Asking for names of "plus 1" to put on seating chart/escort cards... should I, if so when?

I would call once you get the rsvp's back saying they are bringing someone.

If they change who they bring that is their fault, not yours. plus they should call you and tell you, if they already told you one persons name you would think they would realize they would need to tell you if the person changed.

Sorry for so many edits apparently WW doesn't like the plus symbol. haha

As long as there are not a TON, I would call when you get the RSVP. but I think "and guest" is fine if a lot of people will be bringing someone you don't know. I would not be offended if I was going to the wedding of someone I did not know and was referred to as Mr.L and guest

I am putting and guest. its too much work and too little time between getting the rsvps, making the seating chart, and wedding day. i feel like i will have too much else to do to worry about who is bringing who. i dont think its too impersonal...epec if you dont know the guest!! goood luckk!

@Thanks Shellie, you're right... they SHOULD think that way, but I have a feeling we'll still have a few people who forget to do that. And in that case it won't be my fault. Ijsut don't want to insult anyone.

Thanks for your point of view @CKJL and @GBAC.... Less work does sound better. Hmm, I'll tally up how many there are and then see if it's too time consuming to call everyone. If not, we'll probably go with &Guest. Going to have to chat with FH about it and see if he'd do half the calling....

Could you maybe print a little piece of paper to go in with the invites that are getting plus ones that say "please add the name of your guests so we can personally welcome them to our wedding" or something. Then the people could just right the names on the RSVP cards. Plus it's a bit more of a subtle hint that it matters who they bring. And if they don't write the name for their plus one just do "and guest'

@Shellie, I'm afraid that would encourage people to "write in" extra guests not on the invite.... and we've already sealed the envelopes so we'll have to call up and ask.

Do you have a line on the RSVP where they are supposed to write their names?

Name(s)__________________________

or

M____________________________

Hopefully they will write their guest's name on the rsvp.

Do you have inner and outer envelopes?

I had the Invitee on the outer envelope,

Mr. John Smith

and on the inside envelope I had both

John and Guest

Some of our peeps wrote in guests names and some did not. For the most part I know who they're bringing b/c we've talked about it and it's OOT so they had to buy plane tickets.

I would just tell them you need the name of their guest after their RSVP date when you're making up your escort cards, in case something has changed. (And if you're okay with that - not everybody is. Personally I could care less - if somebody wants to bring a random date to our party that's fine, they just get one and I don't care who it is. lol.)

@Haley C, We don't have inner envelopes because we're doing post card RSVPs from Vistaprint. We wrote in their names on the RSVP with & guest if we didn't know who was coming. We know our friends would write in more people even if it said "2" seats reserved in your honor.

We've already had people who didn't get STD asking me about hotel reservations... so we were worried that they'd ask another guests to write them in if we left it blank.

Oh dear.... Well, good luck then. Have fun with the phone calls. Maybe some will still write the name of their guest. Wishful thinking, huh.

oh, and sexy boudoir pictures... not sure if I commented on that post. Love the Wig!

Thanks @Haley... the boudoir was the most fun thing I've done in a while. I'm having a blast slowly putting together the photobook! I love DIY stuff.

I asked all my guests to give me full names of everyone attending. Most people emailed or texted me. I also have a small wedding. 75 guests. I then decided I didn't care about a seating chart. Open seating!

@Erin, Sadly, open seating would be chaotic with the 175 people we're having. I have dreams about open seating. hahah

You got me thinking and I tallied up the plus ones I probably won't know and luckily I only got to about 15. The rest are non-live in significant others (so I didn't want to assume that's who they would bring). I want to know the names of all my guests, so I plan to definetly follow up. I'm nosey like that .

@Sami, you're lucky! only 15, I think we'll probably have like 30 or so.... with cousins and things bringing their dates we don't know. I guess that's still not to bad.

I made a line on our RSVP for the name of the guest, and only 1 person so far has used it. it has drived me nuts about this. The people that i know i just simply text or facebook them going hey whats the name, if i do not really know the person and someone in my family or FH family knows them, I ask them he do you know who blah blah blah is brining.... If i still have some holes, i am putting mr john smith table 11 guest of john smith table 11 oh, i have been doing this as the rsvp's roll in, if i get one today, then i try to figure it out today

I have no desire for open seating. I have a pretty good group of people that come from all walks of life but that doesn't mean I want to force them to sit through dinner together because its the only place there was a seat.

We have a small wedding but I still doing a seating chart due to the size of some families with smaller children. Most of the couples are married or SO to each other and I have the names very few will have plus ones at all but I would put

Miss S and guest at table x. This is true most cousins who are single are female.