Babysitter on site of wedding

Thats true thank you for the advice everyone i will think about it all

Talk to your brother and see how he feels about it. If he is comfortable with getting a babysitter, he will likely know how to find someone qualified to take care of a child with disabilities. Depending on how far away he live from you he may even be able to bring a sitter he is familiar with.

I am gonna pay a friends sister to be the babysitter at my wedding.

If your brother is local ask him who they use and reach out to that person.

Wishing you were located in NC. I have taken care of children with special needs for 6 years!

@Tyjean I am actually located in NC. Our wedding is in monroe.

We will have to hire someone to watch the kids for the wedding because we have a 1 year old, 2 2 year olds and my 4 year old niece with disabilities. So they go to bed pretty early. And each of those families are coming from out of state. My brother is coming from PA. So bringing someone with him is not an option.

Personally, I'd leave it to the parents on if they want to care for their own kids or use their typical sitter. Is it nice to offer to have a sitter there, of course...but are parents OK with leaving their kids with someone they don't know? Ask the parents for their thoughts before hiring someone.

"maybe i can ask people not invited to come and be the sitters" translates into "You're not good enough to come to my wedding and pay for the privilege, but you're good enough to provide free labor.

I think you can afford babysitters in your personal budget since your guests are pretty much paying for everything else.

Does your brother have a babysitter he already uses that might know your neice well? If not, is she in school? Some younger teachers might be willing to do a babysitting job like that!

Ask your brother what he wants. My nephews will be picked up by my sisters friend after dinner and babysat at home so they can all stay and party

I have talked to the parents of all of the children and they all have said they would like a babysitter and they are also willing to help pay. So I just need to find a sitter. Since they are all coming from out of town, it is not an option to ask one of their teachers. They are all in school/day care.

I'd think you'd need two babysitters. What if one needs to use the bathroom? What if one is changing a diaper and the other 3 kids want to run amuck?

I'd look for professionals in your area. I'm sure there are websites you can find to help find qualified people to help you on your big day. Best of luck!

Here's a website to help you find a qualified sitter. I think you'll need at least two people, possibly three if your niece needs 1-1 care.

https://www.care.com/babysitters

I'm allowing kids but it will be the parents responsibility to make sure theyre cared for.

First of all, anyone in the wedding -- including the flower girls and ring bearers -- should be invited to the entire reception and not be cast off into another room with a babysitter. Secondly, no guest should ever be asked to watch someone else's child. That's the job of the parents and no one else. Third, you don't insult someone by not inviting them to the wedding, but asking them to come and watch the children of the guest. Cringe.

Finally, I don't know a parent (especially one of a child with disabilities) who is comfortable with a complete stranger hired by someone else watching his/her child.

The parents of the children i need a sitter for specifically asked me if there was going to be a sitter because they wanted to enjoy the night out with friends and everyone instead of worrying about their child. Especially since they young and they have strict bed times. I am not asking a guest to watch them because I feel that would be rude. I am trying to work it out with my brother to see what he is comfortable with.

If parents decide to bring their kids to a wedding with them, then they're choosing to make celebrating your wedding a family activity. They're bringing their kids with the intent to spend time with them and enjoy an evening with their kids. That means they're choosing to bring their kids and watch then during the event.

If parents don't want to spend the evening with their kids, they arrange for their own childcare and RSVP for just the adults. Arranging for childcare at a wedding isn't the responsibility of anyone but the parents.

We invited kids to our wedding because we wanted to celebrate with them. They were more than entertained by the dancing and they were all watched by their own parents who decided to bring them.

My venue had some babysitters listed on the recommended vendors list. My niece (flower girl) will be babysat by her paternal grandmother in a hotel room in our venue.

Ummmmm is Melissa for real? All our guests were close and guaranteed had we allowed everyone bring their children, NO ONE would have wanted to watch them. I love children, can’t wait to have them, always ask to hold babies, sometimes prefer them to adults. I would be insanely pissed if a friend of mine asked me to watch 25 children at her wedding where I could be drinking and dancing. Also @Del love you, you give great advice but I disagree that everyone, if a bride asked them to, would grin and bear it because she was the bride. If it’s someone I’m close enough to (brother, sister, first cousin, maid of honor), “lol no I will be drunk and dancing in the photobooth. Don’t give me children to care for.” If it was a more casual acquaintance, “ah sorry, I’m not comfortable for caring for strangers children in that environment.” ETA - I think care.com is a great resource but with your nieces disabilities, her dad may be more apt to watch over her or leave her with a trusted sitter. We had a 2, 4, 7, and 9 year old in attendance and their parents and aunts and uncles and grandparents “watched” them.