying for me, so I tried to pay for things on my own or give cash to people. I'm not comfortable with people spending money on me.