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Cheryl
Expert November 2020

Are we crazy for doing a cash bar?

Cheryl, on May 19, 2019 at 4:08 AM

Posted in Wedding Reception 42

I know, all of you are collectively sighing and 🙄, but hear me out. Below are the reasons why we think this is a good idea: 1. Several guests have been to rehab for alcohol addiction and some should. 2. FH's parents are in their mid-70's and are very Southern and very conservative. I already got a...
I know, all of you are collectively sighing and 🙄, but hear me out. Below are the reasons why we think this is a good idea:
1. Several guests have been to rehab for alcohol addiction and some should.
2. FH's parents are in their mid-70's and are very Southern and very conservative. I already got a stern talking to that a wedding is about the ceremony and not a big party from FMIL. His brother was married in the church and served punch in the basement after. 😳
3. Not knowing what to expect for an average bar tab for 100 people, we don't think we can't afford it/would rather spend our money elsewhere.
4. We got engaged in February and planned for 6/20/2020, but then at the end of March, I lost my job. FH is out of work because we left DC for the new job in NC in January. He works a part time side hustle. I make 3 times what he does so now it doesnt make sense for him to find a job because we'll likely have to move again for my line of work. There isn't much of a job market where we are for what I do.

(Wedding planning is the only thing that keeps me positive these days. Thank God we didn't book anything yet.)

So, on a scale of 1-no one will come to our wedding, how tacky is this and how do I break the news to our guests in a tactful way? I could be persuaded to do beer and wine only.

42 Comments

  • Michelle
    Dedicated November 2021
    Michelle ·
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    We are doing a combo to keep costs down. 3 barrels of beer and soda are included. Once the beer runs out it's cash. And mixed drinks and hard liquor are cash. Do what you feel comfortable with. I am guessing there's a lot of people on these forums who aren't footing the bill out of their own pockets 100%. I found people to be incredibly opinionated on these forums. As my mom said people are entitled to their opinions when they pay for the event. I've been to MANY wedding receptions where it was cash bar. No big deal at all. Just as long as you let people know up front I don't see it as tacky at all.

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  • C
    May 2021
    Catherine ·
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    I have only heard cash bars are tacky on sights like these.

    Provide me with good food and something to drink with dinner and I can buy my own booze. (and I will!) I am here for the couple and the fun, not for the freebees. You don't have to 'warn' people it's cash bar (they all take debit cards) and It is not your job to pay for it.

    People that say it's tacky are tacky

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