Anyone Silencing the Clinking Glasses at Their Wedding Reception

I would be very wary of starting a new "tradition" that involved the guests giving money. Guests will typically have given a wedding gift, and may well have spent a lot of money (for air fare, hotels, etc.) to be at the wedding. Asking them for even more money, even if it is for a charity, could well come across as grabby.

We aren't doing any other money related events our wedding (ex. a dollar dance or anything) and only a few of our guests are coming from out of town (mainly just some of the wedding party) this would only last during the dinner (when the average clinking of glasses would take place) and i don't think people will feel obligated. but i do see your point. thanks for your imput 2d bride.

I was in a wedding where the couple had a little girl, she was about one, and they put out a piggy bank that said "sawyers College Fund" and to get them to kiss they had to donate. It was super cute.

I was also at a wedding where the brides dad is fighting cancer and they put out a donation jar and to get them to kiss you had to donate to the Canadian Cancer Society.

Also I know that the Canadian Breast Cancer has something set up just for weddings. I am not sure how it works but I am sure it's on their website.

Well fh and i both have lost friends and family to cancer, he also a cousin who just found out she has a brain tumor, my dad passed of a heart attack and i work for a non profit organization so we have a few options.

also hello fellow canadian @britt don't see much of us here

Yay! Another Canadain!!

Wait- so if guests start clinking glasses, you're supposed to kiss? I've never heard that... (not disagreeing, just never heard it).

I like the idea of doing something, but do agree that it shouldn't be money related.

Google some other ideas and see what you like.

I'm Canadian too!! YAY!!!

Anyways...back to the post...at my sister's wedding (few weeks ago) They had a basket on the table and if someone put money in it, the groomsmen would start tinkling so they knew money was in the basket, and either my sister and her hubby kissed, or the payor told them who had to kiss who...lotta fun actually (Like Groom had to kiss his mom...cute stuff like that) Money was donated to 2 charities too.

At my wedding, my sister's making a game....you pull a card and it'll have a lot of diffierent stuff..like trivia questions,,sing songs...kiss people...do a dance...etc, etc....make it fun, and get your wedding party involved, it helps everyone else get involved too.

Yeah, we didn't do the clinking, it's annoying as heck, adn ofcourse, you have to pay for the wine glasses that get broke. I almost flipped on my FIL at the last weddin gwe were at, he kept doing it AFTER they told everyone there is no clinking, instead, we are doing this... ANd claimed to not hear that they siad that...OH I KNOW YOU HEARD IT! ANYWAY! We had couples come and and tell the story of how they met and/or were proposed too. For the little kids, th MC would pick something out of a bag, they then had to guess if it was for ME or DH, if they were right, we kissed, if they were wrong, they had to kiss us!

The cancer thing sounds like a good idea!

That sounded bad, sorry! The donation to cancer research to kiss sounds like a great idea.. ((face palm))

I don't want to insult any of my guests by requesting money of them, but i think that the ones who want to put money towards a charity wouldn't find it insulting. also a lot of our guests are older (FH has 36 aunts and uncles) so i know they will be expecting the clinking of the glasses so i'm sure we will hear them clink at least once or twice after announcing that we are doing something different. old habits die hard i guess.

Most of my family has had weddings that have been catered by the bride and groom's family, and they didn't have real glass glasses. So instead, people pound on the table... I would take clinking glasses over table pounding any day. I have seen couples use little bells which isn't as bad as table pounding, but still it would get annoying. I don't really know how to get people not to clink glasses/pound the table/etc, but I do think its really annoying.

I really hope there is no clinking of the glasses at my wedding. Do you just announce it before the reception?

I wonder if the clinking glasses is a regional thing. On one side of my family's weddings, which have all been in Ohio, there is always a lot of clinking glasses. I've never seen it at weddings in the South (not that I have a good sample size or anything). At my wedding, we got one clinking glass - Aunt from Ohio, and nobody seem to know what she was doing, not even my groom. I had to kiss him real quick and explain it later.

I'm the same as Jass... how are the guests supposed to know?

My mom didn't want the glasses to get broken so she bought little bells and put a note on each table that the bell was to be used if they wanted us to kiss. I like the ideal about donations to cancer or charities I wish I would have known that as my step daughter had cancer

I was more concerned with the glass breaking, especially as the drinks flowed towards the end of the night, so I am doing the "ring the bell for a kiss" thing, and tying them to the Jordan Almonds for the favors for each guest...the noise will be just as annoying after awhile, but I think that's better than breaking glasses...and the bathroom kits will have aspirin in them lol

@ Jass and Adian Bride, just have you MC's say something along the lines of "We all know how much you want to see the bride and groom kiss, but there will be NO CLINKING of the glasses, instead, we doing _______, Anyone caught clinking, will have to stand up and kiss their partner! And, remember, if you break it, you buy it!"

My cousin had the clinking of the glasses = kiss at his wedding and it got annoying after about ten minutes. As soon as the kids heard that you could clink glasses, there was no holding them back.

I like Mrs. Schmidt's idea about having the MC make an announcement.