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Just Said Yes September 2021

Assigned vs. Sitting where you want

Brittany, on September 13, 2020 at 12:01 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 59
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My SO and I are having our first disagreement! 😆 He’s adamant about having assigned seating while I am against it. He wants to seat people “to keep his coworkers together” I have been to countless weddings and have Never been mandated where I’ve sat. I am just against it. I feel that people should sit where they want. What are your thoughts?

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Latest activity by Eliamuniz, on September 19, 2020 at 8:01 PM
  • L
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I recommend doing assigned tables, but not assigned seats at the tables. This way, you can still "group" people together (and you won't have random empty seats at tables), but the guests can still choose who they want to sit next to at their table.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    For the reception? Absolutely assign tables. Otherwise groups will get split up and it’s stressful for guests. People don’t seat themselves perfectly into groups of 8 or 10 on their own.
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  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2021
    Chrysta ·
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    We are doing assigned seating because it’s just so much easier for everyone involved. It prevents confusion, or family/friends being split up, or people leaving random open seats.
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  • Eshell
    Devoted July 2021
    Eshell ·
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    We are doing assigned because we are doing PLATED meals. If it was buffet style it would be seat wherever you want !
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  • Sharon
    Expert September 2021
    Sharon ·
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    Definitely assign tables to avoid any issues. Every wedding I've been to had assigned seating except one and it was chaos
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  • Emily
    Expert September 2020
    Emily ·
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    I highly recommend assigning tables. I've never been to a wedding without some kind of guided seating, and I'd be uncomfortable without it.
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  • Alexis
    Just Said Yes April 2021
    Alexis ·
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    You may want to consider sitting people with others they know at the wedding it will keep the piece in the home and have your guest be able to converse easily at their tables
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  • Jana
    Rockstar October 2022
    Jana ·
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    I've been to both and assigned seating wins everytime. You really only need to assign tables and let them pick the seat. Open seating is a madhouse every single time. It requires extra tables and chairs because grandma will save seats for people who don't even sit with her and refuse to give them up up. Couples and families always get split.
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I’ve only been to one wedding that didn’t have assigned seating at the reception and it was a really awkward experience for me. The only people I knew were in the wedding party (had their own table) and the bride’s immediate family (and I certainly didn’t belong at their table). I really didn’t know what to do with myself....so I was definitely team assigned tables for my wedding! I didn’t want any of my guests to feel like I did in that moment.
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  • Givemeallthepups
    Expert February 2020
    Givemeallthepups ·
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    As a guest, I prefer having an assigned table.


    Honestly, the seating chart isn't as bad to put together as people make it out to be. I started with our large groups of people that should be sat together (half tables and up) and then filled in the empty seats with people that I thought would mesh well with that group.
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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Assigned tables is a happy medium for this
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Unless you have a very small guest count (like under 30), assigning a table is best. However, doesn’t have to be assigning a specific seat.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I’m with everyone else, assigning tables is the best option for both you and your guests. Especially during covid times where it’s important to keep family units together.
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    Master July 2019
    Veronica Online ·
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    I agree with everything. Assigning tables is the best option otherwise families can be split up or if someone doesn't know anyone else they won't know who to sit with. I've only been to two weddings were they let us pick. We only knew the bride and groom so we had no clue where to sit.
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  • Shirley
    Devoted November 2020
    Shirley ·
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    I would rather be assigned seating than be able to sit wherever I want as a guest. This is the norm at weddings in my area
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  • Katie
    Expert August 2021
    Katie ·
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    We are letting people choose their own seats. I think it's a much better option and less stress. Unless the venue makes you do assign seating I'd do the option were the guests choose their own seats. If he's worried about the coworkers if I was him I wouldn't worry I'm sure they will all choose their seats together.
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  • J
    Savvy May 2021
    Jessilyn ·
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    We’re having a smaller wedding, around 50 people, so we’re letting people choose their seats. For the ceremony there will be the bride and groom side and of course the first row or two will be for the closest family members, but other than that it’s completely up to everyone else where they want to sit.
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  • Jana
    Rockstar October 2022
    Jana ·
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    The only time where assigned seating defeats the purpose is a cake and coffee reception or afternoon tea. If guests are sitting down to eat, whether buffet or plated, assigned tables are preferable. They really don't take that much effort to put together.
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  • Alyssa
    Expert December 2021
    Alyssa ·
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    Absolutely assign tables for your reception. Look up Jamie Wolfer’s video on YouTube of why open seating is an awful idea.
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  • Hailee
    Just Said Yes July 2021
    Hailee ·
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    I am doing a signed seating during the reception because I have a lot of family members that do not get along. If everyone got along I would not have assigned seating.
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