Anyone honoring a deceased parent(s) of bride or groom during the ceremony?

What the heck people. Not everyone is offended by the same things OK? I don't understand how everyone on here has such a stark "right/wrong" way of doing things.

Maybe her family will love it, maybe they'll be horribly offended by it. From what I gathered of her post this is what she chose do to thus far, but was also curious to what else people were doing. OP didn't seem rude to any of the ideas. Who knows, for the people posting suggestions on here maybe she'll see something she likes and change her mind....Maybe she won't.

And sorry just because Celia is an officiant, doesn't mean OP is an asshole for not taking her advice.

I can't see the post she made, and if she called Celia something not cool too but seriously she asked what people were doing. Give her your advice, let her sink or swim. I don't get it when people are so salty on here when someone chooses to do something against their opinion.

Jacky brings up a good point about charities, either 'in lieu of' or in general. It's pretty impossible to find a charity that everyone agrees with, whether they don't resonate with the cause or whether they've done the work to figure out how efficient their administration is.

I have no problem with heads of charities making money. They work tirelessly to raise awareness for their causes. The problem comes in when they make more money than they should based on the ratio of giving. I choose to support animal based charities; Puppies Behind Bars places puppies with incarcerated people who train them to become service dogs for (mostly) vets returning with PSTD. It's rating on Charity Navigator is like 97%. Someone here recommended Frosty Faces, an adoption agency for older dogs, which I just love.

Do your research, write a check and keep it quiet.

@Nikki? I believe that the OP invoked the asshole designation. And frankly? I don't care what she does. I just weighed in to tell her my experiences with my couples.

I'm getting a bouquet charm with my mother's picture in it. I wouldn't do the empty chairs though.

@Nikki thank you! Lol. Idk Celia and dont know she was an officiant apparently everyone else knows her or has been on here long enough. But im spent on being defensive or even caring how ppl view me on here bc like she said no one cares what i do anyway we will alm have diff opinions on how to do our wedding days. I got what i asked for by posting though i didnt agree with how some things were expressed. It is what it is.

One thing i aim to remind myself of is the beauty of perception on the internet. Just like i percieved someone was rude in how they gave advice others didnt. Just like ppl percieve me as rude on here and i know i am not. At the end of the day im marrying the love of my life thats most important