Asking father if he will be helping pay

You don't.

...you don't. If he is willing to help, he will offer it. Otherwise, you should be prepared to pay for your wedding on your own, aside from the help your mother has offered.

You don't. Pay for your own wedding.

You don't. It's your responsibility to pay for your own wedding. If he offers, that's great but you should not ask if he is going to pay.

Don't ask him for money. If he wants to contribute he will.

Just because one parent offers does not mean the other is obligated. And I would not count any money until it is in hand

I wasn't sure. I was always told that the parents of the bride paid for the wedding.

I would think if he is planning on contributing, he would let you know. My dad and step-mom met with me and FH right after we were engaged and let us know how much they would like to contribute. My mom hasn't said anything so I'm not counting on anything from her.

Nope. No they don't. Maybe back in time when they were giving the groom a couple goats for you.........lol.

Plan to pay for the wedding yourself. Anything added is a bonus. Don't ask anyone for money

You pay for your own wedding unless someone offers. You definitely don't ask.

"I wasn't sure. I was always told that the parents of the bride paid for the wedding." That was in the old days. While some families still do, it's best to plan on paying yourselves and if someone offers help, it's a bonus!

As PP have said plan on paying for your own wedding and don't ask your father. If he ends up contributing financially to the wedding, great! If not oh well you have budgeted for it and it's your wedding to pay for!

Old fashion tradition says the brides parents pay. However, weddings have taken a life of their own over time. My mom constantly reminds me sit down dinners and weddings that cost thousands and thousands of dollars were not common when her and my father married. It was cake and punch and a receiving line for them. She thinks wedding expenses and the prices are a ridiculous waste of money for a party. Alot of parents are not in a financial position to pay for all that's expected in today's weddings. Aside from that, your parents will offer to contribute if they want to or are able to. You don't ask them or have the expectation that someone else will pay.

You plan your budget based on him not contributing, if he cuts you a check or gives you some cash then great you should never ask anyone to pay for your wedding. If they offer to pay that is a different ball game.

You don't.

If he offers - great - but also keep in mind that money comes with strings

Me and my SO have already came up with our own budget with or without help. (Fyi I didn't expect it to be handed to me) just other family members have said something about it and I felt uneasy about asking. I'm NOT going to ask him.

If he wants to help with your wedding, he will offer. My dad didn't offer to help pay until we had already been engaged and planning for 6 months. We had already set our budget to what we could afford, so his contributions are just an added bonus.

I wasn't sure if my parents were going to help with mine either. I didn't ask them though. At one point I was talking with my Mom about wedding stuff and she said "well your Dad and I are going to give something, it might not be much, but we want to help." And she said that she wanted to buy my dress. Honestly I didn't even expect them to help out but I'm grateful that they are, even if its a small amount. We aren't even working any money given to us into the budget. We are paying for our wedding ourselves and any money we get from family will be a "bonus." I wouldn't ask your Dad straight up about it. If he hasn't offered after you have talked about the wedding with him, then he likely isn't going to. I'm sorry :-/

The majority of WW users are paying for their own weddings. It's not very common that the brides parents pay for it anymore. You never ask or assume someone is helping with your wedding. Always budget as if you are paying for your own wedding

You don't ask.. if your dad offers that is one thing