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Richaelyn
Devoted July 2021

Anyone nervous/scared that guests won’t show up to your wedding?

Richaelyn, on January 21, 2021 at 11:24 AM

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Hello, I’m a little nervous and scared that people won’t attend my wedding and I’ll get alot of declines due to having my wedding during the pandemic (August 2021). Have anyone that have had a more traditional wedding during the pandemic, seen a pretty large amount of guests decline or not show up?...
Hello,
I’m a little nervous and scared that people won’t attend my wedding and I’ll get alot of declines due to having my wedding during the pandemic (August 2021). Have anyone that have had a more traditional wedding during the pandemic, seen a pretty large amount of guests decline or not show up? I’ll be having a traditional wedding with covid precautions in place, and the guest count is 100. I don’t want to spend all this money for a good amount of my guests not to show up the day of.

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  • Llcool_Kay
    Expert July 2021
    Llcool_Kay ·
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    We are inviting 120. Most of our crowd will show based on what they’ve told us. Our ceremony is outdoors. Reception indoors. We are making masks mandatory. And everyone will be sitting with their households. No cocktail hour and hand sanitizer stations. Our wedding is in July. In NC current guidelines say our venue can be at 30% capacity. It’s a country club so it falls under banquet hall/restaurant category.
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  • Richaelyn
    Devoted July 2021
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    Sounds good. I’ll be implementing those same precautions!
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    Annika ·
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    Wow, great move to reassure your guests. And clearly, it worked out.
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  • Katie
    VIP August 2020
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    Thank you - it was a lot of work, but worth it in the end! The precautions were worth it too as no one got covid at our wedding. Good luck on your upcoming wedding ❤️❤️❤️
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    Dedicated March 2021
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    Thank you so much! ☺️
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  • Carolyn
    Savvy October 2021
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    I would be concerned about this and is one of the reason I postponed last fall and may again this fall. I am surprised to hear people say they are hurt over guest declining to come. The whole things is tough of course, but during pandemic it would
    be completely understandable for people to put their health over a wedding. Everyone is just doing the best they can. Best of luck with your day! ❤️
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  • Marissa
    Savvy November 2022
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    My mom told me the guest list is who you want to invite but a final guest count is who you pay for. But it happens my mom told me that in the history of weddings to expect it. It’s gonna happen so I’ve chosen not to stress over it much
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  • Kristen
    Expert October 2021
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    This was already my fear when we thought we'd be getting married in April 2020, before the shutdown. The declines rolled in left and right. A friend of mine actually said, "You know, it could be because of COVID. A lot of people are freaking out." We've now rescheduled for October 2021, and I'm already on a waitlist to get vaccinated, but I also can't shake this fear that come August-September, people will still be too freaked out to come. On top of that, we signed a contract with our venue in which we guaranteed 75 adult attendees.

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  • Emily
    Dedicated August 2022
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    I personally declined a wedding invite in 2020 because of COVID and am waiting until COVID is over to have our wedding. I live in Portland where it's been a fairly high risk, so we didn't want to risk it, but if your area doesn't have many cases, it might be okay and you might get a good turn out!

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  • Kaysey
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    I agree with the PP that said it's all about knowing your crowd. I got married before COVID was declared a pandemic but my husband and I went to a wedding in October for one of his high school friends. He told us they invited 250 people to their wedding in total didn't think they would have many respond with a yes. Well, about 200 people did respond yes and showed up to their wedding.

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  • Richaelyn
    Devoted July 2021
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    That’s music to my ears. I’m happy to hear people are still having pretty good turnouts. Since the covid cases are starting to decrease and the vaccines are getting a better rollout... I hope people will feel more comfortable with attending and I’ll have a great event.
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  • Llcool_Kay
    Expert July 2021
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    We’re inviting that many people as well. And I’m assuming our out of town guests will decline. Which will put us under 100. Which honestly is fine with me lol
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  • RaylaSan
    Expert February 2021
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    I collected all of my RSVPS and we have around people going. :o
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  • Richaelyn
    Devoted July 2021
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    How many people do you have attending out of your original amount?
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  • RaylaSan
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    It's a bit complicated, but our original guest count was 150, which honestly isn't that bad. I remember one bride saying she only had like 20/100 people showing up.
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  • Richaelyn
    Devoted July 2021
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    Oooo that’s bad. I would be super mad if I paid for a party of 100 and 20 people came😭
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  • Crystal
    Beginner February 2021
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    Also encouraging everyone or Atleast your closest family and friends to get tested the week before Atleast or even the week of. Would really put people at ease. Also make sure you have a thermometer to check everyone at the entrance. That also makes everyone feel a little better. Also have the officiant mention where the sanitizers are and maybe make a joke out of the fact that it’s ok to bump elbows instead of shaking hands
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  • Richaelyn
    Devoted July 2021
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    Sounds good. I’ll include these precautions as well.
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  • MONICA
    Savvy June 2021
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    I am in CA, we already postponed from last year to this year and I am still just as anxious about it. Wedding is June 5, and since everything changes so often it is hard to tell what people are going to be comfortable doing. Our ceremony is outdoor, then reception is indoor & outdoor so I am hoping that people will be ok with that. I was thinking of providing masks for anyone that wanted them. I dunno it is such a weird time right now Smiley sad

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  • Richaelyn
    Devoted July 2021
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    I think providing masks is a good idea. Maybe you can get some add your names & date on them 😌
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