My SO and I are having our first disagreement! 😆 He’s adamant about having assigned seating while I am against it. He wants to seat people “to keep his coworkers together” I have been to countless weddings and have Never been mandated where I’ve sat. I am just against it. I feel that people should sit where they want. What are your thoughts?
I recommend doing assigned tables, but not assigned seats at the tables. This way, you can still "group" people together (and you won't have random empty seats at tables), but the guests can still choose who they want to sit next to at their table.
I've been to both and assigned seating wins everytime. You really only need to assign tables and let them pick the seat. Open seating is a madhouse every single time. It requires extra tables and chairs because grandma will save seats for people who don't even sit with her and refuse to give them up up. Couples and families always get split.
I’ve only been to one wedding that didn’t have assigned seating at the reception and it was a really awkward experience for me. The only people I knew were in the wedding party (had their own table) and the bride’s immediate family (and I certainly didn’t belong at their table). I really didn’t know what to do with myself....so I was definitely team assigned tables for my wedding! I didn’t want any of my guests to feel like I did in that moment.
Honestly, the seating chart isn't as bad to put together as people make it out to be. I started with our large groups of people that should be sat together (half tables and up) and then filled in the empty seats with people that I thought would mesh well with that group.
I agree with everything. Assigning tables is the best option otherwise families can be split up or if someone doesn't know anyone else they won't know who to sit with. I've only been to two weddings were they let us pick. We only knew the bride and groom so we had no clue where to sit.
We are letting people choose their own seats. I think it's a much better option and less stress. Unless the venue makes you do assign seating I'd do the option were the guests choose their own seats. If he's worried about the coworkers if I was him I wouldn't worry I'm sure they will all choose their seats together.
We’re having a smaller wedding, around 50 people, so we’re letting people choose their seats. For the ceremony there will be the bride and groom side and of course the first row or two will be for the closest family members, but other than that it’s completely up to everyone else where they want to sit.
The only time where assigned seating defeats the purpose is a cake and coffee reception or afternoon tea. If guests are sitting down to eat, whether buffet or plated, assigned tables are preferable. They really don't take that much effort to put together.