Anyone honoring a deceased parent(s) of bride or groom during the ceremony?

My brother passed away at 18 in 2004 never get over it you just deal with it! My FH mother also passed away 2005 were just doing a candle light and table with our 3 cord of string attached! No picture just memorial table!

I'm buying this put it in a frame.. 2 candles with holder that's it.

My dad passed away four years ago. My brother was already married but me nor my sisters were. Both have since married and my mom felt very strongly about not having the open chair or prominent signs/pictures because she didn't know if she could handle it. I know it is my wedding but at same time I don't want my mom upset either. So we are doing 2 things. 1 is doing pictures holding our parents' wedding pictures, so he can be there in a way. Also, we are planning on sneaking away for a few minutes to do a lantern to heaven on our own. I'm getting emotional writing this post so I can only imagine how day of would be. Relatedly, did anyone skip the dance? My sisters danced with their godfathers but I'm leaning towards just doing dance with FH and him dancing with his mom.

Between my FH and I, my maternal grandpa is the only grandparent still living. I'm going to do a table similar to @Yasmina to honor everyone. I was really close to my maternal grandma and I know how much she really wanted to be at my wedding, so I've thought of incorporating something of hers into my bouquet as well.

Can I just say this post completely brought tears to my eyes. This is such a beautiful way to honor them. I personally will be honoring my grandparents who I was extremely close to, my grandfather was supposed to walk me down the isle. I will be doing this in a more silent way as I feel that I will get way to emotional if done any other way. It's not a very new idea but I will have two charms that have pictures of my grandparents from their wedding day and it will be attached to my bouquet. It will also be my something blue as there wedding colors where blue so it will be attached with a blue ribbon.

So....in other words.......the people who agreed with you, you'll listen to. The people that you dont'....you'll ignore.

Gotcha.

We are doing a memorial table outside the reception hall at the entrance.

We are doing charms with pictures since both of our mother's are deceased.

I want to get a locket for my bouquet and we'll have a small table set aside at the reception venue. Empty chairs are super hard. Hopefully something like the picture. I lost my dad four years ago and we were super close. As much as it sucks, I don't want it to be the focus of the wedding. I want to do something as a remembrance but more like a silent nod, not a huge deal.

ETA should have read the comments before posting since you'll most likely ignore my post.

My mother passed when I was a kid, and all of the grandparents are gone. My father was fighting cancer when I got engaged. I asked him about the empty seat/chair for Mom, He looked at me and said " Please, NO, just no, I don't think I could handle that". That was enough for me, she had been gone 28 years at that point. My father ended up passing about 2.5 months before the planned day. I ended with my legal wedding in his hospital room. When the planned day came, I wore my Moms wedding set (also at the hospital) and her necklace from her wedding. I had both my Grandma's rings pinned in my dress. We did a memorial table in the back of the venue with pictures from my parents and both grandparents wedding, and also pictures of his grandparents. I had a custom vase engraved in honor of my parents and filled with wax to match the wedding and used it as a candle that day. Its now on display in our home.

@Meagen a memorial table doesnt sound like a bad idea they are really stuck on the empty chair and her fave flower but im always open to giving other suggestions its our wedding but i want FHs family to have final say over how to honor her im cool with whatever they decide.

@Celia, just because you gave your suggestion doesn't mean she has to follow it. She acknowledged it respectfully....is that not enough?

@OP, it seems you have taken all the necessary steps to make sure that this will be a beautiful memorial as you intend. Especially noting they have honored this person like this in the past and it was received well, I don't see why it would be an issue. Good luck!

Thanks so much @Mrs.E im always open to new ideas just didnt like feeling put down like we chose the worst option lol

Im really excited in whatever we finalize doing

It happens a lot on these forums unfortunately. I'm sure whatever you decide will be beautiful

Then you just go with it.

For the record, my group of offiicants have done close to 2500 ceremonies, and we all know that as the officiant, we can only bring half of the experience to the ceremony. The other half is contributed by the audience. I have seen ceremonies completely derailed by the "empty chair".

There is nothing asshole-like about what I posted, and I flagged you for that.

Do whatever you want. You will anyway. But know that your FH's relatives who have also lost that person may not relish the graphic representation of his mother. Losing a parent is a very tragic thing and that needs to be handled with care. You obviously didn't like my suggestion, but I encourage you to think about what that will feel like on the day.

I have two little sisters who are both my MOH. I am the oldest sister and my youngest sister just passed right before Christmas. I spoke with my officiant and he will briefly mention my sister in the beginning of the ceremony. My middle sister will mention our little sister in her speech and I plan on having her shoes with us at the wedding( just there with us). I would have had her dress but my mom wanted her in it for the viewing and they cremated her with her MOH dress on.

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@Ashmar, my prayers to you. I can't even imagine how tragic this is for your family. I wish you joy on your wedding day.

@celia. <3

@irina the locket / charm is a beautiful idea . Thanks!

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