Asking bridal party with gifts

Bridesmaid proposal boxes are not necessary. I'm personally not the biggest fan of them. I
didn't do any bridesmaid proposal boxes. I just kinda told my sister's that they were bridesmaids which they knew they'd be for quite some time. I asked my mom since o don't think it's a traditional role for the mother of the bride. And asked my future SIL in person. I'll give everyone gifts either the night of the rehearsal dinner or the morning of the wedding.

I think it’s just personal preference! Some people do and some people don’t. I’m going to, but I own a circuit machine so it’s easy to make some small cheap things myself!

I only did it because all of my girls are out of state and it’s In place of the thank you gift. I have them each $100 to help with the dress cost just because again they all have to get plane tickets/gas and a hotel.

You don't have to ask with gifts. Some people do that but a lot of people don't.

I am doing Bridesmaids proposal boxes but this is def not mandatory. I am only have 4 bridesmaids and no MOH, I am also a crafter so its not costing me a lot to do these and I am enjoying putting them together. I thought it would be cute

I didn’t really get any extravagant gifts, but I did order some wine tumblers that said their names and “Bridesmaid” on them in my wedding colors, they were only like $10 or $15 off etsy each. In addition I did something more personal than just a gift. I bought them notebooks and wrote in them about the details of the wedding, date, location, colors, etc. Then I wrote a short blurb about each of the other bridesmaids since some of them don’t know each other well or have never met. I wrote how I met each of them and something I love about them. Seemed like a fun little way for everyone to get to know one another! Plus, they can use the notebooks to keep wedding details stored for themselves as well! Just food for thought!

Definitely not necessary to do gifts! I wanted to do that (also due to the pressure of the apparent "new norm"), but I ended up just asking outright. I even apologized for not doing gifts, and every one of my bridal party said that the flashy gifts didn't seem like my style anyway.

Most of my friends know I love putting things together and i'm very crafty in general. I often host brunches and crafternoons. I made my own bridesmaid proposal boxes with small personalized things for them. Such as a simple coffee mug with their initial on it, some hot cocoa (we have a fall wedding), a notebook, pen...simple things and then made a little vision board on the top with photos of us/wedding inspo. They loved it. It wasn't expensive but still was very personalized. I wasn't worried about them feeling pressured since they already kind of knew they were going to be asked at some point (I only have 3, bff since middle school, sister, and mutual friend we hang out with all the time and her hubby is the best man)

Most weddings I have been asked to be apart I didn't get a big thing and friends I know that are in weddings didn't get a whole lot other than maybe a brunch or little card and mini bottle of something boozy. I think it really comes down to your style. Your bridal pty people know you and will respect it regardless if it's a unique box, a card, or a text.

I didn’t do gifts. I thought a simple phone call is enough. I spent a lot of money on my bridesmaids for day of gifts so I was not paying for another one. I can honestly say I have never kept a “being asked” gift and I’ve been in over 20 weddings.

It's most definitely not required. I gave my girls each a rose gold knotted bracelet that said "I can't tie the knot without you". I think they cost maybe $3 each and I handmade the cards. They were already expecting me to ask and the bracelets will be worn at the wedding so it was more of a practical gift than something over the top.

When my sister got married, she gave us each a Ring Pop inside of a little ring box that had a note that said, "He popped the question. Now it's my turn." It was super cute and ring pops come in a 4 pack at the dollar tree so.... yup! It was a thoughtful way to ask for less than $5 total for all of the maids. And I don't think it added a lot of pressure because everyone knows candy is cheap.

You know your friends and your friends know you. If you were already wanting to give them a gift, then this creates a good reason to give one. If you weren't, then don't sweat it. The gift is in the ask itself.

I didn’t do this. We asked members of our party outright and they were happy to accept. We will buy them a gift the day of.

I did small gifts not because of the norm but i want them to feel happy. I found some really cute inexpensive stuff on etsy. The ladies have loved them so far!

I did something small and personal for mine, but it is totally up to you. I spent like $10 maybe on a picture of the two of us, a little wine bottle and a card asking them to join me on my special day. Like others have said, if they are truly care about something like that then they should be in your party.

It seems like an over excessive fad... like the people who used to buy expensive cars for kids on that "My Sweet 16" MTV show. Needless to say, I did not... and shouldn't/didn't have to.

You have PLENTY of answers but I'm jumping in here too! haha.

I asked each girl in person or through text (whatever our relationship dictated).

My MOH I just said "uh obvs you're my MOH". I told my FSIL "of course you will be involved, I'd love it if you were a BM!" when she asked if she was going to be involved in the wedding planning. I told FH cousin "FYI I plan on asking you to be a BM and I hope it brings us closer!" I told my cousin "I really want you to be there with me!" and my other friend (my MOH's other bff) asked how big our wedding was going to be and she hoped she would get to celebrate us, I said "uh yeah you're a bridesmaid if you wanna be!"

After seeing how excited everyone was and they expressed that they definitely wanted to be BM, I got a little gift for each of them.

As a PP said (and I loved her comment), this is a know your crowd and set your expectations type deal. I am not a high maintenance bridezilla type BUT I've been with FH for 10 years and I want to do all the wedding things! So I plan on getting little things for my BM all leading up to the wedding (where they will get another, nice, personal gift) because I do expect them to do more than stand next to me in a dress on the day of.

Definitely not a requirement. I'm thinking of asking mine with a framed photo of us.

I didn’t do a “bridesmaid proposal” with a gift for my bridesmaids. I didn’t want to spend the money on gifts that wouldn’t be used, but I am paying for dresses, hair and makeup for everyone. It really depends on what you want to do.

If did but thats because i just love go wing things i went to the dollar store got a cute box for them each and got a candle to go in it and in the inside i put will you be my bridemaid it wasnt alot of money and they all loved it!it don't have to be a lot of money like some people do its really what you wanna do i seen some also do a box and got a ring pop to ask them

I gave my girls a very small pair of inexpensive metal “knot” studs from Etsy. They were $4 each. The card that I gave then with said “I can’t tie the knot without you”.


When it comes to anything wedding related, it is up to you. YOUR WEDDING. YOUR WAY. I will fight tooth and nail over that way of thinking. From what I’ve seen, these chats make it seem like that’s a no no. Too bad. I’ll do things how I like, you do it how you like. Simple as that.
As for your question, do what you want. Gifts/no gifts. Whatever girl, do ya thing.

I did it because i'll be getting married and moving out of my home country next year. I think it's nice to treat my bridesmaids to a thank you/farewell gift. I also gave it during Christmas so it counts as a Christmas present too

Bridesmaid proposal gifts: Includes nail polish, photo frame, a handwritten note, a palm tree necklace and other DIY items.