anyone NOT having an engagement party?

Nope. I'm not having an engagement party or a bridal shower.

We didn't have an engagement party either, although my parents did take us out to dinner (but they were meeting FH for the first time as well).

It's not necessary at all. Usually it's an excited parent wanting to throw it for you. We had a surprise engagement party right after FH proposed (like, less than 10 minutes after).

We're not having one either. We'd rather the money be put toward the wedding whether its out of our pockets or our families'.

We are going to give our selves one. NO one has offered so we decided we will just have a bbq in one of our parents back yards.

We didn't have an official one. We have people over a lot, though, so we had a hybrid New Year's Eve/Housewarming/Engagement party when we moved into our new place. Just local friends, though, no crazy long-distance invites.

I didnt have one

We're not having one either...we got engaged in January and I threw a surprise grad school graduation party for FH a week or two later...since both our families were there and it was the first time many of them saw us after he proposed, they kind of treated it like an engagement party. My mom asked me if I wanted her to throw us one, but I said no. His grad party served the purpose we would have wanted one for, so it would have just felt like another way for us to beg for gifts.

I don't think having an engagement party is a necessity, what it comes down to is...someone will have to spend more money. The shower, rehearsal and wedding itself is enough of an expense. Of course it depends on how you feel about it, it doesn't have to be a big ta-do either. My mom said she wanted to have an engagement party so the immediate families could meet and get to know each other a little better. I kinda thought the engagement party was just an announcement and a reason to party/celebrate, LOL. Anyway, to each their own. But we ended up having a really quiet dinner @ my moms house with Dh's mom/dad and grandmother and my mom, my moms partner and my brother, and of course DH & I. Then we all (minus little brother) went to DH's aunts house, where it was supposed to be another quiet dinner but with a few more of the Brooklynites that couldnt make it to the first one. Ended up being 40 ppl, and we watched bootleg movies all night! LOL it was fun, crazy, & unexpected, but fun!!

I didn't have one. In our case we would have had to foot the bill and doubted we would get any presents from it. (Not the reason for not having it, BUT...) Finically it just didnt make sense for us to put out that money when we realy need to be saving for the wedding.

No engagement party or bridal shower

We didn't have one but when we set our date, we had less than a year to plan. If we were having a longer engagement we MAY have considered it but I chose to focus on planning the wedding rather than planning an e-party. Now if someone would have offered to throw us one we wouldn't have declined. But WE weren't going to do it.

I am not having an engagement party or bridal shower. My MOH is throwing my bachlorette party.

I'm not pressed...besides everyday is a party with us. lol

No engagement party nor bridal shower, just bachorette party. I noticed a lot of people don;t have those. It is a old tradiation

We didn't have one, we didn't want one. People are going

I don't think it's necessary ifyou really don't want one. But, make sure you really don't want one. Also...it's more common now that the bride and groom host the party. I got engaged in September and kept prolonging the engagement party out of fear...cost..whether people were gonna have fun, etc...but I finally had it...6 months before the wedding and I'm so glad I went through with it. For me, it was important to my family..they kept bugging me to have one because both of the families hadn't met.

We are not having one, we had a few friends over the weekend after it happend to celebrate as I had been waiting for 2 years lol. But it was not an actual engagement party.

It's not really necessary, though we did throw one ourselves this past Saturday. It was just my parents and 6 of our friends that showed up. We'd been doing a lot of work on our house, so it was a combination party. It was also nice to have friends come over to our house so that my parents could meet a smaller crowd instead of the whole shebang at our wedding. A lot of our friends are gay, so this was the first time they'd been around that many gay people at once. I was really proud of my mom. This was hardest on her. She loves my FW and wants us both to be happy, but she's always wanted the "normal" wedding. We told people it was a great chance to hang out, eat some munchies, and drink some champagne with us. No presents were requested or needed, though we did get a few.

No Engagement Party, No Bridal Shower, heck, we will probably forego the rehearsal dinner too!