Baby shower after multiple kids?

I personally think bridal and/or baby showers are gift-grabby the second time around. I had my bridal shower last August. I'm currently pregnant and if I were to have a baby shower, it'd most likely happen this August. Two showers a year apart makes me extremely uncomfortable, so I've declined to have a baby shower, even though this is my first.

As far as second baby showers, I think having one and calling it a "sprinkle" is still just as rude. I don't agree with the different gender or years apart arguments. If you're adult enough to have a child, you're adult enough to do so without needing gifts or any other form of financial support from your family and friends.

I'm a stickler for etiquette but who cares. Celebrate the child and the parent, eat some cake and hopefully they serve wine.

I hate baby showers for the most part. However, I never thought of someone as tacky or gift grabby for having a shower for their second or third kid. Who cares? Especially if that person's friends and family want to do it.

O&S, I must have really affected you with my opinion from over a month ago. For that, I'm sorry.

Niece had a shower without telling anyone she was putting the baby up for adoption. Had picked out a family and all. No one knew until the day she gave birth... All the presents received she sold and took a vacation. When she was pregnant with the 2nd she was mad no one wanted to do another shower. According to her it wasn't "fair" I got a shower for my 1st when her due date was sooner. And she didnt have any baby stuff anymore. By the 4th kid she got over trying to get more showers. Extremely tacky and in her case manipulative.

I've definitely heard that additional baby showers are tacky after the first one, unless the second kid is a different gender than the first. But even in that case, it's usually a little smaller. I agree with those who think a small shower makes sense when the kids aren't close in age because the mom likely got rid of a bunch of stuff.

I do think it's okay to have a celebration for the mom for additional babies, but not a shower. My circle typically throws a lunch or dinner in the mom's honor and celebrates her and the new baby. Usually there's no gifts, or maybe one group gift for something we know she really wants. In this case, there's no registry.

I don't consider it tacky. I've been to multiple showers and have never thought anything of it. My daughter had 2 girls within 4 years and she didn't have another shower. It was her choice because I would have thrown her another shower. FSIL had two showers within 4 years because her first was a boy and the second was a girl.

I guess it's up to your family and friends. My crew likes to get together and party. Any excuse is accepted.

I say have as many as you want. It's up to you. My FSIL is having twins girls and just had her first child (a girl also) 2 years ago. We're throwing them a shower bc.... we can... some people aren't going to want a shower and some people aren't going to want to throw one. Just like some people are going to think it's tacky and others aren't. I don't think it matters. The party is for the baby(s) not the parents.

My son is 5 and half and I never had a shower with him. Fh and I want a child between the 2 of us so even if it's a boy they will have a big enough gap. I think full blown shows when the kids are close in age and same sex will get a lot of side eye. I was actually kinda hurt by my moh when she said she thinks the second baby should never have a shower. I think every situation is unique and you treat it as such.

I personally think it is tacky. I would personally only have one.

FYI

I don't think its tacky at all. Everyone I have known with multiple children have always had a baby shower for each pregnancy. The shower is also to welcome the new baby and shower them with gifts of love helping the parents with the expense of it all. I had two showers (even though they were 16 years apart and different genders) but I would still have them even if it were closer together. Its kind of like saying well your son just had a birthday party last month you cant have a birthday party for your daughter this month.... you honor one and not the other? Even though you have stuff from the first baby, usually they get stained with baby food and get thrown out or they are outgrown so fast you already handed them down to others before your new pregnancy and you have begin from scratch again.... maybe its a hispanic thing down here in South Florida but my family will always honor every pregnancy and throw a shower of love for each and every new member of the family regardless of what anyone thinks.

@janeen , your comment is uneccessary, babies are apart of marriage

Some of you get really nasty over . Simple question. I wont be doing any more posting. I dont have the room for the negativity

I had a baby shower with my third child, but that's because I never got one with my first and second child! So I think it depends on your situation!

Bye Miracle. Don't ask questions and get pissed when people give responses that aren't the same with yours.

I didn't read the comments. I don't have to.

It's tacky.

And why did you post this here if your wedding isn't for

SEVEN YEARS?????

I call troll, trolly, troll-y troll.

Oh for fuck fuckity fuck's sake! You got SO many constructive and helpful answers... even from Janeen. Get some thicker skin, sweetie. Welcome to the internet.

@Miracle

LOLOL Miracle have you EVER seen anyone get baby stuff at a wedding shower?

Babies are not a part of marriage because guess what, people who are unmarried have babies and people who are married may not have children. That is, without a doubt, the dumbest thing I have heard all day. Congratulations, that is quite an accomplishment.

I bet anyone who is so vehemently against it and is like "I would NEVER do that" are the ones on babycenter who have a second and third shower because they realize "oh shit, this isn't what I thought it would be."

For the record, my son is 10. I don't have a single baby item. And it's likely I wouldn't have a shower anyway because I didn't even want a wedding shower. But i"m not going to piss on women who want to celebrate their second child's birth but not side eye someone who has lived on her own since she was 20 and wants material items that are just as unnecessary.