As a wedding GUEST are there things that you really do not care about or notice much?

I pay attention to colours. Overall colour scheme of the wedding is something I notice. But the exact design of the centerpieces or flower type or other decorations, those I don't remember.

I pay attention to the taste of the food. Was it good food? Did I have enough to eat? Was dessert delicious? The exact types of food I forget, but overall if I was well fed and it tasted good then I remember that.

I pay attention to favours. I'm a collector and a pack rat and I see the wedding favour as a way to give something special of yourself to your guests. So I can tell you what all the wedding favours are from the weddings I've gone to. I spent a lot of time an effort (and money) finding the perfect wedding favours for my wedding.

I remember who I sat with/socialized with, if the food was good or not and the couple. Aside from that I don't really remember much about the weddings.

I am the same as Jet. I mostly remember everything. I've only been to 3 weddings in the last few years though.

Food. I remember food.

And whether or not it was properly hosted...

I want good food, a good dj or band, and most importantly the couple looking in love and enjoying themselves.

The other stuff I might ooh and ahh over, but it won't make or break the wedding for me.

Our escort cards were matchboxes because we met on MATCH. So clever ::giggle::

I keep matches in my nightstand - sometimes candlelight is nice :-)

Honest to God, I remember: Food, Drinks, Music and Cake. That is all.

Honestly, I remember the ceremony more than anything. And if the DJ was any good. That's about all I take away from the wedding, LOL.

I usually remember decor, dress, flowers, the look and feel of the venue, the music, and the food.

I remember if things don't match or if we were fed buffet style or sit down. Ok - I remember everything ...

I don't care about centerpieces much (but I do notice the overall ambiance of the room), and I don't care at all about favors (they usually go right in the trash). I don't remember the colors unless it was a really odd choice, and I don't remember what the cake looked like. I DO remember if I had fun, if the food was delicious/ meh/ terrible.

I remember all the details but I am like that with everything. I notice everything when I am out somewhere.

I remember the cake, the food, and the music. I might remember the bridal gown and the bridesmaids gowns, but usually only if they're really horrendous.

Everything else gets forgotten.

Ok so I am asking this question on facebook of the people who attended our wedding. Will let you all know what gets said.

I think it's hard to ever remember the "details" but often times it's how all the details mesh together and build an experience. If it doesn't match or stands out, then sure it's easy to remember. But you want it to flow, so it feels like one consistent theme and event. That's generally how I feel at different weddings I attend.

For favors - I've been to weddings where I got something and it was something I either stashed away or I didn't grab one. For my own wedding, I'm thinking of doing custom cookies that they can take, eat and be happy, versus one more trinket they toss in the cabinet.

The list of what I DO remember/notice is much shorter than what I do not:

I remember the food, the cocktail hour/bar [but not whether it is top shelf or not], and mostly the music/DJ. Was it a good party? That is it.

Traditional dances, favors, photo booths, candy/dessert bar, bubble machines, centerpieces, bouquet/garter toss - NOPE...none of it.

I remember how pretty the bride looked (every wedding I've ever been to, the bride has been beautiful). I remember if the food was good or not. I remember if the music was good and the dancing fun or not.

I've never noticed a favor or centerpiece or chair cover or anything like that.

I remember things like cash bars and gaps that make me think negatively about the couple.

Here's the thing. I only remember the stuff that I really don't like. I went to a wedding with silk flowers years ago, please don't take any offence, but I really don't like the look. I've remembered it ever since. Another wedding only had a beer and wine reception. Fine, no problem. When they ran out of white wine over an hour before the reception was over, it was a problem. So...while I'm doing a lot of stupid little details that no one will remember, I'm really hoping that no one leaves my wedding saying "Wow...such and such really sucked." If I can accomplish that, then I'm super happy.

I never remember the flowers, dress, decorations, centerpieces or cake. I always seem to remember the band. And I always remember if there is a photo booth. They are fun!

This is all very interesting, thank you all for sharing. I really thought it was just me

Yeah I dont remember details really, just a feeling. I almost didnt do centerpieces, but I thought the lack of them might detract from the "vibe" of the place even if people dont directly notice them. And if you do the candle ones that are so popular now, they are there more to lend a feeling (romance! candlelight!) to the event and not so much for people to oogle over.

But yeah, I didnt do many DIY projects or menus, programs, altar decor, etc. because I would be the only one who would remember it.

And according to our final bar bill, I'm not sure our guests will remember much of anything other than that they had a good (maybe too good) time!