The Bride
Master March 2019

Baby Fever

The Bride, on June 18, 2019 at 9:18 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 100
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In a little over two years, my husband and I have plans of being first-time parents. We would love to have twins, specifically a boy and a girl. After much research, we've decided that the best option for us is to have a home birth with the support of a midwife.

Do you have children? If so, how many and what was your delivery process?

If you do not have children, how many do you want and by what means? Natural? Adoption, Surrogacy? Sperm donor?


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  • Heather
    Expert October 2019
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    I have 2 boys (4 and 1). Both birth experiences in hospitals. My first I had a 23 hour labor and an epidural. He was born with no complications, healthy and I enjoyed the experience. He was born on his due date.

    My second was another story. I had a very fast labor. Almost didn’t make it to the hospital. I wasn’t even fully admitted before he made his grand entrance. No time for an epidural. When he was born, the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck 3 times and his face was blue. Luckily the drs were very fast, and he’s perfectly fine today. But he was very closely monitored in the hospital for the time we were there.

    Ultimately, I’m glad I was in a hospital for both my births. I do have friends who have had multiple natural home births, and they loved their experiences as well. There’s no wrong way to have a baby. Just make sure to do your research and have a backup plan in place in case of complications.
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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Thank you for sharing. What an experience! Apparently it's super rare to actually deliver your baby on the due date so your first son is so lucky.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    We plan to start the IVF process with a sperm donor within a year of the wedding. I’ll be the one carrying and am hoping for the birth process to be as natural as possible, but in a hospital setting. I’m also very realistic and know that many women plan for natural births and things don’t always go the way we want, so I’m open to medical interventions if necessary.
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  • Desiree
    Dedicated October 2019
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    I agree with PP. Just do your research and have a back up plan because sometimes things don’t always turn out the way we like. I have 3 boys (16, 3, and 1 1/2) all of which were nearly 9lbs. 🤦‍♀️

    My first was a vaginal birth but he had a broken collarbone due to his size and my small stature. (I’m only 4’11) My other 2 boys were emergency c-sections and it was extremely scary. Both were in distress during labor. Their heart rates dropped, and my 3 year old ended up having the umbilical cord around his neck.

    Labor is different for everyone and blessings to those whose delivery is a breeze or who can do it without medication. That just wasn’t the case for me.
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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Congrats! I wish you much success in your marriage and pregnancy!
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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Im definitely praying for a fairly easy going delivery.
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  • Desiree
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Yes! I hope it is. I wouldn’t wish my unfortunate experiences on anyone. I’m just thankful they were all delivered safe & healthy, and I pray the same for you when your time comes.
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    Sometimes it doesn't happen "on schedule" -- it took us 8 very long, frustrating years to have our "miracle baby." We'd pretty much given up hope when I finally got pregnant. I had some difficulties and spent the first few months on bed rest and had a giant "AMA" (advanced maternal age) stamped on my very thick maternity medical chart. But, that miracle baby has been the joy and center of our lives for the last 24 years. It's hard to imagine she's a married woman now, and, hopefully, in a few years, she and our darling SIL will make us grandparents! (Delivery was fairly uneventful, but at 34 weeks my doctor started telling me it could be "any day." Yeah, the only time daughter was late for anything in her life was being born at 42 weeks. Thinking you're going to have your baby "any day" for 8 weeks is not that much fun.... Smiley winking ) Good luck with your plans!

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  • Merline
    Super February 2020
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    We plan on trying about 1.5/2 years after getting married, we will also be first timers. Ugh I would love twins, two boys, but will love the littles God has planned for us. My mom had easy pregnancies with all of us and told us if she wasn't knocking on 40 she would have had 2 more! My sister has 3 kids, she had a lot of morning sickness with her oldest but had extremely easy natural births for all 3. My brothers also have kids and I'm currently using my 3 month old nephew for when I get baby fever lol! I would love to have natural home births, but I know what you plan is not always what you get. I have talked to my obgyn and she's the best and will do whatever makes/keeps me happy! You mentioned twins, do you guys just want two kids? If so, if twins do not happen (I hope they do though) how much time in between will you wait and what if you have 2 of the same gender back to back will you try for a 3rd or stop? My FH and I will stop after 2 no matter what and plan on having them about 18 months apart lol.
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  • Kristen
    VIP April 2020
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    We don’t have children but we are so excited to once we get married. I LOVE children and FH has very little experience but he’s a natural. We would like to try to conceive on our own but I have endometriosis so we may need IVF or a surrogate and we are also considering adoption regardless of if we can conceive or not! We’d like 3 kids ideally Smiley smile as of right now our plan is to begin trying as soon as I get my Nexplanon removed which will be in 2021
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  • Devoted August 2020
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    I have 2 boys, 14 and 18. Both were healthy pregnancies both born at 41 weeks. Best advise I could give you is to remember that childbirth can be super unpredictable. Keep that in mind if your birth plan doesn’t go according to plan. Sometimes you have to go with the flow. At the end of the day all you want is a healthy baby. Good luck!!
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  • Michelle
    Devoted October 2019
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    I have 2 children and both were born in the hospital. I was I labour for almost 3 days with my daughter before I had to have an emergency c section, she was Soo exhausted that she had a hard time breathing on her own that she had to go straight to the NICU after a day she had actually stopped breathing and the nurses had to rush in and wake her up to get her breathing again. My son was 6 weeks early by c section because they weren't going to risk my body because I had been leaking fluid and he was in the NICU for a month. Both are doing extremely well and are extremely tall for their age.
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  • Michelle
    Devoted October 2019
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    Sorry forgot to add in this part, they weren't going to risk my body refusing to dialate again with how low the fluid was.
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  • Purpledoggy
    Savvy November 2019
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    I have three children two being boy girl twins. I would not recommend that anyone strives to have twins on purpose. There is a much higher risk of complications in a twin pregnancy vs a singleton pregnancy. The majority of twins are born premature and spend time in the nicu. My twins were born at 34 weeks and spent a month in the hospital. They are both fine now but it was a scary experience. Also if you did have twins a home delivery would be extremely dangers and I doubt you would find anyone that would agree to deliver twins at home.
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  • Sweetness
    Dedicated March 2023
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    I have 2 daughters. My first daughter was deemed overdue, and it was a string of interventions. I say she was forcibly evicted, as she obviously had a different time in mind for her arrival. Smiley xd

