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Malei
Super October 2018

Are any of you no longer in contact with your bridesmaids/men or vice versa?

Malei, on November 8, 2017 at 5:57 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 43

I'm not planning on asking for a few more months but I'm starting to plan out my bridal party. There are 3 girls that I'm close to at this moment from my part time job that I hang out with often outside of work. I'd like for them to be part of my special day but I'm wondering if we'll still be in...

I'm not planning on asking for a few more months but I'm starting to plan out my bridal party.

There are 3 girls that I'm close to at this moment from my part time job that I hang out with often outside of work. I'd like for them to be part of my special day but I'm wondering if we'll still be in touch 5 years from now (I plan on quitting a little after the wedding). Actually, one quit there a few months ago and we're already (understandably) starting to not see her as often. Which is what led me to wonder about this.

I think I'm being paranoid because I've been a part of 6 weddings and have lost touch with all the brides that I wasn't related to, one of them I was even the MOH. I don't want that happening to me but I'm also someone that keep very few close to me.

Has anyone else chosen someone they were close with at the time (as suggested by many articles) that you don't really speak to anymore? Is it awkward? Do you regret it?

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  • Megan
    Devoted January 2018
    Megan ·
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    I probably have a different take on this but I was going to have a small wedding, now eloping, but I wasn't planning on having any bridal party. Seemed like too much stress, money, I only have really 1 best friend, etc. My sister's wedding she only had me stand up there as her MOH and her husband had his brother as his best man and it worked out perfectly. She didn't have to worry about losing touch with anyone.

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  • Cindy
    Just Said Yes September 2022
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    I had a falling out with my MOH, recently too. I was friends with her since 3rd grade and got married at 24. Since I got engaged she changed a lot and complained over my choices. I didn’t want to lose her as a friend so I forgave her every time. When I picked the dresses she said “does it have to be that color and cut?” And when I told her how hurtful that comment was because if she asked me to wear a trash bag to her wedding I would wear it happily. She fought with me saying I took it “too seriously.” She didn’t pay or help at all with bridal shower or bachelorette party. She made me pay for my part in everything and would venmo request me immediately for the uber rides at the bachelorette party. She isn’t broke, doesn’t pu rent and makes over $650 a week cash. During the bachelorette party she judged me for drinking complained over everything and wanted everyone to go to bed by 10 pm. She also spoke behind my back to one of my other bridesmaids saying that “I don’t even wanna go to her wedding” “I want no part of this and what to go home tonight” the bridesmaid told me immediately and I confronted her. When I confronted her she cried and said she didn’t mean it etc. I forgave her since the wedding was in 2 weeks at that point. I thought she would change. However, during the wedding rehearsal she was not in a good mood barely spoke to me and judged my other bridesmaid for drinking. (side not nobody got sloppy when drinking she just kept saying “that’s why I don’t drink” and eyeing us). She agreed to fix my veil during the rehearsal before I leave the isle. However during my wedding she refused. My sister thought she forgot so she reminded her but she said “no it’s fine” my sister stepped in and fixed my veil. When my husband and I got home to open envelopes she out of all the bridesmaid gave me the least thoughtful gift. She signed her name on a card from her future in law, totaling $50. It felt like a slap in the face. Ultimately, I just told her how I felt. She just denied and called me a liar even though all the bridesmaids and family witnessed how poorly she treated me. So she’s blocked because she kept on saying nasty hurtful things. So, yes I regret ever having her in my wedding but I can’t do anything about it. Im just never letting people fu** me over again.
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