Baby shower after multiple kids?

To answer the question, I think it's funny that everyone has accepted wedding showers for second+ marriages (or wedding showers for people who live together) but still scoff at the idea of second baby showers.

If I ever manage to get pregnant, would I turn down a baby shower for my second child? No. lol.

In theory you shouldn't NEED more baby stuff because babies are babies and they're okay with hand me down clothing, bouncers, and swings. But if people want to have a party, so what? If it offends you, give the person diapers and be on your way.

^ This. Also my SIL gave away a bunch of her son's things to friends that had kids after her, but now is expecting. My nephew is only 2, but she still needs things because she gave some stuff to friends who were needing them.

I've been to a "Sip and See" for a second child. It happens after the baby is born (usually after the 2 month shots) so people can meet the new baby and sip a little champagne to celebrate. Some people will bring a gift and some will not. There is usually not a registry.

My cousin had a baby "sprinkle" which was super tacky because on the invitation it said it was JUST a sprinkle and she has everything she needs, so bring gift cards ONLY. It was a miserable party. And we sat around her as she opened like 40 cards with money and gift cards in them.

I was always raised that you get one. FSIL gets one every time she pops one out. I've determined that it must be a cultural thing.

Totally dependent on the couple and/or the mom to be.

Janeen - we also don't do showers for second (or third) weddings....

But I am not sure why that should include people who live together..... they are still starting a new chapter of their life together and the shower is to celebrate that.....the reason you don't have showers for second of third marriages is because those people already bought you a gift - just because it didn't work out changes nothing.....

Bridal showers are to shower the new couple with gifts for their home. If they already have a home, they don't need items traditionally. Ohhhhh but we tell people "don't you want to upgrade?"

Why wouldn't that same logic apply to babies?

they are still starting a new chapter of their life together and the shower is to celebrate that

So....we shouldn't celebrate the birth of a second child?

I personally think its tacky and it's extra tacky if they are close in age and the same sex.

Showers should be for first born only, after that it does look quite tacky - especially if the kids are close in age and same gender.

My sister has 5 kids. She was given a shower for her first one (a boy...and she registered for it) and a sprinkle for her 4th one (because it was her 1st girl...she didn't register). I think it totally depends on the family and circle of friends. In mine, yes, a baby shower (where you register for gifts) for every child is considered tacky.

I just recently hosted a 2nd shower for FSIL. I was very clear to tell guests it wasn't about presents, but about celebrating another member of the family! If anyone asked about gifts, we told them to bring diapers!

Janeen, NOPE. I also don't agree with "Upgrading"

I can't speak for every situation. If I am blessed to have another one it would be at least a 14+ year gap. I can understand. But if you have a FSIL that pops out a same sex baby every single year. For the past 4 years.. I'm sure they don't need to be showered with more outfits and baby accessories. I can understand celebrating life.. which I'm all for Sip and See's and the like but not baby showers. It's being greedy.

Janeen - with your logic anyone who doesn't live at home with their family shouldn't have a shower. I bought a house a 20.... I had the basics to live from that age......

I celebrate every baby my friends have with something small - and usually delivered dinners to mom... but that is differnt than a party that's focus is gifts

I agree it depends on the situation. I did find it rude when someone on my Facebook what having her THIRD child and planned her shower herself and was complaining about the stress.

I usually see a large baby shower for the first child, and then the other ones are usually smaller - immediate family and closest friends. I don't see why it's an automatic thing to only have a shower for the first if people want to host another one. A 3rd child is just as important as the 1st child.

I could see it being annoying if a couple is having kids every two years and each shower is 50 people, yeah. Use logic and prudence. But if people want to throw a small shower for kid #2, I don't see why that's such a bad thing.

My mom has always told me after the 1st child, showers are tacky. Now. I do have cousins who are on 4 or more children and they have a shower. EVERY TIME. That gets some major side eye from a lot of our family members. As MAC said, of someone threw you one, I think that's ok. My MOH had her second baby last July. Some of us girls at work did ask her if we could throw her a shower, and she threw out the idea of a "Baby-Q". She didn't register at all, it was more of a co-ed get together to just celebrate the new baby. Some people brought gifts, and some just came to help celebrate.

Also - I dont think you ever throw your own baby shower.... first baby or 400th

Yes, only one baby shower.

Sprinklers are becoming more popular for 2nd baby and so on. I don't really see it as tacky but I can see how others would. If you haven't already found out the gender maybe you could do a gender reveal party instead?