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Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Are you inviting old friends?

Lynnie, on April 30, 2018 at 4:45 PM

Posted in Planning 38

Time to spill about your guest list decisions and who made the cut !! Are you inviting old friends you haven't seen in a long time? What if you haven't seen them in a few years? Where was your cut-off? What if they invited you to their wedding? Next Question: Are you inviting exes? Previous...

Time to spill about your guest list decisions and who made the cut !!

Are you inviting old friends you haven't seen in a long time? What if you haven't seen them in a few years? Where was your cut-off?

What if they invited you to their wedding?


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38 Comments

  • BB-H
    VIP September 2018
    BB-H ·
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    Not really. I think there are some people from our college days that FH hasn't seen in awhile that he might like to squeeze onto the list if we can, but not too many. Many of those invited were those that we've seen recently and wanted to be with us. We really can't afford to do people we're not close with.

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  • Stephanie
    Super March 2018
    Stephanie ·
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    There are a few old friends that DH and I talk to every few months, but we pick up where we left off every time we're together, so we invited them

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  • Summer
    Super August 2018
    Summer ·
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    I invited 2 of my oldest friends from growing up that I talk to on very rare occasion, maybe see once every 3 years or so. But anyone else who I don't see or talk to on a regular basis, besides family and parents' friends, did not make the cut.

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  • April
    Expert September 2018
    April ·
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    I am inviting 3 friends from high school who I don't see very often but we keep in touch and get together maybe once a year.

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  • rica
    VIP September 2018
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    For the most part, we are only inviting people we currently talk to. It was hard to make those realizations though, that a friendship was drifting apart.
    One person I couldn’t let go of was my college roommate. I didn’t send her a save the date, but I still have her on the guest list for now. I will make a decision when I send out invitations. It made me sad to exclude someone I once lived with.
    FH has two friends he’s having a hard time letting go of too, as well as a cousin he was once close with. We decided to put decisions to the side for now and see what happens in the next few months.

    We are however inviting a lot a lot of old friends who we see regularly. I like to think we are both pretty good at keeping in touch with friends, which is why our guest list just kept growing.
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  • Pamela
    Dedicated September 2018
    Pamela ·
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    No I don’t even socialize with old “friends”
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  • AQuixoticBride
    VIP July 2018
    AQuixoticBride ·
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    We have a fairly small guest list and I have a large family, so I didn't get to invite high school friends, but I invited a few college friends and grad school friends. These are all people I have known a minimum of 15 years. We don't see each other a lot because of distance. My bridal party is two friends I have known for over 20 years and FH's party is two friends he has known over 30 years. We are actually not inviting any "new" friends.
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  • Natalie
    Devoted June 2019
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    I was very conflicted on this one - my FH is inviting more of his old friends than I am. I haven't seen my college roommate since we graduated five years ago, but we were SO close and I always pictured her/wanted her to be there. So she's the one "old friend" exception for me!

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  • M
    Super October 2018
    Michelle ·
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    Yes. I have only ten guests, only two not family. One I have been friends with for 18 years, the other for 12 years.
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  • Vanessasaurus
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    I'm only inviting my close group of HS friends. The last time we all saw each other was at one of their weddings last May in which I said "let's not make the next time we all get together my wedding" but it does seem that will be the case. We do keep in touch but we are all in different cities across the east coast now! FH may not be inviting any at this point because they've really drifted away/showed their true colors unfortunately Smiley sad

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  • Mmssecrets
    Devoted March 2019
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    If I have talked to them in the last year than yes I am (for instance, my MOH, I haven't seen in over 2 years but we communicate often with each other). If not, then no they aren't invited.
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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
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    As of now no. it is possible we will reach out to my old high school friend because her and I were inseparable and still could we just don't get any time to spend together because of our lives but it is unlikely we will because about 80% of guests at the wedding at least know of her and despise her (they just don't know her like I do lol) so it really isn't worth the drama

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  • EllieRose
    Expert February 2020
    EllieRose ·
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    Just a few from high school! Smiley smile We are all getting married around the same time!
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  • Mrscolón
    Super September 2019
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    I have a friend I met in college whom I just saw for the first time in 6 years. She is the only one in our guest list for friends that we haven't talked with much.

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  • Amanda
    Savvy April 2023
    Amanda ·
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    Sadly, I think there are some that I would like to invite that are going to make the B list for me (invite if there is room). Michael is inviting a few more old friends mostly because he has a much smaller family to invite than me!

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
    Andrea ·
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    I initially wanted to, but I decided that my wedding shouldn't be used to reconcile with certain people.

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  • Jenay
    Dedicated October 2025
    Jenay ·
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    I might invite some of my old friends that he hasn't met yet so he can meet them.

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  • Adara
    Devoted October 2019
    Adara ·
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    Yes some from high school and college.
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