Baby Fever

I would prefer to have a natural delivery in a hospital with no epidural if I could have my way!

We both want 2 children. FH would love twins. I'm pretty indifferent. I just want two babies - doesn't matter if it's twins or not! We're hoping to have kids "the old fashioned way" lol but FH has a potential for having a decreased sperm count so if we try for a long time and don't have any success we would look at other methods!

I have one son (he'll be 6 this Saturday!). He was born 4 days before his due date. The night before I went into labor, I had been out with my now-husband and my brother who had made a surprise visit (he was working over the road and happened to be close enough to stop by/he lives on the other side of the country). We went out bowling, went to a bar to play pool, and then stayed up late playing cards and listening to music. I had even said I feel like he's going to stay in there forever (even though I was still not horribly uncomfortable). Labor and delivery went smoothly. I had my first contraction at 12:30 am (woke up to go pee and then had a contraction), went to the hospital around 7 am (small town, only 5 minute drive to the hospital) and was 4 cms dilated. Got my epidural (FINALLY!) at 9 am where I was almost 7 cms dilated. Labor slowed down after the epidural. I started pushing at about a quarter to noon and after 45 minutes of pushing, he was born a healthy 6 pounds 4 ounces and 19 inches long at 12:29 pm (so 1 minute off from being exactly 12 hours!). I was discharged from the hospital the very next morning (was at the hospital for little more than 24 hours). I'm glad everything went smoothly for me but I hear it can be far worse for so many. Just be sure to have a backup plan! Thanks for the post! It's always fun telling my birth story since my son will be our one and only. (I decided to get my tubes tied at 26 (I was 22 when my son was born) because I got horrible postpartum depression and never wanted to feel like that again).

Do you have children? If so, how many and what was your delivery process? No, not yet. We plan to start trying mid to end 2020. Our wedding is July 20, 2019.

If you do not have children, how many do you want and by what means? Natural? Adoption, Surrogacy? Sperm donor? We would like at least two kids, but four is our ideal number. That will all depend on income, savings, the size home we are in, and our health insurance. We ideally will have children naturally but for sure in a hospital. The local hospital to our area has very nice birthing suites you can upgrade to that more resemble a hotel (for extra $ obviously). I wouldn't want to risk having to be transported to a hospital if something went wrong at a birthing center or home birth. I also don't think we will use a midwife.

I want twins too girl!!! I call it the 2-for-1 special!!! lol

I have a daughter who is 12 now and I had her in a hospital. I wanted a natural birth but her father, my husband, passed away two weeks before she was born so I opted for an epidural to help with all the pain I was feeling both physical and emotional. I was in labor for approximately 36 hours and had multiple complications. (this was odd because I had a normal healthy pregnancy) BUT.... If I didn't have her in a hospital situation there is no way she would be alive today. She had a rough birth and would have died without the assistance of my doctor. I am forever grateful to the hospital staff who saved my daughters life!

I am in no way against home births with midwife, I think it sounds idyllic and I applaud anyone who goes this route. Good luck to you and your hubby!

I have an 8 year old and I had a natural birth at the hospital. We also found out on our honeymoon that I'm pregnant! I'll have a hospital birth with a midwife again this time, and fingers crossed for another natural birth!

My fiance is thinking maybe two at most but we'll see how true he sticks to that after our first one. Twins do run in my family so I think it'll be hilarious if we have one the first time and twins the second. If anything else, I would like to have at least ONE biological. We're definitely open to adoption later down the line as well. I can't wait!

We have two children, a boy (5) and a girl (almost 4). Neither were really planned, but they are both blessings and we love them more than we could have ever imagined. My birthing stories are more the cautionary "here are some of the things that can go wrong," but everything worked out fine and we have two happy and healthy kids.