    Because she was my first, I was closely watched and I was admitted to hospital after I could feel contractions starting at home. We walked to the local hospital, and I was told I was I was 3-4cm dilated. After that, things stalled. Looking back, I believe it was because I was stressed out. Your body can actually stall/disrupt labour if it thinks you are 'in danger'. When she eventually arrived, after having an epidural and my waters broken, she was in poor condition. She arrived in silence. She was pale and floppy and I actually asked if she was dead. Smiley sad They worked on her to clear her airways, and she improved. I got to see her briefly before they took her to ICU. She was out after 24 hours, and moved to SCBU. She is now a very happy and healthy 7 year old, though she does have childhood epilepsy.

    My eldest daughter (hospital birth)Baby Fever 2


    My second daughter was a totally different experience. We had a home birth, just me and my partner. I said the night before that I felt ready, and things started the next morning. I took deep breaths in the garden for my contractions to start with, then I opted for distraction of games and music. We had the mattress in the front room for me to labour on, and I ended up crowning in the bath! I got out, and she eventually slid into my partner's arms. It was very surreal, and magical. It helped me to deal with her sister's very different birth, and I found it very empowering. We washed her in the sink after clamping and cutting the cord ourselves. She was nice and red, and cried very quickly. The complete opposite of her sister.

    It was also a scary experience, but in a very different way. I trembled with adrenaline for a long while afterwards.

    My youngest (home birth)Baby Fever 3


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  • Brandeana
    Savvy March 2020
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    We plan on actively trying to conceive about a year in to the marriage. We have to do a lot of paperwork and waiting, and I'll most likely live on my own still for at least 8 months, potentially more (I'm US, he's Canadian, I'm moving there), and then a huge chunk of his family is overseas so prior to babies, we want to take a trip to Poland to visit his family and explore, as we might even move there in the future as well.

    In regards to home birth, I'm definitely considering it, we've been having babies with midwives since the beginning and it obviously is fine. We wouldn't exist as a species if we had needed hospitals from the start, lol.
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  • ARIEL
    Dedicated October 2020
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    I know everything doesn't go as planned, especially since I've planned so meticulously for a baby I wont have for another 4 and a half years. We want a home birth and we don't want to know the sex until we have the baby. Kind of over gender reveals. Then only really close family members can visit and after a few weeks we want to have a baby shower and there every one else can meet the baby. From stories that new moms have told me, I feel like I won't want to be bothered the first few weeks. We will be first time parents and entering our 30's.

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    I have a son from a previous relationship (he's five now) but FH and I have crazy Baby fever. We want to start trying after we get married. We want twins too but hey its not that easy haha. My first son I had a hospital birth with epidural. I decided on the next ones I would like to do a water birth (not sure if home or at hospital). Plans change all the time though so you need to be willing to just go with the flow as well! Smiley smile

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  • Furture Mrs. G
    Expert September 2019
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    We have 1 girl 10 years old and 1 boy 8 years old. We are def. wanting to be pregnant one more time. My FH is hoping for twins/triplets LOL twins run on his side of the family. But, it is only going to happen one more time for health reasons and I may get tubes tied and or he may get a vasectomy after. The most I would want is 4 in total but what I want and would be happy with is 3 kiddos in total.

    We are going to start trying a year after we are married.

    Smiley smile

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  • CourtneyBrittain
    Master August 2019
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    My fiancé and I have talked about babies (of course!) and decided we want 4-6 kids. I think it would be fun to have a set twins, but in the end just 4-6 kids would be wonderful!

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