Bachelorette Party; Did you pay?!

Maybe they will pay for your food and drink and other incidentals, but you may want to be prepared for it, jic.

Usually the bride doesn't pay.

ETA: agree with Nonna though, you shouldn't expect that people will pay for you either.

Every bachelorette party (including my own) that I've attended, the bride has not paid. The exception to this has been on multi-day trips, the bride has covered her own meals / incidentals.

Every bachelorette party I've gone to, the guests split the costs including whatever drinks or food the bride has. I don't think I'd give you grief about it but I would find it odd. Is this weekend away something that your guests couldn't afford if you didn't contribute?

We are renting a house by the beach for the weekend and i am contributing for my portion. my MOH was surprised and had offered to cover me, but i don't want people to feel like they have to pay my way.

Not normal - you're not supposed to pay.

But if no one is paying, I would do the same and pay my way because it's awkward. But the bride doesn't pay and if she offers, the group should be saying no

Mine is a weekend away in 2 weeks! I bought my flight and contributed to the condo we are renting, but only because one girl backed out (don't even get me started on that drama). I expect down there I'll be buying drinks here and there, or maybe my own lunch and stuff. I definitely won't be like one bride whose bachelorette weekend I attended, who stood at the bar saying "I need another drink now..." waiting for someone to step up and buy it.

Normally the bach party is a hosted event by the bridal party or close friends/fam. Weekend getaways make it a bit tricky. On all of the getaways I have been to for bach parties the bride paid for her travel (flight) but not accommodations or anything while we were there.

I think because it's going to be a weekend away requiring accommodations, then it's fair for you to contribute. My bridal party paid for my meals/drinks for my bachelorette party, but we just hung out locally.

I paid for nothing on mine, but it wasn't a trip, and everyone stayed with me. I think it is common for the bride to be covered but if it is a full on trip I wouldn't expect it (and you should not expect anyone to cover you anyway).

I think the destination bachelorette parties have become too expensive. It is already enough that everyone is spending their money on a vacation in your honor. They shouldn't be paying for your expenses on top of it. Maybe a night out, but I would not contribute to an entire weekend of expenses for a bride. I think bachelorette and bachelor parties need to go back to being just a night out instead of these expensive trips everyone has come to expect.

I'm sorry but the bride shouldn't put in a single penny.

Let me clarify, there is no flight. It's Put in Bay, a three hour drive from our houses.

I've never been on a bach party where the bride has paid for the hotel/airbnb. I've only been on one that required a flight - and I can't remember who paid. We took a train for another party and I'm pretty sure we covered the train ticket - but it was only like $100 - split among 10 girls it wasnt really a big deal.

Like Ella, I paid my contribution of our cabin since it's a weekend getaway. I'm the one who wanted to go away (as did my girls) but I don't feel like they should be paying for my accommodations.

Also I want to add there is a difference if you asked for a weekend away or if you said do something affordable and they picked a weekend away.

If it's something you suggested, then I do think it's fair for the bride to chip in for flight and accommodations. If you said something low key or never said anything and they picked a weekend away, then I feel like it should be on them

We are going about 2 hours away, and the host has not asked me to contribute to the hotels or any other fees. I will be bringing money for drinks and food though.

My MOH keeps telling me I won't pay for anything, but it makes me uncomfortable. Half my girls have to fly and it's a full weekend trip.

I am helping limit the girls' expenses by using my inlaws lake house for one night and also buying all the alcohol. I have been to bachelorette parties where it was BYOB in the hotel before going out or in an airbnb and people did not share or drink much. I got 4 handles so that everyone feels free to partake, and we can make big batches of margaritas and pina coladas.

Sadly my MOH hasn't stepped up at all. She got her dress and that's basically the last time I saw her (months ago). I mentioned my bachelorette, she just didn't plan. I've planned my party. I made a FB event page and MOH never even said she is going. I'm just expecting to pay, but no...like many others have said, it's not really typical for us brides to pay.

@Christine

You really shouldn't be throwing your own bachelorette party. Since the BMs are not hosting you definitely should not expect them to pay for you.

It is typical for brides to pay for parties that they are hosting and planning.