When I was pregnant with our son the doctor noticed a problem with his kidneys, and after seeing specialists and having multiple scans they advised to induce labor at 37 1/2 weeks. Being induced didn't really go well, and after 24 hours of very minimal progress despite our best efforts, we decided it was best to have a cesarean so my son's kidneys could be better examined. He has had two surgeries and needs annual scans for the foreseeable future to make sure his kidneys are still growing well, but he's a normal five-year-old by all accounts and we are so grateful. I was on the pill when I got pregnant with my daughter and did not skip or miss a pill just was part of that very small percentage. My second pregnancy was much easier, my first I had hypertension and horrible acid reflux every single day, but due to the previous cesarean experience, my doctor strongly recommended against a VBAC. We went ahead and scheduled a cesarean around my due date. What I remember about our daughter's birth is going into the OR and my FH being sent to change so he could be in the room with me, there were several people all around me and I don't really remember the chatter until one of the nurses said they couldn't find the baby's heartbeat and the second came to help and found a heartbeat that the first said was mine not baby's. The next thing I knew someone popped their head up and told me they had to get the baby out immediately, and I swear within seconds I heard her make a sound, not crying it's hard to explain. I found out later that my placenta had detached and I was bleeding pretty significantly, baby girl wasn't breathing, and if we hadn't been at the hospital both of us most likely would have died. In fact, every single nurse and doctor that came in told me I was lucky to be alive. Our daughter got rushed out of the room before they even got me stitched up (I didn't even get to see her face), my FH was waiting outside and had no idea what was going on, and we had to plead with the hospital to let me see our daughter (not hold her, just see her because I was bedridden due to my bleeding) before flight for life took her to another facility where they could better care for her. She was in NICU for 11 days and the doctors insisted on keeping me for 6, but I was DEVASTATED to go home without her. My FH's "adoptive mother" (not really, but that's the easiest way to explain) was an absolute angel and went to sit with baby girl every day for several hours a day and sent pictures and updates on how she was doing. This was probably all WAY TMI, and obviously just one of those freak things that can happen, I just thought I'd share because I never planned to have a cesarean, but I can't regret listening to the medical advice I got because it probably saved all three of us.

I was actually terrified when I found out I was pregnant both times that I would have twins because my dad's mom is a twin and there are twins on my mom's side as well. The kids are very close in age and very close to the same height and weight, so a lot of people ask me if they are twins. I am glad that they are so close in age, they are interested in a lot of the same things and enjoy playing together. They fight like all siblings, but they can also be really sweet to each other and defend each other (usually my headstrong daughter defends her very sweet and a little sensitive brother).

Best wishes to you and your husband!

Our wedding is 10/10/20 and conveniently my IUD comes out in March 2021. So we will have 6 months of not worrying about this at all haha. Then I plan to just get my IUD out and start "trying" but I'm ok if it takes a little while. I'd like to have 3 kids. My reason is kind of morbid but my FH brother committed suicide when we were 15 and left him alone with no other siblings and I just hate that for him. So I'd like at least 3 so that if something happens to one of them, the other isn't left alone in the world. Also I have a bunch of 1/2 siblings that I don't really have a relationship with and I always wanted a big, super close family.

I want allll the drugs during birth and definitely in a hospital hahaha. I'm terrified of the actual birthing process but I'm very very excited to be pregnant. I've always felt my sole purpose in life is to be a mom honestly. I don't have any kids yet but I'm very excited about it.

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Thank you for the good vibes!

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Congrats on your miracle baby!!!! Thank you for the good wishes.

I don't really want kids. neither does he. But we think that's also something we can revisit in the future. I'm rather young so I've definitely got time to figure that out. For now we would like to enjoy our newlywed life just us

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I love how detailed your plan is. I hope all your baby dreams come true!

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2021 is right around the corner! Hopefully we'll be raising our babies around the same time, maybe they can go on play dates.

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Thank you for the advice. I will definitely have a backup plan in the unfortunate event that my initial plan doesn't pan out.

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I'm sorry about your negative experiences with childbirth. I'm happy to hear that your children are healthy now.

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Okay so maybe I should reconsider. Thank you for sharing!

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OMG, thank you for sharing. Your children are beautiful. I love the phrase "forcibly evicted". Hilarious!

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I don't think of it as negative experience, the fact that they are both thriving and running around with no health issues is a positive in my eyes. My little girl is about to turn 3 and is waaaay to smart for her own good and my little boy just turned 1 years old 3 months ago. Just be prepared for everything lol

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I wish you much success when you try to conceive.