Anyone have to deal with family or friends getting married near their date?

How close are we talking? I'd say anything beyond a couple weeks just suck it up.

and the only reason why I say a "couple of weeks" is due to convenience of families if the guest lists are many of the same people, so that families aren't forced to choose one event or the other (ex having to take off time from work so close together, or having to travel for each).

Ugh. My niece just got engaged...and suddenly all the focus has shifted to her when our wedding is less than 2 months away. I'm not dealing with it well...

No offense, but you should just suck it up. They can have their wedding any day they'd like. As long as it's not the SAME day as your's, I doubt they're even thinking about it being close to your's.

I guess it depends on how close the date is and who is paying for it. You said your sister, so would that mean your parents are coming out of pocket for both weddings?

To be honest, I wouldn't take it as rude. While I was planning I had wanted to set the date for this Fall, but I couldn't find a darn venue that was available! It just could be based on what's open in that area.

FH cousin is getting married June 1st ours is Sept 14th. He has a HUGE close family and I mean all cousins are close. It didn't bother me or her one bit. In fact we have bounced ideas off each other, I have helped her out by finding things she couldn't find. We vent together about stuff lol. I actually enjoyed it all. I think the limelight should be on her now for her shower and wedding. After hers is over it will be my turn. I dunno stuff like that doesn't bother me. It's not like anyone has to CHOSE between us or you for that matter. Everyone gets their own day to shine Good luck

I didn't have problems of family/friends choosing a date close to mine however I did recieve some drama from my brother about the date I chose.

He got engaged in December 2010. Wedding date was September 2012.

I got engaged September 2011 Wedding date set for May 2012.

He was all upset that I chose a date before him (expressed to my mom, never directly to me), however I was not wanting to have a long engagement so I wasn't going to wait until 2013 to get married just because of him. I was respectful in planning it 4 months ahead of theirs so there would be a decent amount of time in between but I wasn't going to let anyone else dictate when I would get married.

People have lives that don't revolve around yours. At some point you need to accept that they are going to do what works best for them and their timeline and suck it up.

Ugh. A bride gets ONE DAY - not a week, a month, or a year. Unless you know 100% for a fact that someone is choosing a date near yours just to spite you, stay quiet and suck it up. Especially if they're planning a wedding for this September - there could be a million reasons that they're having a short engagement, and most likely, it's not because they're out to get you.

ETA: I want to explain what may be going on, because you're new to the boards and don't know my story. FH and I were supposed to get married in June 2014. We chose 2014 because we literally had a dozen weddings to attend in 2013. Well, my grandfather was diagnosed with liver cancer and is dying. FH's grandfather isn't much better off. So we moved the date up ten months in an attempt to have them there, and our new date is now 13 days after FH's friend's wedding. It was the only date that worked for our families' and vendors' schedules. If the other bride tried to accuse me of stealing her thunder, I would go off.

(Cont) and just because the recently engaged girls are in your family doesn't mean there isn't something going on on their FH's side. So cut em some slack and embrace having a buddy to plan with - they may need all the support they can get. For me right now, work and wedding planning is the only thing keeping me from going crazy with sadness and frustration. It'd kill me if someone thought I was stealing their thunder.

It all depends on how close.... My cousin put his wedding date the weekend after mine...and mine was the far away one...None of them are coming to my wedding(in fact most didn't even bother to respond to my invite and didn't bother to invite me to my cousin's wedding...wtf). I had my date set and everybody knew by the time they got engaged...I consider that very rude.

I think it would be annoying (I can understand why you are frustrated,) but not necessarily rude of them unless it's 1-2 weeks away from yours. I would get my invites out firs though...

My brother's wedding is 5 weeks after mine in a different city and with a whole different subset of people. My extended family won't be invited to my brother's wedding so it's just my immediate family. I could not care less!

I sort of had this issue- here's the low down and dirty. We both got engaged around the same time, both excited both considering September weddings. Family members are gonna have to travel so we were thinking maybe the same weekend. Our FH's wanted different days for different reasons so that was when the issues started. Our family was going to have to pick which wedding to come to and since mine is first she didn't think anyone would come to hers. It's an ongoing battle and I'm pretty sure the reason I was asked about pre-RSVP