Bachelorette parties - over the top or not so much?

I'm letting my craziest bridesmaid plan my party, lol. I did tell her that I don't want any strippers though. The idea of a strange greasy man touching me makes me really, really, really uncomfortable. I don't know what she's planning, but I know we'll have an awesome time!

Considering my younger sister is my MoH, I don't think I have too much to worry about... she knows what I like and dislike. Whatever she decides is whatever she decides though. I want it to be a surprise, I trust her, and how often will she get to plan someone's bachelorette anyway? I think I'll let her have her fun while she can... and no one said I couldn't get her back later if she goes overboard. *smirk*

I'm thinking that my BP will plan something crazy - if not just to have personal license to embarrass the hell out of me and they know I can't do a thing about it. ha!

I'm just curious if anyone is completely vetoing the craziness and if you think your BP will listen... lol

Same here I want to lay down the law but it is not my calling and both my maid of honors are pretty crazy..

Lol, I doubt any bridal party would totally listen. Unless you've truly gone zilla and they are terrified of you. But, in my opinion, craziness is okay as long as everyone is having a good time and it's all in fun. I did, however, stipulate that there will be no photographs taken at my bachelorette party of FH's bachelor party.

Granted, FH's best man is a very nice super geek, so they might end up at the Apple store looking at the new iPad cases or something. And I'm totally okay with that, lol!

We have decided to skip the separate parties and are having an extremely "tame" outing if you will.... We plan on going to dave and busters, its a restaurant /bar/ game place.

I dont know what my matron of honor will do for me! we joked about things she knows i dont get wild like that with strippers but i have a feeling we will be making a trip to center folds where men strip

Well I was lucky in that the one I chose to head the party up didn't go too nutzo because she knows it will come back on her when she gets married, lol. They made me wear a tiara and feather boa but that was the worst of it. We just went out to dinner, out dancing and had fun just being our normal crazy selves. Nothing too out of the ordinary for us because we tend to be a tad nutzo ourselves, lol

We had joint bachelorette parties, put on by friends. One was at Dave & Buster's (restaurant with arcade games). The other was at a traditional Korean bath house. No strippers were involved unless you count the Korean grandmothers who were nude in the women's baths. ;-)

I wanted to do a spa party, but I'm not sure if it'll work out, because of location. We're cramming everything into the wedding weekend, so the bachelor/ette parties will be on the Friday before our Sunday wedding. We wanted to make sure a lot of our out-of-town friends could come.

But what will probably end up doing is either going to a spa that has a sauna, steam room, pool and get mani/pedis or just hang out at the pool in the hotel and then all of us will meet up at a restaurant/bar to have a joint party. My FS is older, so his step-sisters and friends are older too. I don't want to exclude them because of it, but I don't want them there for the giggling/fun part!

Either way, I told my BMs that I'm cool with playing silly games and wearing a tiara or sash, but I'm not going to be getting crazy drunk or anything.

Sorry, I'm wordy.

My sister is my MOH and I told her no penis things at my party lol. My mother will be there as will my FMIL and I totally would be embarrassed. We are making it 21 and older though and it will be at my cousins beautiful house. Thats all I know. She is making it a surprise for me.

I pretty much told them no strippers, no decorative penises and I will only wear a tiara/veil or a sash.. not both.

Considering my mother hosts adult-theme birthdays with penis, vagina, booty and booby cakes. I wouldn't be shocked at what she may have in mind for my bachelorette party.

I am tellin my MOH that I want it held at my house...maybe dinner before and then my house because I have two younger BM that will not be allowed into the bar and I want them also involved. I am inviting FMIL and my mom, which my mom wont care but Im not sure about FMIL so I am thinking about asking to hold all penis things until later into the night.

We are definitly a crazy bunch, my MOH has already informed me that we are going to Vegas, taking Stripper 101 Classes, going clubbing all night, Def going to Thunder Down Under among other things! My Bridesmaid are wild & crazy but I love them! We all went to college together! Me & FH are having seperate Bach Parties and I am 110% sure he will have strippers - I'm ok with that! Its a right of passage! lol

I have no clue but i kno its gonna be crazy i warned them but im just gonna let loose n enjoy the one night the theme i heard is "love, sex and magic" crazy i cant wait

I don't have a wedding party, so I can't say anything from my side of it. But I have known brides to kind of "lay down the law". Most times you have to indulge the party planners a little bit, but they are usually respectful and let you take off the tiara or what not after they get pictures. A little goes a long way with those additions, but I would def say you can say no strippers. Your prerogative and you can veto that, fo sho! Have fun!

My MOH, and BFF asked me what was okay and not okay. I told her I wanted it tasteful, because some of the older ladies attending, I didn't know well. The only 'man parts' item was my martini cup, and you couldn't even tell that's what it was (it even lights up!) and them we played pin the kiss on mr schmidt, which was a cartoon man, in boxers and it had kiss stickers you had to try and aim on 'kissable' areas (I went first, bullseye in the boxer area, then averyone after took to the boxer area and avoided the face..lol)

I would tell your MOH about what make you uncomfortable and what would be okay, ans stress, that if things are h appening or brought out that would make you uncomfortable, that you will be upset and possibly leave

I'm apparently more conservative than I would like to admit. The thought of having a raunchy bachelorette party makes me incredibly uncomfortable. My BMs know how I feel and I think we are all just going to go out for a girls night. One of my BMs wants to go on a short spa weekend/bar night, which sounds good to me.

My girlfriends asked for a few ideas, and I laid down the law a bit - no clubbing (I'm claustrophobic and hate crowds), no penis veils, and nothing super-expensive - I don't want anyone to feel like they can't afford to attend, which might be the case if we did a trip or a really fancy dinner. I suggested we go to one of those karaoke bars where you can rent a private room.