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Brooke Lilly Le Toler
Dedicated June 2014

Apology letter?

Brooke Lilly Le Toler, on March 5, 2014 at 11:44 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 15

I expected to have my wedding invitations ready by Valentines Day, and they were. All we had to do was seal them and mail them. Unfortunately, my father had a heart attack and died that day. I just got back around to organizing everything again today, and my RSVP's state "Kindly reply by March 7".. We were still going to mail them, instead of paying to have new ones made, but I thought it would be considerate to put a letter in each one apologizing for the inconvenience and asking that they have their RSVP's in the mail by April 7th. We're not getting married until June 14th, but we wanted to know the numbers early for catering and venue purposes. How do I word this letter.. "Due to unfortunate circumstances.." etc. etc. I just don't know how to start this letter without it bogging down the invitation or being too personal.

15 Comments

Latest activity by KristenMeowza, on March 5, 2014 at 4:56 PM
  • Koch Bride
    Master September 2014
    Koch Bride ·
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    Brooke, I'm so sorry for your loss. Maybe just order business cards from Vista and stick in an insert. By all means, do not explain yourself. Just put "Please Reply by April 7th." on them. Hugs!

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  • Shannon S.
    Master March 2011
    Shannon S. ·
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    Can you swap out the current reply cards that read March 7 for some that say April 7? Better yet - can you set the date for May 7? Requiring RSVPs so far in advance isn't reasonable - people often don't get their work schedules and travel sorted until a month out.

    As for an apology letter, I would think most guests would know the circumstances and be sympathetic. I'm sorry for your loss.

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  • Chelsea
    Super August 2014
    Chelsea ·
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    Brooke, I am so sorry for your loss. I agree with Koch Bride about just a simple business card that has the new RSVP date. There is no reason to explain yourself!

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  • D
    Master May 2014
    D ·
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    I would say "due to my fathers passing" unfortunate circumstances sounds cold to me.

    I'm sorry to hear about your Dad : (

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  • SupermanBride
    Master October 2014
    SupermanBride ·
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    I'm also sorry to hear about your dad. I pray that you and your family find peace in his passing.

    Dear family and Friends,

    A family emergency has delayed the mailing of our invites. Due to this, please consider April 7th our RSVP deadline. We can't wait to see you all!

    Love

    B&G

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  • T
    Devoted September 2014
    thefuturemrspeterson ·
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    First off, I am so sorry to hear that Smiley sad

    For your RSVP date, is there any way you could print on address labels and stick it over the original date? (Might need to do a little cutting)

    Honestly, at least I would hope, anyone who knows about your situation would completely understand. In my opinion, I wouldn't feel the need to apologize. If someone questions it, then you could explain, but I really don't think anyone will.

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  • Emily
    Master May 2014
    Emily ·
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    I am so sorry to hear about your father. Is there any way you could just have new RSVPs printed with the correct date? It may not be too expensive since it is just the RSVP card.

    If not, I would just cross off the old date and write the new one in with a fine tip marker on the cards. Or stickering over the old card is a good idea as well. I don't think an appology note is necessary.

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  • Mama Lea
    Expert May 2014
    Mama Lea ·
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    So sorry for your loss

    I think that a business card with the later date would be a great idea and I agree with D on the wording.

    Although you certainly do not have to give any reason at all

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  • Laudie
    Master October 2013
    Laudie ·
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    I'm so sorry for your loss and know how hard of times this is. I agree with Koch Bride about putting a simple business card in. But honestly I would require them to RSVP closer to 1 month before the date. The further out you put your RSVP date, the more likely you are to get no-shows and last minute cancellations.

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  • Out the Window
    Master May 2014
    Out the Window ·
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    I'm very sorry to hear about your Dad. Smiley sad

    People who you're inviting are understanding of your circumstance. Just a business card with the new RSVP date should suffice.

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  • M
    Master May 2014
    MizizAngi ·
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    I think a business card will get lost in the shuffle. Include a note with the wording Superman suggested.

    Also, my condolences.

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  • Mrs Wilson
    VIP May 2014
    Mrs Wilson ·
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    I'm so sorry for your loss *hugs*

    I think what Kayla said would be nice to put in the invites.

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    VIP August 2014
    Anonymous ·
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    I agree with everyone else about the note. Superman had good wording. So sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain.

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  • Sarah and Lindsey
    Devoted May 2015
    Sarah and Lindsey ·
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    I'm so very sorry for your loss. I like the idea of an additional card and I like the way Superman said it.

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  • KristenMeowza
    Master October 2014
    KristenMeowza ·
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    Oh my gosh! I am so sorry, Brooke, for your loss. That is devastating. Smiley sad

    I agree with just ordering free business cards from VP and putting a little note on them. People will surely understand.

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