Anyone marrying someone with disability?

My FH is the one marrying the one with disabilities. I have mild aspergers syndrome, IBS, as well as generalized anxiety disorder. Not sure if I can give insight, but thought I'd connect

My fiance has a bad case of OCD (literary) and they told him it was due to a chemical imbalance, but we try our best to manage. It's really weird and never consistent. I really don't have insight for you but I can say is I love the man!

My husband has very very limited eye site, he has glaucoma and lost his right eye to a surgery that tried to correct it. He was also born without pupils so those were surgically made when he was little. So he basically can see through a very small hole in the center of his left eye, and even that is crazy blurry. He can't see much of anything unless he has his contact and his glasses on together. This really has never been a huge problem for us. Obviously I didn't marry him b/c he could see perfectly, he's an amazing person and that's why I did. At times it's hard b/c I have to read everything for him and even small tasks that you wouldn't think would be hard for him, simply are. Every great now and then I get a little aggravated if I'm doing something and he needs something read right then and there. But in reality he just can't see well enough and I have to remind myself of that. Other than that, it's not a huge issue for us. It's actually kind of helped us. We only need (cont)

Thanks for commenting! Are there certain things you are limited to? My FH is basically wheelchair bound so there are many things we cannot do.

My FH is also the one marrying with disabilities or as others say health problems.

I've had them ever since I was born, I was a preemie. I have something wrong with my liver/spleen I have a bleeding disorder that affects my spleen and I have bad knee problems, portal hypertension & theres more it's a really long list. Doctors tell me i'm complicated.

One car, one tank of gas, lol. But we also have bi monthly dr visits for the 6 eye drops he needs every day. My husbands worth it, you just gotta take the good with the bad. And in our relationship, the good more than outweighs the bad.

My husband has a sort of PTSD. I would direct you to an organization called Well Spouse. It is a nation wide organization that provides support to the spouses/significant others who live with and/or care for someone like my husband and your FH.

@Shaquaya, I know what you mean. Since he only has his left eye, he has no depth perception so we can't go hiking, or if we do it's like the little kids one so no heights! He also can't see 3D so all the movies coming out now in 3d we have to wait until they come out, but hey that saves us money lol. Movies in general are kind of hard to watch for him b/c he can't make out details unless he sits 4-5 inch from the screen. But, you learn to live with it. I've lived with my husband for almost 3 yrs now, and like I said, every once in a while I wish it wasn't an issue, but we have plenty of things we can do together.

My FH's the one marrying someone with disabilities. I have full-blown Asperger's and I'm also Deaf. My FH's family has an history of ALS, so he may end up with it.

@Greyash, yea that sounds trying but you guys are making it work and thats beautiful! My FH can barely walk, can't feed himself, clothe himself, or brush his own teeth so he depends on me and a home nurse for just about everything. So far things are great but I keep thinking of the days when I'm tired and don't feel like doing something, it scares me to think of that but our love for one another is so strong, I wouldn't dare leave his side. He has my heart

To the ladies with the disablitites - how do your husbands or FHs handle things, does it cause issues within the relationship?

My FH is always there for me & when I have doctor appointments he always wants to know what's going on. I wish he could be there with me but right now were trying to find a place to move into together then he can be there. But he's always worrying about me & makes sure I take all my meds and if I don't feel good he always helps me stay calm. It hasn't caused issues with the relationship, except at times things get hard or i'm not in the mood to talk so then things can be a bit difficult but he's been there for me & that's all I ask <3

My FH has OCD and anxiety attacks. At times it can be frustrating like when I finish my drink he immediately takes my cup to wash it and I'm like I was going to get more! Or I will make the bed and put the throw pillows on and instead of him saying to me you didn't do it right he quietly goes over a fixes it. All these little things during the day. I do love him though and that will not stop me from marrying him! I work with children and adults with disabilities so I don't mind it and I believe we can learn just as much from them as they can from us.

My Hubby is physically disabled. The accident happened after we had been dating awhile, but that doesn't change anything.

When he was younger, they tried to paint him with the broad brush of "Bi-Polar". But since we've been together, I definitely don't believe it.

Ever since his injury though, he has changed a lot. He isn't as confident or happy as he used to be. He can't stand or sit for very long, though he tries to push himself. He's had two surgeries but after seeing 4 surgeons, they have all said "tough shiz".

One doctor even told him, "Do you have a manual vehicle? Sell it. House with stairs? Move. Plan on having kids? Well, you shouldn't. Since you won't be able to lift them, play with them, or check for monsters under the bed. Get used to it."

That completely broke his heart. But we're doing our best to keep our heads up!

I have severe anxiety and depression. Among quite a few other health problems that I don't like talking about because I don't want sympathy. CONT

We are doing our best to handle everything together, and we're doing pretty good so far!

We lift each other up when we need it, and help each other with anything we can.

I am glad to see that there are quite a few of us on here! =]

Great support system.

This is wonderful! I definitely wasn't expecting this much feedback, I was almost embarrassed to ask the question but I'm so glad I did! To love someone regardless of their disability is simply BEAUTIFUL! It says a lot about a person and its nice to know there are some BIG hearts out there! Stay encouraged ladies!

My DH was fairly healthy when we married 23 years ago. But, he has some health problems now. I just remind myself "in sickness and in health" and try not to lose patience with him.

So, enjoy good health while you have it -- it may not last forever.

I would marry him all over again!

I love that people with disabilities can find love like everyone else cause everyone deserves to be loved!

Yes Brittany R. I agree, everyone needs love! I love my FH with all my heart!!!!

I'm the one with the issues, unfortunately. I have Stargartz disease, and I'm bipolar 1. DS and I don't have to do anything super out of the ordinary just yet. I go to therapy, and we've had talks about the changes we'll have to make once I've lost my sight completely, but other than that, we tend to function much like any other couple would.

Mrs. Carmen - it's good that you guys are able to function regularly. I know sometimes a disability can really be a distraction in a relationship. Congrats on being recently married!