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Are church weddings not a thing anymore esp with older couples?

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Maureen, on September 26, 2017 at 10:25 PM

A friend of mine will be getting married for first time at age 49 next year and her groom will be age 50 by then. Also his first marriage. I was surprised when she told me she wasn't getting married in a church and she said "nobody gets married in church anymore esp if you're older like 40s and 50s and beyond". She said, "maybe if you're in your 20s, they're getting married in church but not older like us". I never heard of that. I know my fiancee and I want to be married in a church. It will be our first marriage. I can't imagine getting married in a restaurant or catering hall. But to each his own. Was just curious if anyone else was finding this to be true, that most couples are getting married at the venue? I've only been to 2 weddings in my life. First in 1991 the bride was 21 and was married in church. The 2nd wedding I been to was this past july. Couple were in their late 40s and married at the restaurant.

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Fall bride 17 - 2.0 · on September 28, 2017 at 10:23 AM
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I'm in my late 40's, FH is early 40's and we are marrying in a church.
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Maureen · on September 28, 2017 at 11:07 AM
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MrsBdeG - Sorry I didn't intend for my statement of not seeing myself married in a catering hall or restaurant to be judgy. I guess it's the Catholic upbringing that I would feel guilty if I didn't get married in a church esp if it's my first time getting married. And my FH feels marriage should be in a holy place and he doesn't even go to church but I guess it's how we were raised and the catholic guilt still in us even at age 48. lol. But reading the posts above about how the Church can be rigid with times and what's done at a church wedding is now making me reconsider. I have a lot to think about here. Thank you.
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michelle d · on September 28, 2017 at 12:24 PM
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I did not do the church because I did not want to jump through their hoops.
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M.M. · on September 28, 2017 at 4:15 PM
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I believe it's about the couple's wants. My 30 year old FH is excited about getting married in my church. Other people we know have gotten married at a winery or outdoor venue sites. It's up to their likes. Traditional / Non-Traditional.
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Samantha · on September 28, 2017 at 4:19 PM
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It's completely up to you. I've been to 2 weddings in churches recently and 4 not in churches
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Mj · on September 28, 2017 at 4:52 PM
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Don't listen to stuff like that. You get married where ever you want.
I do see that maybe 2nd marriages aren't in a church but it's because maybe that was what they did first and they learned from their mistakes ;p Or they didn't enjoy it as much as they know they would in a different setting but it is honestly ALL preference.
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Jennifer · on September 29, 2017 at 10:18 AM
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My husband and I are both in our 40's and we just got married at my church I was attending. We had our reception else where so we could dance. We weren't limited to what songs we could have played during our ceremony. I truly believe it's a personal choice, but it does seem like more and more people choose to have a wedding somewhere besides a church.
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Nancy Taussig · on October 1, 2017 at 1:48 PM
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Most of my couples are not getting married for the first time. I think they choose me and a beach wedding because it is different than what they had the first time.

Also, most of my couples are 35-65. They've met & fallen in love with people who would not have been in their social circle at 20 (different religions, races, cultures).
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