Anyone nervous/scared that guests won’t show up to your wedding?

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My wedding is in VA as well.....I'm nervous due to not knowing if the current restrictions will be lifted. Are you concerned about that at all?

Hi Richaelyn and congratulations on your engagement! Is you wedding indoors? From what I have been seeing TX has been a little more lenient with COVID and occupancy allowances. I agree with other posters, if you give a detailed plan about precautions, I think you will be ok. Make sure you are staying up to date with regulation changes.

Good Luck!

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Yep for sure. I just watched the governor speak this afternoon actually and I follow all the news very closely. Governor Northam just extended the restrictions through the month of February, but he did mention that the restrictions won’t go on forever. My heart is going out to all of the winter and spring brides playing the waiting game However, I’m confident that restrictions will be somewhat looser by summertime although it won’t be 100% normal by any means. I’m encouraging those around me to be vaccinated when it becomes more available. Also, our percent positivity in Covid cases in VA is thankfully starting to decrease in the last two weeks- fingers crossed that this continues. Hopefully a combo of vaccination and warm weather works in our favor!

View Quoted Comment Hello and Thank you! I will definitely be keeping up the regulation changes. I’m planning to have the ceremony outside and reception inside. I at least wanted one part to be outside.

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That is what I am praying for!

This was a concern of mine but now I'm okay with whatever happens. We are getting married in April 2021, I invited 120 people and so far 60 have RSVP'd and even with just those people, its going to be a party! My caterers have a minimum amount they will serve so i have to pay for 120 regardless of how many show up. So everyone is going to be eating and drinking good at least hahaha. I did include a layout of the venue with my invitations to show the guest the space and layout since the majority of the event is outside. I also posted all over my mothers, my FH and my social media letting everyone know they are welcome to wear mask and that we will have sanitation stations set up along with specifics of the timeline for the day. After I did that 13 more people RSVP'd so that seem to be helpful.

Side note- your profile pic is gorgeous. You're going to make a beautiful bride

My wedding is March 6th. I invited 150 people and 108 are coming. I requested my RSVP date as January 6th, and I don't think we heard back from everyone until last week. I purposely chose an RSVP date on the earlier side for 2 reasons - to weed out the people who already know they don't feel comfortable coming to the wedding and to allow ample time for the "undecided" people to figure out if they are coming. This gave me enough time to actually finalize the guest list and inform vendors of the new head count. I have actually been able to change some layouts/rental numbers/etc before my final decisions are due next week.

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And now I've got to know what city you're in! My wedding is April 24, 2021 in San Luis Obispo county (city of Avila Beach) and I just spent my lunch break calling my cousin and fiance's sister and fielding a zillion questions. "Well, have you considered postponing? What about just doing a small micro-wedding? Why are you so intent on having it now; can't you just wait?" Just.... eugh. My venue is being as positive as they can about it and my fiance and I are monitoring things as best we can. It's just really irksome and honestly a bit hurtful that they don't seem to consider at all how we're already feeling about this. Unless we postpone I won't get the wedding I've been planning since I was a kid. But if we postpone, that means putting our lives on hold which just doesn't feel right to either of us. So here we are, doing the best we can with the crappy hand that was dealt to us, and we've already got enough stress.

That being said (and to answer the original post), yeah I'm a bit worried that we'll get a lot of negative replies. We're trying to set up a livestream so people can at least join in that way, but for us it definitely isn't the same. I just have to keep reminding myself of a few things. 1) Just because someone isn't there doesn't mean they don't love us. They might have health issues or are caring for someone who does. But whatever their reason, they don't actually owe us an explanation of why they've chosen not to come. 2) What I'm paying for the venue (which covers basically everything except photography) is subject to change based on how many people actually end up attending. The final balance is due after the wedding once those numbers have been crunched. Less people is sad, but (silver lining) it also means that our costs go down a bit. Hopefully your venue and vendors have some leeway so you're not paying extra for people who didn't show. 3) The most important person to me on that day is the man who will become my husband. We could have nobody outside of the wedding party show up and, as unfortunate as that would be, what matters is that we're moving forward with our life together.

(And excuse the rant back there... I guess I really needed to get that off my chest!)

Honestly a few weeks ago I would have said I’m not worried because we already have a small guest list (35) and are taking all precautions. However, now that my RSVP deadline is tomorrow I am so disappointed with my family and, mostly FH’s family. I would have thought these people wouldn’t miss it especially seeing that we are doing all the right things. But we are now looking at maybe 14 guests. Our venue is an all inclusive and our package is food up to 30, not based on actual count. So that’s great and a huge waste of money. FH’s brother and his family aren’t coming because they are worried about Covid. Under normal circumstances I’d give them that, however seeing how they attend church weekly with twice as many people as our wedding, nope. Just jerks. FH’s friends are also not coming. I’m so heartbroken for him.
I’ve asked him multiple times if he wants to postpone and he says no, he wants to go forward with our plans. He and I will be there and our moms. That’s what is important. It’s just so disheartening.

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Awww man, I feel so incredibly sad for you Kim. Have you considered inviting more people than the initial 35? That's what I ended up doing, my fiancee and I knew that if we wanted to make sure our wedding wasn't a complete waste of money we invited more than the initial 150 we invited, I think we stopped at around 180, and we're getting a better turnout. So far we have had over 57 people RSVP yes to our wedding, with 27 declines but we're still waiting on a few more people to RSVP. My goal is to have at least around 80 people in attendance. However, my deadline is in like four days.

While I'm happy that we still get to have our wedding, my parents and my siblings won't be going, of course, they sighted COVID as their reason, but their excuse was BS when my parents didn't have COVID stop them from moving out of the freaking country. >_>

View Quoted Comment We can’t ask others at this point because our RSVP deadline is tomorrow and I have to give final count next week. It’s just so tough to realize how little you matter to people. I didn’t think I’d care, but turns out I do.

View Quoted Comment Good to know that by informing your guests about the precautions that it increased the amount of rsvp’s. I’ll definitely be doing that then. And thank you very much! You’re so sweet!

View Quoted Comment That’s still a pretty good amount.

View Quoted Comment I think I might have to do that if I’m not getting enough people. When is your wedding?

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View Quoted Comment Super cute!

I'm not nervous anymore ...I throw parties alot and I'm so use to people I invite not showing up ...so for my wedding i'm selectting people that i know are going to show ...and that has shown up for my event thru the years.

View Quoted Comment How many guests are you having and when is your wedding?

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About 85 to 90

I would suggest inviting people that are near and dear to you that you are pretty confident that they will be in attendance. In this instance, quality over quantity should be considered to elevate this level of worry.