Anyone wishing they would have eloped instead?

Thank you... One of the main ones who wants to keep saying stuff has helped me plan the wedding.... kinda crazy how one day she can be really supportive and the next it's negative..

I'm so sorry! I was lucky to have an incredibly supportive family. That being said, I still wish we had eloped and we, in fact, sort of did. we got married a day early with only our brothers and parents there. It was perfect. I wish we'd planned that from the start because now we have a "secret wedding" that almost no one knows about and a "real wedding" that everyone knows about and was at. Our wedding anniversary, which is coming up in less than two months!, is unknown by most.

Thank you! Congrats. At first we were thinking a very small courthouse wedding with our immediate family and then a reception but more & more people wanted to come so we finally discussed it & decided to just go ahead and switch to a church wedding..Well we didn't know when we made that decision a few months back people would be so cruel.. we thought everyone would be happy but for months all i have heard is you should have just stuck to the courthouse and not changed to the church wedding..then i'll be told it was our right to change cause it's our day then back to the same crap again.. my brother refuses to come cause his bday was a little over 3 months ago and i wasn't able to be here for it... he still keeps on & on about it to this day.. i bought him a gift even though i couldn't be here but he threw it back at me... now he says because i couldn't be there on his birthday he won't attend my wedding which is childish. Just so much drama when all i wanted was a happy day

I had a great time planning my wedding, but a stressful summer (mom sick, summer school, etc) so, by the night before the wedding, I was TOTALLY wishing we'd eloped. For what it's worth, once the ball started to roll, I really enjoyed it and now I'm glad I have my wedding to look back on.

That's good it turned out okay I hope mine will too... it is just so discouraging for the drama to continue... this is the last few weeks with my family before I get married I want it to be happy...

I wish we had eloped, not due to unsupported family, but because weddings aren't my thing. FH wanted the whole church, song & dance....so I gave in and we're doing it his way.

I did haha just cause of school but i love being married and.i don't need to stress about planning this wedding :]

One word... YES!!

That's good ladies. It is odd cause ppl act supportive one day then the next they aren't. ..

I wish we would have. That's what we wanted to do in the first place, but we caved under pressure from family. Now we are having a 125 people circus that we can't afford. It's great....

I wish that we would have eloped, but even more that we had done something super small. I feel like everything is getting lost in the wedding planning. With all the weddings I've been in, I thought I would relish every second of planning, instead I'm emotional and stressed with all the stuff I have to do.

I am so ready to just be married!

I understand completely. The closer the wedding gets the more I wish we would have just has a small JP wedding and a big party later. Between all the money and headaches that come with planning a wedding I am ready to just through in the towel. But I want I will keep my head up and so should you. I know everything will turn out great in the end. Good luck with your wedding planning and try not to let it get to you to much.

Thanks for all the replies ladies

it's nice to hear all this encouraging support from all you wonderful ladies when i just feel like giving up.

ToBeMrsM- Sorry about that. I wish i could open up some spots for people who would love to come and not complain about everything! On the drama with my brother he is 23 & i think he needs to grow up and realize i'm not always gonna be able to be there. I'll try not to. i have to learn i can't make everyone happy and just let it go in one ear and out the other.

Valerie- i am so ready for this to be over and be married too! i have never been so stressed out in my life!

MistysoontobeBell-Thank you! it's just been going on for months and it gets old after a while .... Hopefully it will all turn out great in the end! Hope yours goes good too

I am thinking that I would rather elope at this point. I love the idea of a large wedding, but there are SO many things that I would rather spend the money on. My FH is in school, so he can't really contribute. I am overwhelmed and irritated with much of the process so far.

That being said, I want the dream dress and wonderful photos, so I'm not real sure what Im going to do.

I was all for it. FH was not. I'm sure when it's all said and done I'll be happy we did it this way, but . . .

You're almost there.

YES..

This is my second wedding. I was happy to elope. My FI said he wanted a full wedding since it was his first so I was fine with that too. Sometimes I think we're doing it just for FMIL though. It's really a huge cost that I'm paying for myself, it's time we're postponing having children, and money I would've preferred to put towards our house.

We recently had a fight and he told me he didn't need a wedding anyway which was really upsetting to me for the above reasons. He apologized and retracted, but it still hurt.

With that said, I will be happy to have these memories with him, rather than with my ex.

My mom -- a wedding coordinator, mind -- offered to buy us everything on our registry if we'd cancel the wedding and just elope.

It was tempting.

I wish we would have eloped too. It was very expensive for us to pay for our own wedding when we thought our parents would help more. I haven't let people have much say in the wedding planning. I ask for suggestions but I say I'm paying for it so I make the final decision. We're having a small wedding but that has not stopped the huge amount of drama I've had to deal with. I am determined to not let it ruin our day because we're only doing it once and since we're paying for it we're going to love it.

YES. I do certainly wish i could elope, but i cant. Mine has turned into a big pile of mush. It sorta feels like all of my plans are pieces of paper that have been wadded and crumpled up into a giant sticky ball, and everytime i get one piece out of the wad, and get it straightened out and taken care of, something happens and ZOOM there it goes, back into the wad. Im sick of it. its hard with no support.