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Are you inviting old friends?

Lynnie, on April 30, 2018 at 4:45 PM Posted in Planning 0 38
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Time to spill about your guest list decisions and who made the cut !!

Are you inviting old friends you haven't seen in a long time? What if you haven't seen them in a few years? Where was your cut-off?

What if they invited you to their wedding?


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Latest activity by Adara, on May 2, 2019 at 9:22 PM
  • Tara
    Master September 2018
    Tara ·
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    We are only inviting 40 people, some family but mostly close friends, it is hard to invite family to an intimate ceremony without causing a domino effect. I love my au t and uncle but if i invite them the rest would be upset. Its rough
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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    We are inviting old friends from high school and college, but everyone is somebody we've talked to within the last 6-12 months.

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  • Mrs. Fall Bride
    Master October 2016
    Mrs. Fall Bride ·
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    We invited a few old friends we hadn't seen in a while, but everything was decided on a case-by-case basis, there was no arbitrary cut-off. There were a few that we felt if we didn't invite, that would be the final nail in the coffin of those friendships, and we didn't want to do that. In those couple of cases, inviting them actually rekindled the friendships.

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  • PrincessLawrence
    VIP June 2018
    PrincessLawrence ·
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    Yes! Some friends I havent seen in years but we pick up where we left off every time

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  • Mrs.W.
    VIP June 2018
    Mrs.W. ·
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    We're going to invite a few of FHs old friends. Maybe one of mine. We don't really have a cutoff. Just a case my case bases

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  • Whitney
    Devoted June 2018
    Whitney ·
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    I invited one friend I’ve had since I was a baby. We don’t talk often anymore, but I would never get married without him present. He’s more like extended family.
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  • Kelsey Brielle
    Super June 2022
    Kelsey Brielle ·
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    Yes we plan to! There are a few people who we no longer work with but have communicated with here and there who are definitely invited!
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  • Ericha
    Devoted November 2018
    Ericha ·
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    For the most part, everyone being invited are people we still talk to frequently, or at least a few times every couple of months. There are a small few who are outside of that qualification, but once upon a time (a few years back) may have been close to either myself or FH.
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  • Happy Hedgie
    VIP September 2018
    Happy Hedgie ·
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    No, we were fairly ruthless with our guest list since we intended to keep it small. If neither of us had had a meaningful conversation with them at least once in the past year or so then they weren't invited.

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  • Talullah
    VIP May 2018
    Talullah ·
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    Our oldest friends coming are from 30+ years ago. They are a couple we went to school with & I always kept in touch with them.
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  • Liana
    VIP March 2017
    Liana ·
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    Yes, we invited some old friends, not a lot.

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  • CarrieAndBert
    Expert June 2018
    CarrieAndBert ·
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    All family and friends. My oldest friend from 2nd grade is one of my bridesmaids. I'm 48.
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  • E
    Devoted May 2019
    Elizabeth ·
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    I'm planning on inviting one old friend that I've known since 5th grade
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  • Kc
    Dedicated December 2018
    Kc ·
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    He is but I'm not. His one groomsman he's known for a long time. The other groomsman is a long time friend but also his nephews' father. Other than that I'm inviting one close friend who I've only known a couple years
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    Yes! I asked my 3 oldest friends that I've known since junior high. 1 of them can make it since sadly it's too far for the other 2

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  • FutureMrsS
    Expert October 2018
    FutureMrsS ·
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    A few old friends from college and high school, but not many.

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  • MrsRies&Love
    VIP May 2018
    MrsRies&Love ·
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    We didn't invite old friends, and only invited those who we have regular, consistent, close relationships with, with one exception. FH has a friend who is getting married a few months after us. Although they kind of stay in contact, I think the reason why he wanted to invite him so much was because we received a STD from them.

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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    We are only inviting the ones that we still see at least once per year.

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  • KarenO
    Master June 2018
    KarenO ·
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    Two of my old friends are in my wedding party. We're not as close as we used to be, but I see them at least 3-4 times a year, sometimes more. I met them both at a job in my early college years, and went to both their weddings, one fairly recently.

    I have another group of high-school friends who I reconnected with on facebook over the past 3 years or so, and I see them about once or twice a year, but I'm not inviting them. I went to some of their weddings (years ago), and would have loved to have them at mine, but I don't feel like our relationship is close enough anymore.

    I also recently reconnected on FB with my oldest, best friend from the time I was 5 until I was in high school, and I'm not inviting her even though I went to her wedding years ago. We are inviting her mom, who we also reconnected with at the same time, and who my family sees several times a year. She has a plus-one though, so there's always the chance that she might bring my friend, but I don't think she will.

    edit: And I just remembered that a 3rd old friend is invited too - I also met her at a job right after high school, and right before I met the 2 in my wedding party. We only started talking again a few years ago, but hang out fairly often. She's my walking partner.

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  • Shaunte
    Expert December 2020
    Shaunte ·
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    Maybe; it's on a case-by-case basis. I'm still on the fence about my college roommate. We used to be best friends and then just drifted apart. We've spoken recently. The next 6 months will be telling though.

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