Are honeymoon registries really that rude?

I am not chinese but in my culture it is also common to give money so i am skipping the wedding registry since i know most will give us money.

I don't think they're rude. I guess it's regional or what other people consider rude or not. If it works for your family than I think it's great! I am also doing a honeymoon registry.

My family is spread out around the US, so we registered at Amazon. That said, no, I don't think honeymoon registries are rude.

You don't need to ask for cash, the lack of a registry will imply that is what you want.

Most people do not think it's rude to *give* money to a couple. In fact, I've never seen anyone say that. The rude part is a couple *asking for* money. It's just not polite to ask for money. People know they can give money as a gift - they don't have to be asked or told. I always give money as a wedding gift, but I would be very put off by a cash request or cash registry in an invitation.

Registries aren't asking for gifts. They are a list of suggestions for people who choose to buy the couple a gift on their own accord. Registries should never be listed in a wedding invitation though, as an invitation should not be a solicitation for gifts.

I have given cash as gifts, and see nothing wrong with money as gifts. However I feel as though a Honeymoon Registry or asking for money for your honeymoon is tacky, that is a trip for the two of you to go on. It's not right to ask someone else to fund your vacation because that is what it really is.

Just my personal opinion.

Is it better to not have a registry and have a bunch of people confused about that? Wouldn't I end up having to say "we'd like cash" at some point? And most likely we'd end up with a bunch of things that we can't ship or return because we don't live there and it all goes to waste. Why that's more polite is beyond me.

Would it be less rude if I used a honeymoon registry to ask for things on a traditional registry, except we get cash so we can go home and get the things we need, foregoing shipping costs for everyone involved?

I don't think it's rude. I didn't opt for a registry; I opened an account with depositagift.com and put it on my wedding site. I don't care if some ppl say is not "ethical" or "rude" to ask for money, but I don't want random stuffs laying in my house; especially when I have all the essentials at my new place

You said that in your culture, it is traditional to give money and your family always gives money, so why would you have to ask for it anyway?

A HM registry should be used for a honeymoon, not to get cash for other things. If you think people in your family would be fine with a HM registry, then do one. But not everyone likes them and some people prefer to give tangible items.

If people in your culture already give cash gifts, plus they already know that transporting gifts would be didficult because you live abroad, then you would probably be fine not registering at all. If anyone asks, just say "well... Transporting gifts from here to there isn't exactly practical so we don't have a registry..." I'm sure they'll figure it out.

Agree with what Emily said..if everyone gives cash, then there is really no need to ask for anything.

Cash gifts are not rude in of themselves; asking for them is. I do think honeyfund/honeymoon registries are rude..I do realize others don't agree with me but most are one's who have done it themselves. However it's not like I'd not go to a wedding because of that; probably just raise my eyebrows a bit.

FH is Chinese so we will be expecting cash also. We are doing a honeymoon registry for my family.

FH is not Chinese and because my wedding location is his hometown, the majority of guests will be his. I'm doing the honeymoon registry for his guests and not mine. So the consensus is if I do a honeymoon registry it should be all honeymoon stuff and no household items?

I think a honeymoon registry is sooo smart! I personally did not do one but would see no problem if I was invited to a wedding that had one. A lot of people on WW are going to say otherwise. Screw them... do what makes YOU happy! The worst that can happen is...those that do not like the idea...won't chip in.

Ha definitely would not care if we were short a present or two because someone is offended! Actually would not be this stressed if it were my family, just don't want to offend FH'a family. He seems to think honeymoon registry is a good idea so I should just do it

I've been curious about alternative registry ideas as well seeing as my fiance and I also live abroad and won't be able to transport gifts. His side would definitely give cash regardless of whether we registered, but I'm not so sure what to do for my American family and frirends who may expect a traditional registry.

I have a registry through honeyfund & we've already had our bridal shower. I actually had quite the opposite response. Many thought it was a great idea. We are going to hawaii in fall. Those who have already been there were especially eager to give a gift through that instead of a gift off traditional registry.

I always give cash.. I hate being asked for it. A friend asked for money to be deposited into a paypal account for her honeymoon. I just put it in a card. I know it could be a generational thing but I dont need t be asked/told to give money for a wedding.

I think asking for money for the honeymoon is different than what I have seen as far as honeyfunds go. I've seen honeymoon registrations that have excursions, spa visits, etc on there and I think its a great idea.

Yes, they're tacky. Not to mention the fact that these companies take a cut (somewhere between 5-10%) of the money. Your guests are misled into thinking they are actually getting you an 'experience' like swimming with the dolphins $100...when what it actually ends up being a cheque to the bride and groom for $93.50

If even one of your guests would think it was tacky, why wouldn't you air on the side of caution? Just don't have a registry, it's understood what that means.