Are you "Officially" engaged without a ring?

H did not have a ring for me when he originally proposed; he borrowed a ring from his mother and I wore that for two months before we found my ring. I still have his mothers ring and may get it resized for my other hand. (His mom told me to keep it)

Interesting views for both with and without a ring. Hubby wanted to get me a ring before we got married, but it didn't matter to me and we had other priorities besides me getting a ring. And for our 5th anniversary we thought about it, but after being married 5 years at that time, I wasn't concerned about an engaement ring.

For our 10th anniversary vow renewal we're exchanging new rings and my new ring is Blingatude (yes I made up a word) and more than makes up for me not having an engagement ring. lol

We have tattoos instead of a ring

I don't think not having a ring makes you any less engaged. Everyone has different situations. I was ready to plan when we first decided we would get married but Fh actually insisted I have the ring before we started planning.

Depends on whether or not you were "officially" asked.

I get so tired of the "ratchets" calling every Tom and Harry Dick their "fiance"...

If he ACTUALLY proposed (with or without ring) then it's official...

If you have just been dating for the past year and he keeps a pair of spare underwear at your house then he is still your boyfriend.

Lol Riki (and where have you been?). That's a good point. I have a cousin like that. He calls his girlfriend of a gazillion years his fiancee and wife sometimes, but he has never officially asked her to marry him and when I ask them when they are getting married he rolls his eyes and laughs. SMH But to each his/her own

When I was deployed tony asked me to marry him. Of course I didn't have a ring. But 3 months later when I got home I got that ring. So did I tell the world I was engaged no I just told my family and close friends but yes you can be officially engaged without a ring

I dont have a ring. I choose not to have one for a number of reasons. Ill have one when the time comes but for now i dont need it.

A ring is not what makes 2 ppl engaged. If he asked am she said yes they ate engaged

Some traditions don't allow you to wear a ring until the marriage ceremony. Some people don't wear their engagement rings at all. I say, this one's a personal choice.

Absolutely. When I sold my condo at the end of 2012, I leased the apartment I moved out of this week (er...thanks to snow storm, still have stuff there...ahem) and got rid of a lot of furniture. I planned to buy a new living room set but he told me not to buy anything because we'd be getting married. I didn't buy anything. Now we're getting married. Didn't get a ring until September but we knew we were getting married. He told me on the third date he was at a place in his life when he wanted a wife and that if I was up for it, he wanted to date only me and "let's see where this relationship leads us." I was up for it. I still am. He's the best guy I've ever met in my whole life.

Engagement is when two people decide to get married and begin making plans. I didn't announce anything officially until I got the ring, but I was already checking out dresses, websites, THIS FORUM(which I love!) and other stuff for months before I had a ring.

It's all good. Some people are just negative.

I have a ring which I love but I do not agree when people say you are not officially engaged if you don't have a ring. That's like saying once you're married if you step out without your wedding band or don't have one you're not officially married. It's silly because a ring is just a symbol of the promise you two made, the proposal itself is the commitment and thats all that matters.

I'm officially engaged without the ring and I certainly don't feel any 'less' engaged because of it. FH asked me if I wanted one, I said no.

The main reason is that I generally don't really like the look of two rings worn together on one finger (and I don't mean to offend anyone here as I know a lot of people do like the look! - it's just my personal preference). I just want a simple single band as a wedding ring.

Apart from not buying one, the other option was to only wear an engagement ring for the engagement period, but that felt like a waste of money.

We had been planning for a future together since the first year like mature adults but he knew I wouldn't plan a wedding until I got the proposal and ring.

So I got the ring, and a car

I have to say no. FH proposed in June 2012 with a ring and I rarely wear it. I know it's horrible and it isn't that I don't appreciate it, I just hardly wear jewelry. I guess I could say, I just don't. I don't think that I'm any less engaged because I don't wear it.

I'm trying to find a simple band that I would like and if need be can be worn without the ER since I'm so bad about keeping it on.

Without reading this all...

I think you are officially engaged when you BOTH agree to commit to each other and are on the same page about when you will be legally and/or spiritually wed. Which means if you BOTH want to be legally AND spiritually wed, you'll do so. If you're BOTH happy just being engaged and "feeling" married, just as awesoem.

A man can give you a ring with no intention of actually marrying you, and if you're not okay with that, I don't think you're engaged. If the two parties aren't working towards the same goal, a ring is insignificant.

And I also would have preferred a new water heater or an A/C unit for our condo than the ring. But, ya know, whatevs.

A ring doesnt make you anymore engaged than when you said yes when he asked. Fh got impatient and asked before he got the ring. I said yes & didnt care if I ever got one. He didnt want Me to say anything until I got it which was like a week & a half later. I did tell a few people though, hehe.

No ring, I kind of proposed (I asked him one night after a bottle of wine lol why won't he just marry me? I said I don't need a ring just you because I knew he was waiting until he could get a ring but things were kind of sucky financially at that point) and since I just told him I don't need a ring. He still says I stole his proposal but I tell him if want to he can lol. All in all he knows I would kill him if he bought a ring. I budget our money down to the cent each month. I am happy with us just having wedding bands.

I hate wearing rings-I have two engagement rings and dont wear either. People are always asking "how are you engaged with no ring" ... I think the ring is just a symbol to show other people our intentions.

My situation is similar to Almost Mrs. White - FH doesn't feel its official without a ring and went right out to order the ring of my dreams.

We've been together for 5 years, living together for one. We've talked about getting married three weeks in, but we had school to complete and felt we should wait. I also had some issues from my childhood and my mother that I needed to "fix" before things got serious.

He gave me a beautiful sapphire ring for our 5th year anniversary, and one night we were talking and were like why should we wait any longer to get married. So we said: "Let's get married" and two days later I'd booked our reception venue!

He doesn't feel its official even though I use my sapphire ring as my engagement ring. He went right out and bought the ring of my dreams and it will be in next week. I'm taking off work and we're going to celebrate.